33 Millbury, MA
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My self-summary
To begin, I'm happily married to InkStainedShrew, and we've recently decided to try exploring a polyamorous lifestyle. This is the first non-monogamous relationship I've ever been in, so the whole thing is very new to me, and frankly I'm a bit nervous and unsure of how to proceed.

That being said, I'd like to make new friends (maybe more if that's the way things go), and just generally explore and develop some parts of myself that I've never had the opportunity to explore before. I feel like I've taken the first steps down a new path to finally figuring out who I really am, and I'm extraordinarily lucky to have my wife walking the same path with me.

I feel a need to say that we practice only the most ethical of non-monogamy. If either of us gets a message from someone, we tell the other. If either of us goes to visit someone, the other has the address. We are completely transparent with each other and our partners.

I apologize in advance if I send you a really awkward and disjointed message. I can be a slightly awkward person, but this whole "meeting new people" thing is way out of my element. The more awkward, corny, or asinine my message is, the cooler I probably think you are.

Oh, and I tend to ignore match/friend/enemy percentages when I message people. If someone's self-written description is interesting to me, that's worth more than a computer algorithm.

More to come, I promise... For now, a quick list of things I'm into:
- Museums
- Musicals
- D&D
- Games of all sorts (except drinking)
- Steampunk
- Paganism (and other assorted new-agey religions)
- Wandering around book stores and having rambling conversations
- Going for walks in cemeteries

I'm a little bit gothy, but I've been told by my wife that I skew more toward rockabilly, and I'm okay with that.

Halloween is my favorite holiday, and I feel deeply depressed if I don't dress up, go out, and participate in some sort of festivities. I haven't been to a costume party in years and I don't like the bar scene. Last year, we dressed up, found an area thick with trick-or-treaters (our town was absolutely dead, and not in the cool Halloween way), and went around handing out candy to parents and kids if we got their parents' permission.

I'm not the most active person, but I'm not a couch potato, either. I don't go to the gym, but I love going for walks.
What I’m doing with my life
Helping to take the company I work for in a direction focusing more on digital storage and organization and reducing the amount of paper used, hoping to expand my horizons professionally, working to make a future with my wife, and learning to play the guitar.
I’m really good at
Being large, which makes me ideal for reaching top shelves, blocking wind, knocking things off tables, and being in the way.

I'd also like to think I'm good at conversation, games of various sorts, being funny, and singing.

Also, providing long-lived betta fish with a respectful funeral. Feel free to ask me for the true story.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm a big, tall guy that tends to wear either all black or obnoxiously bright colors. If they make it past that, it's usually my sense of humor, my singing voice, or the bearded axe strapped to my back.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Um... The Dresden Files series, the Clockwork Century series, the inaccurately-named Hitchhiker's Guide trilogy, R.A. Salvatore's Drizzt books, Adam Rex's Frankenstein children's books, books on philosophy and religion, poetry (especially Samuel Taylor Coleridge or Allen Ginsberg), and a whole bunch of others that I can't even think of.

Comic books: Neil Gaiman's Sandman (or just about anything by Gaiman, really), Kevin Smith's Batman stuff, Deadpool, Wanted, almost anything by Alan Moore, Johnny the Homicidal Maniac, Hellboy.

Movies: The Star Wars trilogy (IV, V, and VI), The Crow, Scott Pilgrim vs. The World, Watchmen, the Jay & Silent Bob flicks, Almost Famous, assorted zombie and vampire movies, Nightmare on Elm Street series, anything by Quentin Tarantino, Mel Brooks, musicals.

A note on movies: I absolutely love horror movies. I love gore and "jump" moments, but neither of those actually scare me. I love atmosphere, tension, and subtlety. The first Paranormal Activity, the Ring, and Night of the Living Dead are movies that, to me, are absolutely terrifying. If you have any suggestions for atmospheric horror movies, I'd love to hear them!

Shows: Big Bang Theory, Face Off, Doctor Who, Game of Thrones, Family Guy, Metalocalypse, Venture Brothers, Invader Zim, Beavis & Butt-Head, Breaking Bad (it took a while to get on the bandwagon, but I would've given it a shot a long time ago if only someone had told me how funny that show really is).

Music: Punk, classic rock, folk, Irish/Celtic, any mix of those first four, some metal, very occasional hip hop, show tunes, Stephen Lynch, old sea shanties, Voltaire, Frank Turner, Tom Lehrer. I can find at least a few songs I enjoy in just about any genre, really.

I've recently discovered the joys of Epic Rap Battles of History. Someone, please tear me away from them, because I don't have the strength to do it myself.

Food: Burgers, Chinese, Thai, breakfast foods... Okay, so I'm pretty much a black hole when it comes to food. I like things that are hearty and heavy and probably bad for me.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Life, death, the possibility of an afterlife. Lately, I've been thinking a lot about human sexuality, the nature of gender, and how much of our popular notions of sexuality are instinctive or taught.

Food, which movies are coming out soon in theaters or redbox, work, weekend plans, gaming.

I also get a lot of strange mental images that I don't try to conjure. My brain kind of likes to force them upon me. Often, they're visual portrayals of plays on words. If one of these happens to me when you're with me, you WILL have it described to you.
On a typical Friday night I am
Either at home probably playing video games or hanging out at an open mic (probably on my laptop playing video games, unless there's someone I find interesting onstage).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm still not sure how this whole polyamorous thing is gonna work out, or whether or not I'm actually interested in men, but I'm really excited to find out about both.

I think I identify as "pansexual," but I need to do a bit more soul-searching to be sure. Right now, though, it does seem to be the most accurate way to describe how my sense of sexual attraction works.
You should message me if
- I seem fun or interesting
- You've been made aware of a plot on my life
- You know where my missing socks are
- You didn't find either of the last two things stupid