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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 30–55
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 1:17pm
Hispanic / Latin
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Other, and laughing about it
Virgo, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from Ph.D program
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently), Ancient Greek (Okay), Latin (Okay)
My self-summary
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I am a kind & intelligent guy who is very grounded in my family & friends. I love to read and spend part of my time doing community-building work. I am a researcher by profession, but see that as a result of my love of being a student. One of my dreams is to write a novel some day & find a great like-minded person to share the adventures of living. I am also a solid Leftist and a person of religious faith ( a bit of a mystic really). I know this is an odd combination in the US, but if you can't deal with either or both of these things, it's best to connect with other folks than me.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
The only thing I really have to do with my life is use each day to learn and love. The rest is really details. In my case, one of the important details is that I am a cultural & medical anthropologist who specializes in alternative sexual and gender cultures in the US.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening to people and connecting them with good reads and like-minded souls. I love to see my friends connect and build supportive friendships. I'm relentlessly gregarious and a social hub in a way. I notice shy people connect with me easily for some reason. Perhaps because I find them intriguing and know they have an awesome inner life. My sister says I am a collector of people and ideas and never things. Little sisters do have their special
charms and insights after all.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm funny and smart and like to make people feel they are the center of my attention when we talk because they are.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Book: One Hundred Years of Solitude, The Motion of Light in Water, The Visible & the Invisible, The Kingdom of This World, Stars in My Pocket Like Grains of Sand, Grundrisse, The Phenomenology of the Spirit, & Black Reconstruction. To be perfectly honest, I read books the way some people eat donuts. I am an unreconstructed bibliophile and voracious reader. So, if you cannot appreciate the pleasures of the text, you won't ever get me.
Movies: Casablanca, M, Breathless, To Have & To Have Note, Film Noir, Metropolis, & The Cabinet of Dr. Caligari.
Shows: Iron Chef
Music: Jazz, Experimental Music, 1970's Salsa, & Bruce Springsteen.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. My PC
2. My books
3. Pandora
4. Egg Creams
5. Asparagus
6. Beautiful Ties
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Writing my first ethnography and my first novel --- in that order. But, I could live with doing it the other way around.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I like to relax at home or just go to a lounge.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I once subscribed to the National Review when I was in high school.
You should message me if
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You have an open mind, like to think new thoughts, abhor idle chatter, meet my marvelous 5-year-old & 1-year-old nieces (I'm their part-time man servant), believe that the verb form of revolution is love, and would like to try my cooking.