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45 F San Jose, CA

My Details

Last Online
Apr 13
5′ 8″ (1.72m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Other, but not too serious about it
Pisces, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from high school
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
(( NOTE: I don't always rate profiles based on my interest in the person; I rate them on how much I enjoyed reading them. I know ... I'm peculiar. So if I rated your profile 4 or 5 stars, nicely done - you either got me to laugh aloud or smile broadly. I also rate profiles as 1 star if someone says their "everyday me" is an internet photo of Noah Mills or some other actor or model. If someone is already that much of a fake, they deserve the low rating. ))

I do get cold sores. That may seem strange to put right at the top, but it is a test and a filter based on a recent conversation. It's a test to see who has actually bothered to read my profile. (I write a lot, I talk a lot. If that's annoying, then I'm annoying.) It's a filter for those who want sex. If your first thought reading that was how to have sex without catching it, you're not interested in ME and you'll be wasting my time and yours. /endgrumpy

Many labels can be applied to me. I'm a mother, sister, and daughter. I'm a software tester and a gamer. I'm a reader and writer and thinker. I'm a weight-lifter and a fast walker. I'm verbose, perhaps even pleonastic. I'm mathematically and scientifically inclined. I'm a natural loner. I'm INTJ, though depending on the day I can be INTP.

I'm something beyond all that - me. Most of those labels fit about as well as a hospital gown, and I don't use them to define or confine me. They might be useful giving us a starting point to talk, but the moment assumptions are made, I am likely to get slippery and break out of the cage of that label.

I'm a challenging mass of contradictions. I'm a realist and an idealist, pragmatic, grounded and a day-dreamer. I'm friendly with less close friends than fingers on one hand. I'm open about myself but hold many secrets close. I'm independent and prefer to be alone, but crave and need someone to hold close. I had three children, all adult now, and have not a maternal yearning in me. I'm either moving at full tilt or flopped lazily.

I don't do well at succinct summaries, so if you don't like to read ... how did you get here? (More seriously, if you don't like to read, realize that EVERY conversation with me goes like this. I can write 250-500 words in a reply without thinking.)

I've answered WAY too many of the questions here, even the brain-numbingly stupid ones. A hefty portion have explanations because the questions are too binary. I'm analog in a digital world, finding everything - even truth and facts - to be relative in a manner of speaking.

Have I scared you off yet?

26 Mar 2014 -- somewhat back after a month away due to my youngest being hospitalized and diagnosed with lymphoma. If you send a message, it may be a few days before I log in an see it - but I do tend to respond to most.
What I’m doing with my life
Working on a whole slew of 2014 goals. This is going to be an odd-age year (45 in March) and I want it to be the best one yet.
I’m really good at
... learning new software as well as testing and crashing it
... reading
... writing - not published, except one short story, but someday!
... using lots and lots of words to express things in multiple ways (pleonastic!)
... being incredibly evasive when someone gets too flirty and personal.
... looking up things on the internet to get answers.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
It's so hard to decide on favorites as they vary with my mood and in some cases the list would get too long and still leave out something I loved.

Books, for example, Anne McCaffery's Pern novels, Broken God, Deed of Paksennarion, Red Mars series by Ben Bova, Heinlein and Asimov, and so much more. I once dreamed of reading every book in my middle school library before realizing how many there really were.

Movies. I adore the jet scenes in Top Gun as well as the scenes about Goose's death. Fifth Element has just the right humor to tickle my whimsy. Stargate and the subsequent TV series (watched via Netflix). Yes, action/adventure is my top movie preference! Of this year's (2013) movies, my top two faves have been "Now You See Me", which was worth seeing twice, and White House Down, unexpectedly. Most others (I've seen a lot this year) weren't bad, but just didn't grip me the same way.

I don't watch TV at all, though I've been exposed to snippets of Big Bang Theory at the gym. I only owned a TV to play console games (SNES, PS, PS2, GC, etc.) Way back I did watch such things as Babylon 5 (awesome series) and Star Trek: TNG and DS9 and Farscape and Alias- though watching series via Netflix is far more enjoyable. Yes, I clearly have a genre preference.

Music. Energy, dance beat, positive lyrics, some pop. Vocal trance, freestyle, old school rap, techno, latin dance.
The six things I could never do without
Stars (sun and others)
My mind
Sense of touch
I spend a lot of time thinking about
* ways to connect together things I'm reading and learning with other things that seem unrelated. Sometimes the littlest thing can be applied to something else to give a greater and richer understanding.
* everything. Overthinking it, in fact. Ask me a simple yes or no question, and odds are I'll spend the next 20 minutes coming up with the best way to answer, likely without a yes or a no.
On a typical Friday night I am
* at the gym doing my cardio and strength training unless I put it off until Saturday because I have plans.
* having dinner and maybe a movie with one of my children and a friend.
* planning my weekend so I get everything done and have fun.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
If I was willing to admit it, it wouldn't be private. I will talk about all sorts of things, but I do have a privacy line I don't cross often.
I’m looking for
  • Everybody
  • Ages 18–99
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends
You should message me if
* you don't chat like this "Where n CA r u?" and "Was you number?"
* you actually read the whole profile and cared enough to have a reason other than my picture or basic stats to message me.
* you actually are interested in friendly conversation and realize I mean "Friends Only" quite literally
* you're willing to go read this: and understand that, yes, that is what my inbox can be like - so it's a miracle I'm still friendly =P