Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Sapiosexual autonomous autodidact in search of my muse and my dance
I think most people would consider me a pretty normal guy — don't
smoke, drink to excess or have any seriously bad habits except for
a few cups of coffee a day which I plan to give up eventually. I am
socially liberal in part because I think legislating morality
within the gamut of "victimless" crimes causes more harm than good,
and politically liberal primarily because I don't trust Big
Business to put sustainability — environmental or fiscal — before
I was a Libertarian for many years until I figured out (1) their
entire system of economics was conceived of by the wealthy elite
for the wealthy elite, (2) they have no real plan for helping the
economically disadvantaged and (3) they have absolutely no plan for
dealing with negative externalities - businesses that offset a
portion of their costs by polluting or bailouts and thereby force
the rest of the world to pay for what they should be responsible
The ONLY way to deal effectively with such things is through,
respectively, that supposedly "evil" government welfare and
regulation conservatives are always claiming is about to bring
about the downfall of civilization. So if you're a member of the
Tea Party or think Sarah Palin and Glenn Beck are anything other
than disingenuous, intellectually vacuous shills for the ruling
class pandering to the morally and mentally deficient, somehow I
doubt we'll get along.
I grew up in Southern Arizona but the Oregon climate agrees with my
Northern European heritage. I love everything about Oregon in
general and Portland in particular. Eventually though at some point
I see myself migrating even further North to avoid the inevitable
advance of Anthropogenic Global Warming that some people are —
amazingly — still in complete denial about.
I'm a self-directed person, a geek who lives in books and computers
but also appreciates the value of physical activity and social
interaction. There's so much to see and learn and do, I wonder
sometimes how can anyone could ever be bored or depressed when life
offers such a smorgasbord of delicacies to choose from. Music,
dance, theater, movies, books, etc., so very much good out there
just aching to be explored and savored :-).
What I’m doing with my life
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I manage an apartment complex in SE Portland part-time, go to
school part-time and the rest of the time manage a couple of
internet-based businesses. One I've been doing for about twelve
years now — selling a line of non-toxic pest control products I
created, the other is in start-up mode and a consulting service
helping companies market their businesses online more effectively.
The ex and I were also professional network marketers for almost
ten years so now that the divorce and the various forms of
financial carnage it created are almost over I've decided to get
back into that too. Can't wait to see where that leads.
People often think I'm a conservative and have no real idea what
lies just beneath the surface. I play by the rules for my corporate
masters because I know what's expected of me, but deep down I
really don't care much what other people think because I've met so
few people who seem to be really happy and following their own
bliss. Of course we all have to do things we don't want to do to
pay the bills, but why should that mean giving up on our
As an entrepreneur with almost 20 years experience I know how to
make as much money as I need to get by or even live lavishly if I
choose, but I try to balance that drive for abundance with a deep
appreciation for each day and the beauty around me. Of course I'd
love to make millions and live a fabulous life in Europe, but I
also realize that each day is a gift and you shouldn't sacrifice
too much for what you may have down the road. So in addition to
working I read, spend WAY too much time on Facebook (It's
networking....right? LOL), learn French (something I've always
wanted to do) and play music. Right now it's mostly bass and flute,
but living in an apartment kinds of puts a damper on late-night
jazz flute jam sessions LOL.
My biggest project right now is probably learning how to dance. I
found some awesome dance studios and venues not far from here so I
try to get out and dance at least a couple of times a week. I'm
trying everything from ballroom to salsa to tango and just love
It's an interesting feeling - being grounded in a deep appreciation
for the moment while still dreaming for the future.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Everything I put my mind to, but I think I'm especially good
—Languages. I've always sensed that I love language -
especially the Romance languages - but I recently realized that I
enjoy everything about it from just the sound to the mastery of the
rules of syntax and grammar. I have some proficiency with Russian
and more so with Spanish, but now I'm focusing on French. I spend
probably a minimum of three to four hours a day either practicing
with Rosetta Stone or listening to conversational instruction CDs
and totally love it.
—Math and Physics. It never ceases to amaze me how much I
love math. It feels like I'm touching the essence of creation, or
peering into the inner workings of life. People often ask me what
I'd do with a math or physics degree and I can never give a
straight answer because I don't know. I don't do it because I want
to make money at it, I do it because I love it. I'm sure I'll at
least teach or tutor to some degree, but there are plenty of ways
to make money in the world especially if you pursue something
entrepreneurial. Apparently as a goal-set that's too amorphous to
many people. Oh well...
—Managing people (apartment management is all-too-often
little more than Adult Day Care LOL)
—Being a good friend. I'm exceptionally generous with people
I let into my life, sometimes to a fault.
—Arguing with obnoxious, inflexible, opinionated people on the
internet (okay, so maybe I'm not too proud of that one....)
The first things people usually notice about me
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People are always saying "You're tall!" when they meet me, but I
like to think my smile, then my generally amicable disposition,
then my large and generous spirit — though I suspect there is also
just below the surface an unsettling air of barely restrained,
primally masculine predation... ;-)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Movies & TV: Firefly, Serenity (basically
anything Joss Whedon does), Breaking Bad, Burn Notice, The Daily
Show, The Colbert Report, The Office, Weeds, Dexter, Eureka,
Warehouse 13, NCIS
Books: Too many to list favorites, but in science
fiction anything by Robert Heinlein, Terry Brooks or Norman Spinrad
Right now virtually all the reading I do is work-related (web
analytics, search-engine optimization or scripting languages) or
recreational chatting on social media, but here's a sample of books
I've read recently that I found exceptional and highly
Soulshaping: A Journey of Self-Creation (Amazing story of one man's
awakening into spirituality and how it impacted his life)
Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us
Switch: How to Change Things When Change is Hard
Long for The World: The Strange Science of Immortality.
Anything by Thom Hartmann, Naomi Klein or Chris Hedges is highly,
highly recommended for an understanding of our current political
and socioeconomic climate.
Music: Jazz and New Age mostly (I have Itunes
radio playing all day long), then classical and most kinds of rock
as long as it's intelligently composed and not just guttural
emotional noise. Lately I've been re-visiting my old favorites like
Rush, Yes, Frank Zappa and ELP and loving it but I'm also
constantly exploring other eclectic artists like John Zorn and
Bjork. So much music, so little time.... sigh.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Unless it's essentials for survival like food, air, water and the
ability to replicate, being unable to do without something implies
a biological inability to adapt and therefore an increased
probability of eventual extinction. So I can only assume they mean
things you're passionate about which enhance your life in ways that
make it better than just "getting along." (Gee, nothing
pretentiously pedantic about that...! he he)
Anyway, all pompous attempts at being clever aside, for me it would
—A balanced diet and healthy organic food
—Relationships and friendships with interesting people
—Dancing. I take dance lessons several nights a week at a wonderful
little studio in Sellwood and love it.
—Music, books and intelligently crafted drama (right now just
movies and tv, but eventually I really want to start exploring the
world of theater)
—Education and the Internet, or the ability to gather information
and explore the world scientifically and efficiently
—A sense of spiritual purpose and accomplishment
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Many, many things, but often how each moment is only as good as we
choose to perceive it!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Either out dancing or at a dance lesson. But on the rare days that
I'm not doing that, reading, studying or watching various
internet-based news sites and wondering why I'm not going out to
experience all that Portland has to offer instead. Hmmm...maybe I
just need the right person to explore it with...!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have an unshakable belief that people are fundamentally good at
the core and if you just give them the opportunity to shine they
will do so. Oh, and watching two women together really doesn't do
that much for me LOL.
You should message me if
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—you're passionate, creative, intelligent and emotionally
—you're exceptionally bright and often find yourself frustrated at
having to tone it down for most people.
—you live life on your own terms and don't let other people dictate
the nature of your reality.
—you've ever spontaneously said "frak!" in public and suddenly felt
embarrassed at what a frakkin' geek you are.
—you're a practitioner of Tantra or would like to be.
—you want a special relationship with someone you feel safe with,
and trust to be there when you need them.
—you're familiar with the work of Jeff Brown and Brené Brown and
don't think a man with emotional depth, sensitivity and
vulnerability is just a frikkin' wussy... ;-)
—you're looking for a dance partner and don't mind being with an
enthusiastic neophyte. Eight solid months of lessons in numerous
styles has made me realize dance is life and I don't want to ever
be without it.
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