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PLEASE NOTE
1/27/12: Unfortunately, I'm currently dealing with a rather large life event, so if I take a while to respond to you, please don't be offended. Everything's just a bit... explodey right now. Thanks for your patience.
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Hello! It's been a while since I last tried to summarize myself. I wonder if I'm still terrible at it.
First things first: I am a very introverted person. I'm not socially inept or awkward, I just prefer to spend a majority of my time alone.
However, that said, I realized when I woke up one morning that I literally have one friend I'm actually close to (and she lives with me). I have others, but I hardly ever see them, and I lose them often because I'm so terrible about initiating contact.
I'm not looking to suddenly become a social butterfly or anything. I just don't want to hit thirty and realize I forgot to do anything interesting with my youth. I want to occasionally leave my house and experience some new things now and then.
Secondly, I'm not really bisexual. I'm not interested in sex. I'm pretty much just here in search of new friends. Platonic friends. I want women to be able to see my profile too, because I would like some more female friends too.
Random biographical bits:
I grew up in southern Alberta and still miss the Chinook winds sometimes.
I currently live in a rented apartment with the abovementioned awesome roommate and four adorable (if somewhat rotund) cats. I work two jobs, one of which is boring. The other is stylistically copyediting novels for a local vanity press (often a headache and a half, but I must admit it's never boring).
My hobbies include writing (fiction, generally in the sci-fi/fantasy area), watching silly Japanese cartoons, ziplining, colouring my hair, copyediting badly scanned ebooks, building my truly eclectic (and rather massive) music collection, and climbing trees.
Interests include oneirology, folklore, quantum physics, gender politics, astronomy, long hair, and surrealism.
As for my personality: aside from the introversion, I'm most often described as "kind" and "thoughtful" by others who know me fairly well. I've also been told I'm intelligent, eloquent, and very open-minded and nonjudgmental.
I am very nearly incapable of anger, and can't maintain it even if someone does manage to push enough of my buttons. I can't hold a grudge longer than five minutes. (I don't have a lot of dramatic emotional ups and downs period, but I am capable of properly expressing them when they do show up.)
I keep the secrets told to me. I care very little about keeping my own.
I have a wicked sense of humour, but it's not obvious at first (I don't tend to crack jokes until I know what you'll laugh at). I can on occasion be very silly.
I'm a very good listener. I'm learning to be a better talker, slowly.
Since I prefer to be upfront about my faults, I'll list those, too: I'm somewhat prone to apathetic, anhedonic depression (working on that). I have a terrible habit of assuming responsibility and subsequent guilt for things that aren't my fault (possibly the after-effects of growing up as the eldest of seven children in a mixed family). I can come across as aloof, despite my best efforts to be warm and approachable. My emotions are less intense than the average person's, so relationships with me can start to feel a little unequal after a while if I can't keep up. I'm not very courageous. I'm also not very good at saying no. There are of course others, but those are the major ones, I think.
As for what I want from this site... ideally, what I'm really looking for is a cuddle buddy. I'm not very interested in being sexually active, but I love to be touched and held. If I could find one person I like who's willing to hug me and stroke my hair and snuggle up while we watch TV, I'd be content.
(Side note: I am especially weak against atheists, musicians, and long hair.)
Disclaimer: I do have a rather hideous history of prolonged sexual abuse. I reacted to it a bit strangely, though: instead of becoming afraid of being touched, I'm afraid of touching other people. I have an unshakeable conviction that I'm not welcome in their space, and I'm constantly terrified of making them feel uncomfortable. If someone could help me through that, that would be a wonderful bonus, but I don't expect it.
Otherwise, while I obviously want someone more outgoing than me, I absolutely still need a lot of time alone, so if you're the type to show up unexpectedly at all hours and drag me out every day, I'm afraid that won't work. I need someone with a healthy respect for solitude, who won't take it personally if I don't have the energy to go out every time I'm asked.
I realize that I'm being a bit unreasonably specific, but I figure it can't hurt to say what I actually want rather than hoping someone hits the bull's eye by sheer accidental chance.
If you're still interested, do send me a message, and we'll go from there.
PLEASE NOTE
1/27/12: Unfortunately, I'm currently dealing with a rather large life event, so if I take a while to respond to you, please don't be offended. Everything's just a bit... explodey right now. Thanks for your patience.
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Hello! It's been a while since I last tried to summarize myself. I wonder if I'm still terrible at it.
First things first: I am a very introverted person. I'm not socially inept or awkward, I just prefer to spend a majority of my time alone.
However, that said, I realized when I woke up one morning that I literally have one friend I'm actually close to (and she lives with me). I have others, but I hardly ever see them, and I lose them often because I'm so terrible about initiating contact.
I'm not looking to suddenly become a social butterfly or anything. I just don't want to hit thirty and realize I forgot to do anything interesting with my youth. I want to occasionally leave my house and experience some new things now and then.
Secondly, I'm not really bisexual. I'm not interested in sex. I'm pretty much just here in search of new friends. Platonic friends. I want women to be able to see my profile too, because I would like some more female friends too.
Random biographical bits:
I grew up in southern Alberta and still miss the Chinook winds sometimes.
I currently live in a rented apartment with the abovementioned awesome roommate and four adorable (if somewhat rotund) cats. I work two jobs, one of which is boring. The other is stylistically copyediting novels for a local vanity press (often a headache and a half, but I must admit it's never boring).
My hobbies include writing (fiction, generally in the sci-fi/fantasy area), watching silly Japanese cartoons, ziplining, colouring my hair, copyediting badly scanned ebooks, building my truly eclectic (and rather massive) music collection, and climbing trees.
Interests include oneirology, folklore, quantum physics, gender politics, astronomy, long hair, and surrealism.
As for my personality: aside from the introversion, I'm most often described as "kind" and "thoughtful" by others who know me fairly well. I've also been told I'm intelligent, eloquent, and very open-minded and nonjudgmental.
I am very nearly incapable of anger, and can't maintain it even if someone does manage to push enough of my buttons. I can't hold a grudge longer than five minutes. (I don't have a lot of dramatic emotional ups and downs period, but I am capable of properly expressing them when they do show up.)
I keep the secrets told to me. I care very little about keeping my own.
I have a wicked sense of humour, but it's not obvious at first (I don't tend to crack jokes until I know what you'll laugh at). I can on occasion be very silly.
I'm a very good listener. I'm learning to be a better talker, slowly.
Since I prefer to be upfront about my faults, I'll list those, too: I'm somewhat prone to apathetic, anhedonic depression (working on that). I have a terrible habit of assuming responsibility and subsequent guilt for things that aren't my fault (possibly the after-effects of growing up as the eldest of seven children in a mixed family). I can come across as aloof, despite my best efforts to be warm and approachable. My emotions are less intense than the average person's, so relationships with me can start to feel a little unequal after a while if I can't keep up. I'm not very courageous. I'm also not very good at saying no. There are of course others, but those are the major ones, I think.
As for what I want from this site... ideally, what I'm really looking for is a cuddle buddy. I'm not very interested in being sexually active, but I love to be touched and held. If I could find one person I like who's willing to hug me and stroke my hair and snuggle up while we watch TV, I'd be content.
(Side note: I am especially weak against atheists, musicians, and long hair.)
Disclaimer: I do have a rather hideous history of prolonged sexual abuse. I reacted to it a bit strangely, though: instead of becoming afraid of being touched, I'm afraid of touching other people. I have an unshakeable conviction that I'm not welcome in their space, and I'm constantly terrified of making them feel uncomfortable. If someone could help me through that, that would be a wonderful bonus, but I don't expect it.
Otherwise, while I obviously want someone more outgoing than me, I absolutely still need a lot of time alone, so if you're the type to show up unexpectedly at all hours and drag me out every day, I'm afraid that won't work. I need someone with a healthy respect for solitude, who won't take it personally if I don't have the energy to go out every time I'm asked.
I realize that I'm being a bit unreasonably specific, but I figure it can't hurt to say what I actually want rather than hoping someone hits the bull's eye by sheer accidental chance.
If you're still interested, do send me a message, and we'll go from there.
