I am a constantly learning, striving, growing, deep and complicated
45 year old man. I have a variety of interests but they tend NOT to
fit into the norm of gay 'culture.' I'm bored with the bar scene as
a lifestyle and never really fit into the club scene. I love
gardening, hiking, exploring, learning, being with my dog, holding
hands, movies.... not much I won't try once!
What I’m doing with my life
I started my own business about six years ago and I LOVE it...both
what I'm doing in my business but also just in having a business.
I'm exploring other directions to go both in my business...or maybe
in another. For the first time in my life, I feel financially in
control as well as having a job that I absolutely love.
I’m really good at
I tend not to give up once I've made a commitment and am extremely
forgiving of mistakes and flaws. This is an asset as well as a
flaw; in today's world, people give up pretty easily so I tend to
be the one walked away from.
I've also always been great at seeing things from another's point
of view. Perhaps because of this, I feel empathy physically, as a
electric feeling behind my knees
The first things people usually notice about me
My salt/pepper hair and my eyes
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I read a lot of science fiction...too many to list and too bad a
memory to remember, but loved the Dune series and Dhalgren is one
of my favorite books of all time. Non Sci-fi fav is probably "Mists
Favorite food is sushi but will eat almost anything. I've been a
'flexitarian' for about a year now...I am not opposed to eating
meat, but as s lifestyle I choose not to. Used to love: duck, fatty
meats, fois gras...yum! I don't really crave them; I also love big
salads with homemade dressing.
I'm bad about music..long story but just coming back to it. Tend to
like what i call: whiney women.
Totally open on movies...will go to see anything..but am especially
drawn to dark movies. Not horror, just dark. Recently saw "I Am
Love" with Tilda Swinton and LOVED it
The six things I could never do without
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I am always thinking and of a variety of things.
On a typical Friday night I am
From dinner with friends to cuddling with the dog.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
"Private" doesn't really compute with listing in an open online
Ok, I'm a very healthy HIV positive. I don't have an issue dating
someone who is not, but I do have an issue dating someone who is
not and is not comfortable with my being positive. It's ideal for
both of us that we are both positive, but love is love. I could
take care of you after your stroke much sooner than you might have
to take care of me. Don't set limits on yourself :)
You should message me if
you are looking for a companion, someone you can both lean on and