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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 35–55
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, casual sex

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Last online
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Straight, Sapiosexual
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Leo, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Art / Music / Writing
Mostly non-monogamous
Has a kid
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Poorly)
My self-summary
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Divorced epicurean dad, creative professional. Mostly irreverent.

I'm interested in human potential. If you really believe in Whitman's verse "containing multitudes...?"

Books, ideas, culture, non fiction, jazz and rocknroll and folk and blues. Visual arts. Decidedly liberal.

The BMW is not a toy, nor the badge of a club. It's simply a values statement.

"The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift."

At the same time, I often feel we have grievously lost track of the servant as well.

Out of the box. Love the hearth as the center of the home with cooking and music and wine going on. Friends dropping in. (Wanna tune up your mandolin?)

Intellectually curious, emotionally generous. Charmingly irascible.

Not into one-offs, careless drivers, nihilistic interactions.

I love the DC area. So many smart, dedicated people here. There is a very definite hard left brain preponderance though ...

Playful, not afraid to be ridiculous, but also kind of a serious guy b

Keywords: Atheist, GGG, Buddhish, esthetics, “Varieties of religious experience," beginner's mind, queer, sapiosexual.

Workaholics, narcissists, and befuddled babes, please pass me by.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Making smoochy faces at you from across the party while you knit your brows at the conversation you're not really sure you're in.

We make certain the other's having a nice time. Randomly show up with a fresh drink or napkin of snacks, drop a nuzzle, a knowing smile. Toodle off, or not. Just a dream.

Bohemian daddy on the fringes of bucolic bureaucratic Arlington, Photographer, mainly of DC type events, conferences, hearings, the like. I find my way into local print.

Being a dedicated dad to a 13 year old babe who sings and writes and who I'm sure will destroy organic chemistry before I've had a chance to really say anything to her. We sing shins songs together. She's a big part of my social life and I just honestly gotta say I strongly disapprove of single parents pimping their kids on here.

Baking, singing, painting, hiking and biking on the W&OD. She got a cool Ibanez this year. I got a new Strat. But drums are my main instrument.

Painting, printing big photos, yoga, biking, running, scrabble are also in the mix. Veggie gardening.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Arm chair hermeneutics.

Subverting the Halloween-Confectionary-Industrial-Complex by handing out non candy things ... baby bell peppers, or little scripts of spooky jokes. Having friends from the local needle exchange jump out of the bushes ... (That would be a pretty spooky one, huh?!) ...

Being both gentle and imperious.

Child-like wonder

Whistling. Repertoire ranges from Vivaldi to Talking Heads to Black Eyed Peas. Book me now ...


The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm tall, dark, and apparently not too hard on the eyes. I'm generally low key but have a stealth theatrical personality, and can burst into obscure pop songs from across era's.

A wee bit irascible. Some say arrogant. But it's usually underscored with implicit irony/humor. I think I'm pretty self aware.

I'm deliberate with words.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Music: Super eclectic. From indie to great Jazz classics. Miles, British invasion, roots RnB. Really love the Shins/James Mercer

TV: I refuse to pay comcast etc so I do roku . Jenji Kohan is a great prophet.

Film: Either of the Andersons, Tarantino, Linklater, I like going to Washington Film Institute things.

Books: Light but smart blow-your-head-off fiction? Hard to beat Tom Robbins. P-p-Palahniuk, (sp?) The Birth of Tragedy, Hitchens, Bourdain, Reichl, Guns Germs and Steel, Candide, Cloud Atlas, Auster, lots of nonfiction - history, philosophy, criticism. A dear departed love gave me copies of Anne Carson's "Autobiography of Red," and Yourcenar's "Memoirs of Hadrian," among other fine titles, and I'm so grateful to have known her as I did.

New York Review of Books
The Atlantic online
PhotoDistrict News

This American Life (Used to play basketball with Alex and Nancy, and some other acquaintances in Wicker Park. Hadn't had any contact in years when I was on the Whitehurst and heard Nancy reporting from a HumVee in Iraq. Uughh. Wept. Scared the crap out of me listening to her voice. I never knew her that well. Dating my housemate at the time.

Cohen's "Hallelujah" is one of the most sly and beautiful testaments to art and faith ever. Weather Report's Heavy Weather album (so famous for the ubiquitous "Birdland") is a great recording. Listen to the lyricism in Zawinul's solos on "A Remark You Made."

Art: Vermeer, Morandi, Matisse, DeKooning, Richter, Diebenkorn

Food? I identify with Anthony Bourdain quite a bit, and have some skills - French, Chinese.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Sloth, envy, gluttony, lust, pride, wrath ...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why is that when I click on a link to a Donna Tartt article, I get a big Neiman Marcus pop-up?

Beginner's mind. Oh. Nothing.

Elspeth Beard on her BMW R60

The bike.

Containing multitudes.

OkC: I get that a guy should initiate (though I have no problem with women who do so.)

I also I get that it's pretty easy to flick to the right sometimes a bit mindlessly. So, yes. I receive "likes" that I barely glance at.

Wanna let me know your "like" was more than a distracted thumb-flick while sipping your skim latte? You could pop in for repeat visit over the course of a couple days to discreetly signal me.

Or help a guy out with something quick and dirty: "You. Me. Lunch. This week. The Phillips Collection."

On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Playing music with friends, out for a movie; watching Dr. Who and baking bread and pies with my darling young one.

I'd like to go dancing more. With a petite ravenous cherub-bitch.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My grandiosity. My misanthropy.

I'm just coming off a Netflix Californication bender. (And honestly, I think Karen is the problem.)

I want a girl who's mainly (skeptically) monogamous, and who's into occasionally sharing one another with fun friends.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Saying stuff like: "Yes Sir ..." makes your heart beat a little faster.

Playing in the kitchen together warms the cockles of your Creuset.

For such an even-keeled grrl you really are pretty jazzy. Few would know how adventurous you are, and even fewer would realize that Tracy and Mark whom we just met at that party, are following, back to our place. Cause they're smart, funny, and hawt ... bitches.

You want an earnest adventurous ethical playmate for hanging out and/or weighing potentials.

You get the Dionysian/Apollonian thing.