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44 F Columbia, MO

My Details

Last Online
Apr 14
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Other, and laughing about it
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Less than $20,000
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has kids
Has dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Now listening to: Desperately Wanting, Friction, Baby, Better Than Ezra.
Now reading: How to Read A Novelist by John Freeman.
Next movie in queue: Call the Midwife (series on Netflix).

First and foremost I'm looking for friendship. If we meet, get along and things work into something else, you won't hear me complaining about it ;) I've actually met several amazing people I first bumped into here on OkC and believe this site really works.

I am a bbw...and learning to accept that. My German heritage and the fact that I dearly love food makes it nearly impossible to be thin when I'm a stress eater and my life is total chaos on a more or less regular basis. My goal is to be more healthy. I'm a work in progress.

If you are extremely religious, please stop reading now, I don't need saving. I am also a strong supporter of gay marriage rights, if you have a problem with that, we won't get along. Everybody and I mean EVERYBODY deserves to have the same love without fear, to marry if that's what they want. I'm tired of narrow-minded, conservative bullshit.

Well, I've been married nearly 20 years and my mate is FredGarvin1969 here on OkC. He knows I'm here, he's good with me dating. I'm interested in polyamory and intimacy in an open relationship. Ethical non-monogamy seems to be hard concept for some to grasp and I understand that. It's not for everyone. It took me a long time to realize I'm just wired differently.

If I've come back to your profile several times, I find you interesting but because of the polything I seldom message first unless I can somehow deduce you're open to that. I enjoy looking at the questions people answer here on OkC...I think sometimes that's just as informative as a profile and the comments on the questions ARE pretty interesting!

I have a primal nature, I always have as far back as I can remember. For me, primal means close to the source, basic, primitive, instinctual. Nature recharges me when everyday reality kicks my ass. I feel best when I'm working or playing outside. I crave being around someone who's a bit animalistic and will physically challenge me. I enjoy rough-housing, back-scratching and playful banter. I often dream of being hunted...and it's not a nightmare.

I'm basically "person specific". I fall for a soul, not the package. If I like you as a person and find you attractive, the difference between XX and XY for me is pretty irrelevant. I consider myself demisexual. If you're not sure what that means and are curious, Google it. (It has nothing to do with Demi Moore). I'm looking for someone I might be able to consider a friend and activity partner more than a casual "play date".

I'm a tomboyish woman, (on the rare bad day it's like suffering from a split personality.) Hmmm...well, one thing I'll share is that I honestly for the most part absolutely HATE being treated "like a lady" because mentally a good part of me isn't one. I have an androgynous mind.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm working on being financially stable so I can spend more time doing what I'm best at, being creative. I farm (love my critters, though I'm currently downsizing...anyone interested in sustainable farming and livestock?), I write sporadically and try to figure out what makes people tick.

I have a BFA in art, I'm primarily a stone sculptor and painter. I've been sidetracked for a bit and need a serious kick in the seat of the pants. The focus it takes to create and the process is pretty amazing, almost as important as the end product for me. I'm excited to be starting a new creative phase in my life. My art studio is nearly finished, working on interior walls and painting right now. It'll be good to get it done!!

I'm learning to knit, crochet and felt. I taught myself how to spin wool into yarn. The process of shearing my own animals for their wool, spinning the yarn and then making something useful of it has been a goal for the past ten years or so.

I've picked up a mandolin and am trying to learn Greensleeves and the R.E.M. song "Losing my Religion". Getting some calluses on my finger tips from practicing, still have a long way to go.
I’m really good at
...NOT being Martha Stewart, ignoring dust bunnies that are big enough to eat me alive, making a gourmet meal out of left-overs, killing spiders (or catching and releasing them outside if they're not venomous), listening, paying attention to details, knowing weird facts about nature stuff, working with animals, caring for people, sewing buttons back on, cooking when I take the time to do it, doing anything creative, being a natural nurse.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I could not live without books, I'm addicted to reading. Sci-fi, fantasy, horror, erotica, mainstream fiction, non-fiction...educational. Octavia Butler, Robert Heinlein, John Varley, Stephen King, Laurell Hamilton, Kim Harrison, Keri Arthur, George R. R. Martin and others have influenced my life through their writing. When I'm sick or depressed I do nothing but read until I'm feeling better.

My favorite movie EVER is the Shawshank Redemption. I always watch Groundhog Day whenever it's on, no matter where it is in the movie, I know it by heart. Zombieland really flips my switch. Alien made me nearly pee my pants. And because it greatly deserves mention...Silverado is in my top five. I liked The Fifth Element, The Chronicles of Riddick, Event Horizon, The Abyss, Appaloosa, Star Wars and all of the Star Trek movies, Secretary, Curdled, The Usual Suspects and American Beauty.

I've got pretty varied musical tastes, listening to Cults, AWOLNATION, Foster the People, MUSE, Example most recently...also David Bowie, Prince, The Police/Sting, Queen, Robyn Hitchcock, Erasure, Ministry, Better Than Ezra, Gravity Kills, Nine Inch Nails, Lords of Acid, The Black Keys, Enigma, The xx, Adam Lambert, Jennifer Lopez, ABBA, B-52's, Concrete Blonde, Death by Zombies, En Vogue, Depeche Mode, The Cure, The Smiths, Pet Shop Boys and Adele. I will listen to a song or album over and over until it's part of my life.

I love DEXTER, that one really has a place close to my heart. Bob's Burgers, Firefly, Battlestar Galactica, Freaks and Geeks, Queer as Folk, Being Human (U.K. version), Star Trek, X-Files, Hung, True Blood, Boardwalk Empire, Walking Dead, Game of Thrones, Doc Martin, Black Books, Mad Men, 30 Rock, How I Met Your Mother, Raising Hope, Lost Girl, Spaced, Hyperdrive, House of Cards (both U.K. and U.S.A. versions, Kevin Spacey ROCKS!!), Supernatural, Haven and Hemlock Grove. Fringe is awesome, my favorite episode is "Brown Betty". Every time I see Walter eating red vine licorice on the show, I start jonesing for Twizzlers.

I'm a big fan of Italian, Greek and Chinese cuisine. I'll try anything once! I like to eat salad with chop sticks. Cilantro tastes a bit like soap to me...I think pretty much anything cheesy is yummy.
The six things I could never do without
My Family
The Internet
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How much I love words...and the images they create in my mind. Creating art based on feelings or images I've gotten from a poem or story can keep that feeling alive indefinitely.

Success and what it means to me and others. While everyone NEEDS money, it's just a damn fact, I base success on being who you to the best of your ability...always pushing limits there instead of settling.

Why people have so much trouble being excellent to each other?

How can I do things better?

...Newton's Third Law of Motion.

What are writers thinking when they're writing something, what did they experience to make them write the way they do?

Will I ever finish ONE of the five novels I've started before NaNoWriMo 2014?
On a typical Friday night I am
Down at the Arch and Column pub having a drink with friends (or will be hopefully, IF?when Pitt finishes renovations and they reopen). In the mean time, I might be at the Hyde Out, writing, watching a movie on Netflix or playing online.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Sometimes I feel like a gay man trapped in a woman's body, a confounding dilemma.
I’m looking for
  • Guys and girls who like bi girls
  • Ages 25–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
If you are wickedly intelligent please feel free to knock my socks off with your wit. I like my socks knocked off from time to time.

If you've ever been part of a close circle of friends and miss that kind of dynamic. Movies and books I tend to love revolve around the rag-tag group of people thrown together who become amazing friends and I'm definitely looking for anyone who might be into that.

If you've seen skyhopper16 or SpaceCat5000.

If you're a brilliant sarcastic villain, umm...could I pick your brain?

You think kink is the spice of life and aren't afraid to use it.

If you like what you read or you think we have something in common.