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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 23–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 4:03pm
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Atheism, but not too serious about it
Pisces, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Politics / Government
Rather not say
Open relationship
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Likes dogs and likes cats
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm a perv-dork. Professional writer/spin doctor in a happy but open marriage who's looking for like minded erudite rapscallions.

I know my profile name says Chicago but actually I am in Philadelphia after I was in DC for a stretch and now I am in New York once a week and would love to meet some lovelies there. I have my profile sometime listed as Philly and sometimes as NYC because I'm really available both places. (And I guess in between, if there's an Amtrak stop near you.)

I'm interested in conversation, perspiration, elucidation, fornication, gratification, inspiration, and hanging out at the train station, although not necessarily in that order. I have been known to enjoy a good hot dog, although I stress this is not a euphemism. I take my work very seriously, but I leave it at the office, I take my play just as seriously and I have to remember that I can't bring it into the office. I lived for too long in DC, that square town, and I'm a round peg always looking for some holes to bang myself into. (Ok, that one probably was a euphemism)

I'm a committed feminist and liberal who takes my hedonism seriously - in the sense that I have serious fun when I play and I'm serious about everyone being treated with respect.

Back when OKC asked you to lead with three adjectives, I listed myself as loquacious, salacious, and bold ... it is perhaps a sign of my loquacity that it is taking utmost effort to resist adding further adjectives now that the meme is more flexible.
What I’m doing with my life
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Fighting the fight and living the dream. I have a good job that lets me help people who are doing good stuff and I'm looking forward to expanding my artistic pursuits. I spend a lot of time working to be a good husband and dad. I like to have my fun in the interstices between these moments.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening, talking, writing and reading. Generally - word stuff. I'm a good friend and I'm full of pithy and sage advice if you want it and quiet attentiveness if you need it. I'm a good lover. I'm fun at parties.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Is that I talk too much. Also, if you're pretty, it's probably the fact that I'm hitting on you.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I can't even. I can't. Suffice to say it swings from the cultural and sophisticated heavily into the geeky. So the Iliad and Battlestar Galactica.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. My wife. Best there is.

2. My children. They're pretty good too.

3. The 1st Amendment. Take that shit seriously.

4. Some method for recording my thoughts in words.

5. Sex

6. The freedom, as ordained by our common humanity, to walk out my front door at 2 in the morning in search of a good burrito, the early edition of the Chicago Sun-Times, or the destiny promised by the new dawn.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to move the ball forward on the intractable debates of our generation, vis-a-vis climate change, income inequality, and persistent and systemic racism and sexism. Also, whether I really want to buy handcuffs or just keep using my belt when it's needed. Also, whether it would be cooler to be a mage or a mage-warrior hybrid class.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Either finally relaxing, still working, or out partying. Lately, the first two have ruled the day. Or exploring the outer limits of the human consciousness through an introspective examination of my own disharmonies. Or watching Battlestar Galactica.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I just pretty much told all of you that I'm a married man in an open relationship who sleeps around. Jeez. What more do you want?
You should message me if
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You like sensitive men with a sense of style. Or a man who knows the difference between confidence and aggression.