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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 35-55
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
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Straight, Sapiosexual, Heteroflexible
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
6' 0" (1.83m)
Body Type
Atheism and it’s important
Post grad
Has kid(s)
English (Fluently), French (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Divorced epicurean dad, creative professional. Ironic, irreverent.

Nice, pretty well rounded kinky man. Civic minded Bon vivant. But Discreet. Tasteful in most things. I'm just a little freaky.... So if you are too, and you appreciate the intimacy, self knowledge, significance of authentically being yourself ... Read on?

Can't see "likes," but if you shoot me a short pleasant overture, after due diligence, I'll probably reply.

Seeking a wise, fit, mischievous sex goddess for a BFF; making some wonderful friends along the way.

Believes in: tending ones own garden; a room of one's own; fighting bourgeois complacency without being a snotty liberal "church lady" scold; having friends who can share historical and political outrage together; expressing rather than stifling healthy anger; not really giving a damn if some coffee grinds find their way into the recycling; in short, gracious, foul mouth, cynical girls.

I'm interested in joy, compassion, and human potential. If you really believe in Whitman's verse "containing multitudes...?"

Books, ideas, culture, non fiction, jazz and rocknroll and folk and blues. Visual arts. Decidedly liberal.

"The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift."

At the same time, I often feel we have grievously lost track of the servant as well.

Out of the box. Love the hearth as the center of the home with cooking and music and wine going on. Friends dropping in. (Wanna tune up your mandolin?)

Intellectually curious, emotionally generous. Charmingly irascible.

Not into one-offs, careless drivers, nihilistic interactions.

I love the DC area. So many smart, dedicated people here. There is a very definite hard left brain preponderance though ...

Playful, not afraid to be ridiculous, but also kind of a serious guy.

Keywords: Atheist, GGG, Buddhish, esthetics, “Varieties of religious experience," beginner's mind, queer, sapiosexual.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Making smoochy faces at you from across the party while you knit your brows at the conversation you're not really sure you're in.

We make certain the other's having a nice time. Randomly show up with a fresh drink or napkin of snacks, drop a nuzzle, a knowing smile. Toodle off, or not. Just a dream.

Bohemian daddy on the fringes of bucolic bureaucratic Arlington, Photographer, mainly of DC type events, conferences, hearings, the like. I find my way into local print.

Being a dedicated dad to a 13 year old babe who sings and writes and who I'm sure will destroy organic chemistry before I've had a chance to really say anything to her. We sing shins songs together. Check us out on the waterfront in Old Town sometime!

Baking, singing, painting, hiking and biking on the W&OD. She got a cool Ibanez this year. I got a new Strat. But drums are my main instrument.

Painting, printing big photos, yoga, biking, running, scrabble are also in the mix. Veggie gardening.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Arm chair hermeneutics.

Subverting the Halloween-Confectionary-Industrial-Complex by handing out non candy things ... baby bell peppers, or little scripts of spooky jokes. Having friends from the local needle exchange jump out of the bushes ... (That would be a pretty spooky one, huh?!) ...

Being both gentle and imperious.

Child-like wonder

Whistling. Repertoire ranges from Vivaldi to Talking Heads to Black Eyed Peas. Book me now ...


The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I gather I have a somewhat intimidating presence which is not at all conveyed in these images bc obviously I don't have people around taking pictures when I'm just involved with something.

I'm deliberate with words.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Music: Super eclectic. From indie to great Jazz classics. Miles, British invasion, roots RnB. Really love the Shins/James Mercer

TV: I refuse to pay comcast etc so I do roku . Jenji Kohan is a great prophet.

Film: Either of the Andersons, Tarantino, Linklater, I like going to Washington Film Institute things.

Books: Light but smart blow-your-head-off fiction? Hard to beat Tom Robbins. Palahniuk, (sp?) The Birth of Tragedy, Hitchens, Bourdain, Reichl, Guns Germs and Steel, Candide, Cloud Atlas, Auster, lots of nonfiction - history, philosophy, criticism. Anne Carson's "Autobiography of Red," and Yourcenar's "Memoirs of Hadrian"

New York Review of Books
The Atlantic online
PhotoDistrict News

This American Life (Used to play basketball with Alex and Nancy, and some other acquaintances in Wicker Park.) Hadn't had any contact in years when I was on the Whitehurst and heard Nancy reporting from a HumVee in Iraq. Uughh. Wept.

Cohen's "Hallelujah" is one of the most sly and beautiful testaments to art and faith ever. Weather Report's Heavy Weather album (so famous for the ubiquitous "Birdland") is a great recording. Listen to the lyricism in Zawinul's solos on "A Remark You Made."

Art: Vermeer, Morandi, Matisse, DeKooning, Richter, Diebenkorn

Food? I identify with Anthony Bourdain quite a bit, and have some skills - French, Chinese.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Sloth, envy, gluttony, lust, pride, wrath ...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why is that when I click on a link to a Donna Tartt article, I get a big Neiman Marcus pop-up?

Beginner's mind. Oh. Nothing.

How Sanders can win.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Playing music with friends, out for a movie; watching Dr. Who and baking bread and pies with my darling young one.

I'd like to go dancing more.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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My grandiosity. My misanthropy.

I want a kinky affectionate woman who's into occasionally sharing one another with fun friends; who loves our energy and can talk about anything.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Saying stuff like: "Yes Sir ..." makes your heart beat a little faster.

Playing in the kitchen together warms the cockles of your Creuset.

For such an even-keeled grrl you really are pretty jazzy. Few would know how adventurous you are, and even fewer would realize that Tracy and Mark whom we just met at that party, are following, back to our place.

You want an earnest adventurous ethical playmate for hanging out and/or weighing potentials.

You get the Dionysian/Apollonian thing.