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Divorced epicurean dad, creative professional.
Loves books, ideas, culture, non fiction, jazz and rocknroll and
folk and blues. Visual arts. Decidedly liberal.
A relationship would be nice, but I'm just as interested in
enduring friendships with other fun iconoclasts.
Out of the box. Love the hearth as the center of the home with
cooking and music and wine going on. Friends dropping in. (Wanna
tune up your mandolin?)
Intellectually curious, emotionally generous, sensually
indefatigable. (I did say "sensually" ....)
Casual sex? Sure, but not without some connections. Not into
one-offs, careless drivers, nihilistic interactions.
I love the DC area. So many smart, dedicated people here. There is
a very definite hard left brain preponderance though ...
Playful, not afraid to be ridiculous, but also kind of a serious
CableSpurner should’ve been my handle. I'm indifferent to a lot of
tv and professional sports. (I do love the f*ck out of Downton and
(Don't you just want to be happy (Nay - Ecstatic!) all the
How disgusting, right? It must be some kind of flash back. From
that Abba concert.)
"Hetero-flexibility?" More of a political statement than
If our society spent 100th of the energy it pisses away on the
obscenity of pro sports on the multiverse of sexuality we'd be a
much happier, healthier bunch. So says I.
Keywords: Atheist, GGG, Buddhish, esthetics, “Varieties of
religious experience," beginner's mind, queer, sapiosexual, post-op
TransJungian (I thought I was an ENTJ all these years, but it turns
out I’m an ENFP! Maybe I just grew). Grace. I really believe in
practicing grace in relationships.
So much kindness to be shared.
Workaholics, narcissists, and befuddled babes, please pass me by.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Making smoochy faces at you from across the party while you knit
your brows at the conversation you're not really sure you're
We make certain the other's having a nice time. Randomly show up
with a fresh drink or napkin of snacks, drop a nuzzle, a knowing
smile. Toodle off, or not. Just a dream.
Bohemian daddy on the fringes of bucolic bureaucratic Arlington,
Photographer, mainly of DC type events, conferences, hearings, the
like. I find my way into local print.
Being a dedicated dad to a 13 year old babe who sings and writes
and who I'm sure will destroy organic chemistry before I've had a
chance to really say anything to her. We sing shins songs together.
She's a big part of my social life and I just honestly gotta say I
strongly disapprove of single parents pimping their kids on
Baking, singing, painting, hiking and biking on the W&OD. She
got a cool Ibanez this year. I got a new Strat. But drums are my
Painting, printing big photos, yoga, biking, running, scrabble are
also in the mix. Veggie gardening.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Arm chair hermeneutics.
Subverting the Halloween-Confectionary-Industrial-Complex by
handing out non candy things ... baby bell peppers, or little
scripts of spooky jokes. Having friends from the local needle
exchange jump out of the bushes ... (That would be a pretty spooky
one, huh?!) ...
Being both gentle and imperious.
Whistling. Repertoire ranges from Vivaldi to Talking Heads to Black
Eyed Peas. Book me now ...
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm tall, dark, and apparently not too hard on the eyes. I'm
generally low key but have a stealth theatrical personality, and
can burst into obscure pop songs from across era's.
A wee bit irascible. Some say arrogant. But it's usually
underscored with implicit irony/humor. I think I'm pretty self
I'm deliberate with words.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Music: Super eclectic. From indie to great Jazz classics. Miles,
British invasion, roots RnB. Really love the Shins/James
TV: I refuse to pay comcast etc so I do roku . Jenji Kohan is a
Film: Either of the Andersons, Tarantino, Linklater, I like going
to Washington Film Institute things.
Books: Light but smart blow-your-head-off fiction? Hard to beat Tom
Robbins. P-p-Palahniuk, (sp?) The Birth of Tragedy, Hitchens,
Bourdain, Reichl, Guns Germs and Steel, Candide, Cloud Atlas,
Auster, lots of nonfiction - history, philosophy, criticism. A dear
departed love gave me copies of Anne Carson's "Autobiography of
Red," and Yourcenar's "Memoirs of Hadrian," among other fine
titles, and I'm so grateful to have known her as I did.
New York Review of Books
The Atlantic online
This American Life (Used to play basketball with Alex and Nancy,
and some other acquaintances in Wicker Park. Hadn't had any contact
in years when I was on the Whitehurst and heard Nancy reporting
from a HumVee in Iraq. Uughh. Wept. Scared the crap out of me
listening to her voice. I never knew her that well. Dating my
housemate at the time.
Cohen's "Hallelujah" is one of the most sly and beautiful
testaments to art and faith ever. Weather Report's Heavy Weather
album (so famous for the ubiquitous "Birdland") is a great
recording. Listen to the lyricism in Zawinul's solos on "A Remark
Art: Vermeer, Morandi, Matisse, DeKooning, Richter,
Food? I identify with Anthony Bourdain quite a bit, and have some
skills - French, Chinese.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Sloth, envy, gluttony, lust, pride, wrath ...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why is that when I click on a link to a Donna Tartt article, I get
a big Neiman Marcus pop-up?
Beginner's mind. Oh. Nothing.
Elspeth Beard on her BMW R60
OkC: I get that a guy should initiate (though I have no problem
with women who do so.)
I also I get that it's pretty easy to flick to the right sometimes
a bit mindlessly. So, yes. I receive "likes" that I barely glance
Wanna let me know your "like" was more than a distracted
thumb-flick while sipping your skim latte? You could pop in for
repeat visit over the course of a couple days to discreetly signal
Or help a guy out with something quick and dirty: "You. Me. Lunch.
This week. The Phillips Collection."
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Playing music with friends, out for a movie; watching Dr. Who and
baking bread and pies with my darling young one.
I'd like to go dancing more. With a petite ravenous cherub-bitch.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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My grandiosity. My misanthropy.
I'm just coming off a Netflix Californication bender. (And
honestly, I think Karen is the problem.)
I want a girl who's mainly (skeptically) monogamous, and who's into
occasionally sharing one another with fun friends.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Saying stuff like: "Yes Sir ..." makes your heart beat a little
Playing in the kitchen together warms the cockles of your
For such an even-keeled grrl you really are pretty jazzy. Few would
know how adventurous you are, and even fewer would realize that
Tracy and Mark whom we just met at that party, are following, back
to our place. Cause they're smart, funny, and hawt ...
You want an earnest adventurous ethical playmate for hanging out
and/or weighing potentials.
You get the Dionysian/Apollonian thing.
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