You are a family oriented woman that desires and is available for a
relationship of substance regardless of depth. You are confident
but not arrogant. I appreciate women who are service oriented,
self-aware and thoughtful. A woman, who is strong, yet sensitive,
and not afraid to be adventurous and kinky in and outside the
bedroom, embodies a balance that I find appealing, and understands
that Alpha does not equate to asshole. I am open to straight, bi or
hetreo-flexible. I welcome new friendships as well. If I interest
you don't be shy, send me a message.
Additionally, If the following paragraph doesn't resonate with you,
we are not a match.
Power in Honesty
Staying True to Your Word
Your honest word is one of your most precious and powerful
Promises are easily made. Keeping them often proves more difficult
because when we are pressured to strive always for perfection, we
find it simpler to agree to undertake impossible tasks than to say
no. Likewise, there is an infinite array of circumstances that
conspire to goad us into telling falsehoods, even when we hold a
great reverence for truth. When you endeavor to consistently keep
your word, however, you protect your reputation and promote
yourself as someone who can be trusted to be unfailingly truthful.
Though your honesty may not always endear you to others—for there
will always be those who fear the truth—you can nonetheless be
certain that your integrity is never tarnished by the patina of
deceit. Since frankness and sincerity form the basis of all
life-enriching relationships, your word is one of your most
precious and powerful possessions.
When we promise more than we can deliver, hide from the
consequences of our actions through falsehoods, or deny our true
selves to others, we hurt those who were counting on us by proving
that their faith was wrongly given. We are also hurt by the lies we
tell and the promises we break. Integrity is the foundation of
civilization, allowing people to live, work, and play side by side
without fear or apprehension. As you cultivate honesty within
yourself, you will find that your honor and reliability put people
at ease. Others will feel comfortable seeking out your friendship
and collaborating with you on projects of great importance, certain
that their positive expectations will be met. If you do catch
yourself in a lie, ask yourself what you wanted to hide and why you
felt you couldn’t be truthful. And if life’s surprises prevent you
from keeping your word, simply admit your error apologetically and
make amends quickly.
Since the path of truth frequently represents the more difficult
journey, embarking upon it builds character. You can harness the
power of your word when you do your best to live a life of honesty
and understand what motivates dishonesty. In keeping your
agreements and embodying sincerity, you prove that you are worthy
of trust and perceive values as something to be incorporated into
your daily existence.
From the Daily OM
Additionally, if you made it this far, this is part of My belief
system. Are they part of yours?
25 Things People in Healthy Relationships Don’t Do
1. They don’t rush the present state of their relationships to get
to better times ahead. – The thing about obsessing about a happy
ending is that you forget to enjoy the journey along the way. Right
now is life… don’t miss it! You need to enjoy the company you care
to keep, today, while you’re still guaranteed a chance to do
2. They don’t expect their relationships to solve all their
problems. – While a healthy relationship can certainly bring joy,
it’s not anyone else’s job to fill in your empty inner space.
That’s your job and yours alone; and until you accept
responsibility for your emptiness, pain, or boredom, problems will
inevitably ensue and persist in the relationship.
3. They don’t expect their relationships to be easy. – Long-tern
relationships are amazing, but rarely easy. Resisting the hard
times and seeing them as immediate evidence that something is wrong
or that you’re with the wrong person only aggravates the
difficulties. By contrast, finding the willingness to view the
challenges as an opportunity to learn will give you the energy and
strength you need to continue to move forward and grow your
relationship to the next level.
4. They don’t let fear overpower their love and trust. – You never
lose by loving; you lose by holding back. No relationship is
impossible until you refuse to give it a chance. Love means giving
someone the chance to hurt you, but trusting them not to. Without
this trust, a relationship cannot survive. You cannot just believe
what you fear from others; you have to believe in the good faith of
others. If you are ever going to have someone trust you, you must
feel that you can trust them too. (Read The Mastery of Love
5. They don’t keep secrets. – Trust is the foundation of a
relationship, and when trust is broken it takes time and
willingness on the part of both people involved to repair it and
heal. All too often, I’ll hear a coaching client say something
like, “I didn’t tell her but I didn’t lie about it, either.” This
statement is a contradiction, as omissions are lies. If you’re
covering up your tracks in any way, it’s only a matter of time
before the truth is revealed and trust in the relationship is
broken. Speak the truth, no matter what the consequences. Being
honest is the only way to be at peace with yourself and
6. They don’t fake their feelings. – Do not contrive to be a loving
person: work to be a real person instead. Being real is being
7. They don’t hide who they are. – There’s nothing better for your
happiness and your relationships than for you to be at your best,
showing everyone in every way who you are and what you stand
8. They don’t look to others for validation of their identity. –
Never wait around for someone else to give you permission to be
yourself. You don’t need anyone’s validation to be happy or to live
a good life. That’s a state of mind only you can create, and then
bring in to the relationship with you.
9. They don’t hold hateful grudges. – It’s a good time, right now,
for letting go. Let’s not drag angst into tomorrow. Let’s regroup,
make amends where we can, and move on. Make peace with people as
much as you are able. Even if forgiveness doesn’t equal
reconciliation, lay down the sword and let it be. Life is too
10. They don’t focus on the unchangeable past. – Sometimes
happiness in relationships amounts to making peace with something
that can’t be fixed. Sometimes you let it go, and sometimes you
hold it broken. It amounts to forgiveness in any case.
11. They don’t expect their loved ones to always be strong. –
Sometimes people let us down because they can’t hold us up. “I
can’t carry you” doesn’t mean, “I don’t love you.” It may simply
mean, “I’m struggling too.”
12. They don’t focus on people’s flaws. – Do your best to maintain
sincere love in your heart for others. The more you see the good in
them, the more good you will uncover in yourself.
13. They don’t give out of obligation, or because they want to be
paid back. – Do something special for someone you love, and for a
stranger today. Do it because you can and because it makes the
world a happier place. Always give more than you take. When you
shift your attitude from “how can I gain” to “how can I give,”
you’ll be amazed at the gifts you receive. Truth be told, the most
successful people in the most successful relationships are looking
for ways to help others. The most unsuccessful people are still
asking, “What’s in it for me?”
14. They don’t take their relationships for granted. – An
incredible thing happens when you pay close attention. It’s by
participating more in your relationships that you breathe life into
them. So make time for those you care about. With our busy
schedules we often forget to relax and enjoy the great company we
have. In human relationships distance is not measured in miles, but
in affection. Two people can be right next to each other, yet miles
apart. So don’t ignore someone you care about, because lack of
concern hurts more than angry words.
15. They don’t just show up when times are good. – Be there through
the good, bad, happy, and sad times… no matter what. Be willing to
provide a listening ear, a hug, and emotional support in all
circumstances. In a healthy relationship, both people can trust
that they can count on each other, and are willing to be available
not only when it’s convenient, but when they need each other the
16. They don’t try to constantly “fix” the people they care about.
– The art of caring for another is rooted in love and respect. It
means listening to them wholeheartedly and letting them know by
your complete presence that they are seen and valued. It’s not a
space where you try to fix the other person. It’s about being
witness to the totality of another human being. (Read The Gifts of
17. They don’t talk when they need to listen. – It takes some
courage to stand up and speak; it takes even more courage to open
your mind and listen. Pay attention and be a good listener. Your
ears will never get you in trouble. The people in your life often
need a listening ear more than they need a rambling voice. And
don’t listen with the intent to reply; hear what is being said with
the intent to understand. You are as beautiful as the love you
give, and you are as wise as the silence you leave behind.
18. They don’t take everything personally. – If you take everything
personally, you will remain offended for the rest of your life.
What other people do is because of them, not you. Never permit the
behavior of other people to tell you how you feel.
19. They don’t neglect their own self-awareness. – When two people
meet, the prize always goes to the one with the most self-insight.
He or she will be calmer, more confident, and more at ease with the
20. They don’t say “yes” when they need to say “no.” – You can’t
always be agreeable; that’s how people take advantage of you.
Sometimes you have to set clear boundaries.
21. They don’t let people hold them back indefinitely. – Give
people lots of chances, but realize that you can’t grow by hanging
out with people who refuse to grow themselves. Try to spend less
time with those who are stubborn and stuck in their comfort zones.
And if someone doesn’t want to let you grow, it might be time to
let them go. Your relationships should help you in the long run,
not hurt you.
22. They don’t resist or interfere with other people’s growth. –
Healthy relationships move in the direction of personal growth: for
the relationship and for each individual. A desire to impede the
growth of the other for one’s comfort is an expression of fear.
Even when one is concerned that the relationship may dissolve, they
accept that their paths may diverge for the benefit of both. Mutual
growth is put before personal gain.
23. They don’t rebound and rush into replacement relationships. –
If you painfully lose a valuable friend or lover, do not rush out
at once for a replacement. Such hurried action prevents you from
examining your heartache and breaking free of it. (Angel and I
discuss this in more detail in the “Self-Love” chapter of 1,000
Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.)
24. They don’t look at past relationships as failures. – Although
not all relationships are meant to be, there are no failed
relationships, because every person in your life has a lesson to
teach. And the lessons you learn make future relationships that
25. They don’t let what’s behind them define them. – As long as
you’re worried that you could replicate a hurtful relationship from
the past, you won’t be free to create new, healthy bonds.
Regardless of what fears you have, work to release them. Start by
acknowledging that these fears are present, and then remind
yourself that you’re not doomed to any particular fate. You’re the
one running your life, and you have the power to create healthy
relationships. If you find yourself veering off course, you can
correct this. If you’ve made mistakes in your past, you can learn
The floor is yours…
Which of these points resonate most with you? Which ones do you
sometimes struggle with? And what else do people in healthy
relationships NOT do? Leave a comment below and share your thoughts