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31 M San Francisco, CA

My Details

Last Online
Jun 28
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Mostly other
Other, and laughing about it
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English, French (Okay), Japanese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Professionally and personally, this has been the most challenging 2-3 years of my life, but I can see more and more that it had to happen that way. I’ve become appreciative of things in ways I have completely overlooked - and I’m a pretty sharp, empathic guy so you can imagine my surprise.

One of the things I've come to appreciate most is the company of a great girl, and being in an intimate relationship. I've had a few great loves, but I can see now that, even at my best, I missed out on a deeper level of awareness - of being "present". I am a generous, very affectionate, passionate lover...psychically in-tune with my partner, always learning her. An unrivaled good gift-giver. I love travel and feel at home anywhere on earth. I always seek out the finest things in life, even if it means being a little irresponsible. I am a designer, but i am creative by nature: I value my writing, and I feel energized by conversation. I can take the smallest kernel and turn it into an adventure. And most of all, i know now that there is always room to grow - always a deeper level of intimacy, pleasure, fun, and lucidity.

Being in a relationship is like waking up out of dreams within dreams. Each time you allow yourself to get a little closer, another layer of dreaming peels back., and things come into more focus. Its a matter of allowing yourself to realize how rare and special it is to have someone that feels what you feel. Sometimes this all comes naturally, but sometimes its important to take a breath and recognize "holy shit...Im in love, and I am loved back". Its just something that I've realized, and want to keep in mind for now on. An its not true of every relationship. just the enduring ones.

I am tall, lean but muscular, with a calm, easy-going demeanor. I have great hands and a great sense of touch. I have a sharp eye that takes the most minute detail and the widest view in at the same time, which can make me seem a little "dreamy". I am not a typical guy. I feel like I’m the opposite of the norm: outwardly masculine, inwardly gentle. maybe I was built for a different time, I don't know. But I am a man who is very comfortable being a man. I enjoy it. I've discovered many male proclivities that I thought were stereotypes, but are actually quite fun - like scotch, and machines going really fast.

Some things about me are different day to day: at times I will be full of energy and spontaneity - ready to explode out of the city. Other days I am languid, slow, relaxed, maybe even a little vulnerable - the kind of day where I want to recognize what I have: read my books, listen to my records, make a simple meal, give my voice a rest, do more listening than talking. But I always look for the humor in things.

Lastly - I don't believe in the adage that a person must know and love themselves fully before they can love. i believe that we are meant to couple, and that as couples we can really learn about ourselves - amplify our strengths, and rid ourselves of flaws. We can only get so far alone.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm learning to be a better man than I assumed I already was.

I'm looking for entirely new things to do in a city that I've spent 30 years in. I'm absolutely looking for a relationship. It feels like a fairly big goal right now. I want more love in my life. More life and joy in my home. More laughter, sound and motion. I want to share the life and the space I've created with someone who can appreciate it.

After 10 years in the design industry I'm still looking for the right fit. I've decided that while I still need to keep working, I'll never be fulfilled until I have my own business. So I'm slowly building a small, nimble, design studio piece by piece, person by person. The think even though it's a modest endeavor, at its core this is a new way of doing business. I'm building a company from the "culture" out, instead of looking at where and how to make money first, then building my team.

I mentor Jr. designers and other people looking to develop certain areas of their skills when I can, and generally strive to nurture creativity in ways I never got. In some cases, slowly but surely I start folding those same people into real world projects. It's an interesting experiment. And while this sounds a lot like a linked in profile it actually plugs directly into my personality and answers the question "what am I doing with my life?".

I believe in the saying behind every successful man is a fantastic woman.
I’m really good at
Learning people. Their "language", their mannerisms, their like's, their people, their story. I'm good at supporting people's ambitions, or just helping to define them better.

I'm good at learning a (my) woman's body. Its much more dynamic and fine-tuned than a man's. Its connected to her brain in ways that don't really have words. I'm not calling myself an inamorato. I'm saying that caring for someone means understanding her body, and understanding that there is no plateau for that knowledge. It keeps changing. Its one of the greatest feelings of accomplishment in the world to please a woman. "...with the utmost skill and the utmost courtesy." - Jesse James

Manifesting dreams. I can take an idea and help make it feasible, given time, and being met halfway. I just know how to convert good, seemingly wild ideas into reality. its easy if you frame the problem with basic understanding of mortality. This is our time, it doesn't get any longer or better or more fertile. if you / we want to do this thing, pick up a pen with me.

Giving the perfect gift. I'm the best at this, hands down. Its my profession to figure out what people want and need, so I'm usually dead on, and I love that feeling.

Being an immortal fuck.
The first things people usually notice about me
I carry myself well - fluidly, and deliberately. I'll either be the most talkative person in the room, or the most quiet and attentive. I avert my eyes a bit - I like to register what person is saying and it can be distracting to lock eyes. Is it rude to watch a woman's mouth when she talks? Well, Its amazing.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Pretty unfair question. This is like asking which parent you want blown away. Well...Japanese culture affected me profoundly as a kid. Enough so that I wound up there as an adult. Then that experience - the food, the music, teaching, DJing, the courtesy, respect, the austere nature of things - that formed a great deal of my taste, and revealed many of "The Six Things", below.

My grandfather was a Science Fiction writer, and a conspiracy theorist. It was everyday table-talk. He taught me so much. So I seek out art, writing, and film that reflects those ideas.

When I was a kid my grandfather told me that we were all asleep, somewhere else, and participating in a collective-unconsciousness...and I believed him. Even my dad would tell me that the Good Year Blimp was a spaceship and pretend to call the News Paper. He would take me around in his different sports cars, one wheel kissing the edge of the cliff on the road to Big Sur where we had some property. So beautiful things, fast and dangerous things attract me. Cars and bikes, mixed with a bit of terror, and a magnetism to the coast are all a side-effect of that.

Racing is in my family's blood. Machines, speed, competition. It makes far better poetry, and a special kind of music.
The six things I could never do without
1) My taste, sensibilities and appreciation for beauty.
2) The power to communicate in my own way, through speech, and writing.
3) The ability to change, and be wrong.
3) Confidence to roam, and a home to come back to.
4) Touch. Affection. The hushed language of bodies.
5) True honesty, transparency, and loyalty. I give it, and expect it. Loyalty means protection.
6) Freedom, courage, confidence, and the common touch: The freedom to explode out of any place, any situation, any mode of thinking, any rut, any trap. The courage to know that this is all just a dream we make up as we go along. The common touch that lets me enjoy people so different from myself. That's like, 10 things.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Newer, better or just different ideas and designs for everything. From the soles of our shoes to the buildings we walk through, to the cities they are arranged in - even mass psychology (see private thing below).

Starting small businesses. Helping existing ones any way I can. Just starting new projects all the time. Keeping things moving - refining good ideas, and deconstructing bad ones.

My little Geodesic dome / Yurt that I am saving up to build as my retreat along highway 1, jutting out of the cliffs, or the east, among the Pines. Where the fireplace will go.

Motorcycles. Riding them, designing them, learnign to tear them down and build them up again.

The right girl for me, and what that might be like - what we might DO. Create something - a home, a business, or just a project...a tree-house, a cafe, a Pesto, whatever - with someone who is collaborative, exciting, surprising, eager to learn and teach. in love they try to trap me in bed. Someone who kisses me when I'm asleep.

Old motorcycles.
On a typical Friday night I am
Game for just about anything. Like I said, sometimes I get supercharged and I'm willing to try to make the State line by midnight. Other nights I want to be still, enjoy simple pleasures.

I used to really care about music, so much so that I started DJing. When I got tired of the music scene and knocking on doors, I started my own party. The party became a label for a while. Then that scene started to annoy me so I tore it down. But who knows, I still have lots of records.

Do you like colored vinyl? If you answer that question I'll know you give a shit.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I get anxious about things that really have no name. I ward this off by keeping busy, working out, or whatever. But its there.
I’m looking for
  • Straight girls only
  • Ages 23–36
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
Sometimes you root for the Bad Guy. The bank robber. The assassin. The drug lord. The Tyrant.

You made it this far and enjoyed most of what I had to say.

You are remotely attracted to my photos: Look I don't take good photos. In person I'm much better looking. Why don't people just take candid shots? I cant sit still for that countdown and I always fidget and mess it up. Its not REAL.

You are at a minimum CURIOUS about motorcycles. I love to ride, it changed my life. Its like seeing the city, the country, little towns, the sea-side, and the woods like a bird. You can smell everything...SEE so much more. I never show off. Riding is about trust. I don't run with packs. I go my own way. Its a skill I worked to cultivate, and something I love to share.