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  • Ages 24–33
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My details

Last online
Today – 4:04pm
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
5' 8" (1.73m)
Body Type
A little extra
Christianity and it’s important
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids but wants them
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat), C++ (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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Into living drama-free, being helpful and friendly, and enjoying this adventure we call "life" as much as possible. Just looking for someone to share it with.

My friends have described me as "a really chill guy" who doesn't "have a problem with a lot of things." My manager has described me as "laid-back." One of my best friends and co-worker went on a rant and said to me "You're probably the most well-mannered guy I have met. You're always nice, always giving input to better others, and you're a fiercely loyal friend." :) Extremely kind and flattering words, but that's really me and the person I try to be. It's just how I was raised. My grandparents raised me so I have that old-fashioned, southern-style up-bringing. It comes through in my friendships and in my relationships. Maybe you'll be able to experience it first hand? :)

All that being said, I just try to be the best me I can be.
d-( ^_^ )-b

Also, INTJ apparently. I help make up only 2% of the population but I'm in good company: Thomas Jefferson, JFK, Augustus Caesar, Gandolf, Walter White, Gregory House, Moriarty... oh wait... Ok, maybe not everyone will agree with those last three. lol
What I’m doing with my life
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Right now, I work [too much for too little] full-time at a large IT company (trust me: you've heard of us--we used to be the guys in blue suits) as a chair-jockey. I sit in a chair at a desk for 8+ hours a day and look awesome. Really, I'm a coder/programmer. And I work lots of OT. Additionally, I just finished my Master's Degree in Computer Science at my Alma Mater's sister campus, University of Illinois at Springfield. Working to become a Software Engineer. Although school is now done, I still like to keep myself challenged with programming- and math-related problems ( and

I love gardening and try to keep some plants on my balcony. Usually fruiting plants and flowers.

Eventually, I'd love to travel and see some of the world. The only place I've ever been outside of the US is Canada, and that doesn't really count. haha Apparently I've gone to Mexico too, but I was a baby (maybe a year old) so I don't remember anything about it. Until I can travel though, I'll settle for road-trips. :) I'd love to do a cross-country road-trip over the course of a month or two. Just drive, listen to music, and hit the hot spots around the country.
I’m really good at
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Listening. I love to lend an ear to a person in need. If you need someone to bounce ideas off of, someone to vent to, someone to help you see things a bit more clearly, I'm your man.

Talking. As you can probably tell, I can have a lot to say though I probably come off as quiet initially.

Being too logical. I tend to take things at face value far too often. I guess I feel that God gave man a brain in order to think with it, so I'm just wasting a gift if I'm not using it. The flip-side of that is that I'm not often very emotional. I will admit I have my moments when I break down and cry for a few mins, but the stuff that affects me in that fashion is usually the stuff that I don't understand or stuff that just doesn't make sense to me. Also, I'm not super-religious. I share Albert Einstein's perspective on the topic: "The further the spiritual evolution of mankind advances, the more certain it seems to me that the path to genuine religiosity does not lie through the fear of life, and the fear of death, and blind faith, but through striving after rational knowledge." "My religion consists of a humble admiration of the illimitable superior spirit who reveals himself in the slight details we are able to perceive with our frail and feeble mind." Couldn't have said it better myself.

Understanding. I have a strange need to understand things as fully as possible. My life seems to be an eternal quest for knowledge, which I'm all for since that means I'll never cease growing as a person. It only becomes an issue when attempting to convey my understanding to another person. I have an issue with being overly verbose, though I've been trying to work on my concision. If you couldn't tell by my profile so far, concision is still a work in progress. haha

Laughing at myself. I'm silly. I come from a family of silly people that like to crack jokes and poke fun at one another. But it's always in good fun. As a result, I will often do something silly to get a smile or laugh out of someone. I'll randomly break into a goofy dance, or start singing an old song, or even re-enacting a scene from a favorite movie. Depends on my mood.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My hair. I have dreads and they're starting to get fairly long. People comment on them a lot more frequently now.

My smile. I'm often smiling when people see me. I guess I generally wear my emotions on my sleeve and I'm usually in a good mood.

My physique. When I have time, I like to work out. On top of having a nice build naturally, working out gives me nice tone and I've been told I look pretty good.

My butt. hahaha Baby got back. Nuff said. :D
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: I don't really read books for entertainment as much as for knowledge, so my list of favorite books would be a myriad of computer-related books. Here are my last five reads: Modern Operating Systems, Parallel Programming, Object-Oriented Analysis & Design, Javascript, SQL. Only the first two were actually for school. haha

Movies: Inception (of course), The Prestige, The Fifth Element, Friday, Tucker & Dale vs Evil, Thank You for Smoking, Blue Streak, Bad Boys II, Spirited Away, Princess Mononoke, Children of Men, 28 Days/Weeks Later, Searching for Bobby Fischer, The Matrix, Resident Evil (the first one), and many others I can't name off the top of my head.

Shows: Archer, Sherlock, Bob's Burgers, Parks & Recreation, Game of Thrones (OMGoT :), The Walking Dead, The Boondocks, House, Californication, True Blood (glad it's ending though), Fringe, Breaking Bad, The Office, Outsourced, Top Gear [UK]. I usually download only a few shows to watch per season. But I do love a lot of the stuff on Nat Geo, Discovery, the History channel, Food Network and HGTV whenever I do watch cable.

Genres -- A lot of stuff. Mostly ambient/electronica (shoegaze as well), Soul/R&B (more soul than modern R&B), Hip-Hop, Trip-Hop, and some rock as well. Lately, I've been feeling trap music a bit more.
Artists -- Ulrich Schnauss, The Last Atlant, Boards of Canada, Fat Jon, Nujabes, Maxwell, Anthony Hamilton, Raheem DeVaughn, Erykah Badu, James Brown, Outkast, Mos Def/Talib Kweli/Blackstar, MF DOOM, Carbon Based Lifeforms, Clams Casino, mc chris, edIT, PANTyRAiD, C2C, Nosaj Thing, Aesop Rock, Blockhead, RJD2, Queens of the Stone Age, Gorillaz, Foo Fighters, Red Hot Chili Peppers, Deadmau5, dj GT, ATB, Enigma, Trifonic, Daughter Darling, some Tiesto, some Coheed and Cambria, some Roots, some Hieroglyphics, some Little Brother, some De La Soul, and lots of random old-school stuff from the 90s.

Food: Soul, Indian, Chinese, Japanese, Mexican, Korean. I'm open to a lot of different foods and I like trying new ones when I get the chance. Never know what you'll like until you give it a shot. :)

Games: GTA:SA, GTAIV (GTAV was ok), Counter-Strike 1.6, SimCity, Forza [Horizon], Metroid Prime 1 and 2, Donkey Kong Country 2, Sonic 3 & Knuckles (probably my favorite game of all time; I count it as one since it was designed as one game but limited by hardware), loved the concept of Watch Dogs. Still making my way through Borderlands 2. And can't forget about the Last of Us (only game to ever make me cry) and Walking Dead Season 1 (almost made me cry).
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. Companionship
2. Family and Friends
3. Communication
4. Purpose
5. Growth
6. Faith (not specifically in the religious sense, but that too)

Of course, that's neglecting the obvious things like water, oxygen, food, shelter, clothing, friction, gravity, sunlight, etc.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Ways to bridge the gap between where I am now and where I want to be. That usually leads to work and school.

Ways to bring a smile to at least one person's face.

Ways to squeeze even more stuff into my already over-packed day.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
...doing the same thing we do every night, Pinky: Try to take over the world!

Usually a low-key night for me. Generally I'm either relaxing or continuing work from earlier in the day. I try not to put things off if I can finish them in one sitting. Terrible thing to do because a lot of the things I do are very time consuming, but it's hard to break me away when I'm making progress.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I was 27 before I ever experienced my first sunburn. I thought it was just a mysterious headache until I started peeling a couple days later. hehe Thank you, Austin, TX. :)
You should message me if
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You've managed to make it through this extremely lengthy profile and still want to know something else about me.

You think I might be interesting to talk to.

You're looking for someone to hang with and maybe do stuff like biking, lunch/dinner, movie, go-karting (not the kiddie ones), bowling, evening in (video games? :), etc.

Lastly, if you don't fit my "I'm looking for" section but you still would like to talk to me, feel free. You won't be filtered. I'm really just looking to meet new people. :)

*If I don't respond to your message immediately, I'm not ignoring you. Like I said, I stay busy and I prioritize many other things above this site. Also, I don't have A-List status so if you rate me highly and want to get to know me, just send me a message. Just do both of us a favor: talk if you really want to talk. I tend to mirror in my responses, so you get back what you give. Keep that in mind.*