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70 • Oakland, CA • Man
I’m looking for
- Ages 40–62
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
- Last online
- Yesterday – 10:23pm
- 6′ 4″ (1.93m)
- Body type
- A little extra
- Likes dogs and likes cats
Listening to others.
Listening to music. (And often humming, singing, and/or dancing, and occasionally jamming/improvising.)
Spending time with friends and students, in activities and, often, in long conversations.
Learning from my students. (The transcendent gift to any teacher.)
Learning the intricacies of home-buying, while actively house hunting.
Corresponding, often tardily, sometimes very tardily.
Traveling. (Most of the U.S.; much/most of Western Europe, esp. Germany and Sweden; England; some of Canada & Mexico; Bermuda; Iceland)
Swimming. (Former college and masters swimmer)
Being, and doing things, around water. (Canoeing, body surfing, rowing, tidepooling, wading, beachwalking, skindiving, etc.)
Trying, undaunted by my track record, to get organized.
Attempting to get back to my formerly very productive workout pleasures, lost in a soon-to-be-lessened few years' work overload. (Ditto, tai chi, camping, and other fun habits.)
Meditating, alone and in sitting communities.
Trying to look serious (when called upon to do so).
Playing with children and animals any time the opportunity appears.
Digitizing some of my overly large music collection.
Staying in touch with geographically distant family and friends.
Gazing off dreamily.
Getting back to work.
Being sensitive to others.
Understanding what I'm reading.
Listening to what someone is saying, and for what that someone is
trying to say.
Sustaining analytic thought.
Solving (some) puzzles.
Solving (some) problems.
Impressing my little sister.
(My big sister, probably not so much.)
Being patient with people.
Driving very long distances.
Gently teasing people I like when unable to resist it.
Admiring those from whom I learn in any fashion.
Providing literate conversation.
Seeing amusing angles in situations... sometimes including
situations which are, in themselves, not in any way amusing.
Appreciating literature, music, film, and related arts.
Examining issues from more than one viewpoint.
Working with people who are interested in working with me,
irrespective of their other assets or liabilities.
Collecting cool and covertly cool knowledge.
Collecting cool and covertly cool items.
Offering genuine compliments.
Doing certain kinds of small repair and maintenance work.
Using the English language with reasonable precision.
Appreciating the beautiful and remarkable in things and people,
whether or not those things are generally noticed.
Enjoying the happiness of others.
Putting off completing things like this.
Movies: Ones-of-a-kind, rather than generic. Old musicals and screwball comedies. Documentaries. Films that edify. Examples at random:
Close Encounters of the Third Kind. Diva. A Man For All Seasons.
Henry V (Branaugh). The Princess Bride. The Wild Bunch. Ikiru.
Latcho Drom. Altered States. The Mexican. Les Triplettes de Belleville. Walkabout. Wings of Desire. Woman in the Dunes.
Lord of the Rings. Annie Hall. Yojimbo/Sanjuro. Fly Away Home.
Hoop Dreams. Schindler's List. My Life as a Dog. Gandhi. Daddy Long Legs. Atlantic City. The Deer Hunter. What's Up, Doc? Dances With Wolves. The Thirty-Nine Steps (original version).
Seven Samurai. His Girl Friday. Shoah. Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon. A Night at the Opera. Paths of Glory. Mary Poppins.
Jules et Jim. Never Cry Wolf. King of Hearts. Grapes of Wrath.
Repulsion. The Wizard of Oz. Weapons of the Spirit. Truly, Madly, Deeply. Groundhog Day. One special favorite which I eagerly recommend to anyone, adult or child: The Man Who Planted Trees.
Music: Inveterate music listener and explorer from infancy. Self-taught former hack jazz & blues pianist. A cappella of any flavor from any culture entrances me. Fascinated by harmonic richness, esp. if sustained; but also intrigued by the simple melodic "sturdiness" and sweetness of various folk musics. Strongly rhythmical music moves me to dance: e.g., zydeco, R 'n' B, Afro-Cuban, soul -- you bet; Swedish hambo -- not really. However, much of my "pure listening" music is much subtler rhythmically. Large music collection.
Food: No special culinary/gourmet knowledge. (Exception: finely honed preferences re: red licorice.) I appreciate the human, often communal, engagement in preparing and sharing food -- though in the Great Kitchen Divide I am firmly in the ranks of the dishwashers, rather than the cooks. I tend to appreciate and enjoy the food I'm served, and have found nearly all of the many American, European, African, Indian, Polynesian, and Asian dishes I've experienced to be interesting, enjoyable, and satisfying, especially in the company of others. I normally prefer the less highly spiced foods, but dive in on occasion.
Being in, on, or around water
Happiness in people
....Also, lately, occasionally Skypeing with some foreign friends.
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