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45 San Jose, CA Woman


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  • Ages 18–99
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My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 2:47pm
5′ 8″ (1.72m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Pisces, and it’s fun to think about
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Haha, yes, I realize that I don't actually summarize myself in this section. I am not on OKC to look for sex or "dating". This isn't to say it can't happen. This isn't to say I'll refuse to consider more than friendship. It *is* to say that if your primary interest in me is how I look, or some label you attach to me ("older woman" will make me snarl - you have been warned), then we probably won't get very far.

If you spend some time reading explanations to questions and some of my answers below and are genuinely interested in poking or tickling my brain, you'll get a lot further. Please pay attention to what I say under "You should message me if" -- it is there for a reason.

I originally made this profile some years ago to do quizzes and answer questions. I've answered over 6000 now, and often seek out unanswered questions on others' profiles just for the fun of answering them. As of Nov '14, I've answered all the ones by OKC, though I do keep finding a few new ones in other's Q&A section -- 6374 so far. Oddly, some profiles say there's dozens of questions I haven't answered, but then say there aren't any questions unanswered. OKC can't do math, apparently.

CleverAvatar is just a nick I made up based on trying to make the avatar (the picture shown on my profile) "clever" without really showing me. That picture got removed by OKC - so yes, the avatar and the other picture I have up now are really me. Both at the gym - headphones seem to be permanent fixtures.

6 Dec 14 -- OKC keeps trying to sneak people onto my like page, often ones I've never even seen the profile for.

17 Jan 14 -- slowly recovering from sciatic nerve issues, which have had me sleeping sporadically and out of things much of the time
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Recovering from something in my lower back causing Sciatica nerve pain, so I'm hobbling around with a cane. (For some reason a cane makes me just feel injured, while a walker would make me feel old!) Not the way I planned to start 2015, but I will prevail.

Rereading The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People and doing some of the practical steps again. This year past has been full of a lot of craziness and it's time to put the important things back in place.

Making 2015 a year to get lots of things accomplished so I come at my next odd age (47 in March 2016) with a running start.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
... learning new software as well as testing and crashing it
... reading and comprehending
... writing - not published, except one short story, but someday!
... using lots and lots of words to express things in multiple ways (pleonastic!)
... being incredibly evasive when someone gets too pushy.
... looking up things on the internet to get answers.
... laughing at the absurdities in life.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Given the number of "great smile" comments, that's at the top of the list.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
It's so hard to decide on favorites as they vary with my mood and in some cases the list would get too long and still leave out something I loved.

Books, for example, Anne McCaffery's Pern novels, Broken God, Deed of Paksennarion, Red Mars series (by Kim Stanley Robinson), Heinlein and Asimov, and so much more. I once dreamed of reading every book in my middle school library before realizing how many there really were.

Movies. I adore the jet scenes in Top Gun as well as the scenes about Goose's death. Fifth Element has just the right humor to tickle my whimsy. Stargate and the subsequent TV series (watched via Netflix). Really enjoyed "Now You See Me" and "White House Down" in 2013, and the standout for 2014 was "Guardians of the Galaxy". Yes, action/adventure is my top movie preference! Sci-fi can be hit or miss, but enjoyable.

TV. I don't watch it at all, though I see bits of things at the gym. I haven't owned a TV in a while, and for a long time it was just to play console games (SNES, PS, PS2, GC, etc.) Way back I did watch such things as Babylon 5 (awesome series) and Star Trek: TNG and DS9 and Farscape and Alias- though watching series via Netflix is far more enjoyable. I clearly have a genre preference.

Music. Energy, dance beat, positive lyrics, some pop. Vocal trance, freestyle, old school rap, techno, latin dance.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Stars (sun and others)
My mind
Sense of touch
Chocolate (not really, but fun to include)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
... everything. Overthinking it, in fact. I probably have explanations on more than half of the nearly 5000 questions I've answered here.
... new ways to connect stuff I already know

A recent example of the wild directions my brain can go is this:

We learn about recessive and dominant genes, usually in some biology class before high school. With all the talk about decoding the human genome, it suddenly struck me that I had no idea if there's some obvious physical difference between a dominant gene and a recessive one, or if the only way we know/decide dominance is based on finding pairings of one each and seeing which presents. I then got off into wondering if there was a physical difference, whether it could be swapped - naturally or in a lab.

I'm sure there are scientists out there with the answers (or the labs to look for them), but for me these are the seeds of imagination that go into what I consider writing.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
* at the gym after work, or walking on a trail, or ice-skating, or being lazy at home, or
* out with one of my adult children, or
* planning my weekend so I can get everything done and have fun too.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
If I was willing to admit it, it wouldn't be private. I will talk about all sorts of things, but I do have a privacy line I don't cross often.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
ABSOLUTELY CRITICAL: Don't waste time sending me a message if you cannot avoid chatspeak. Examples: "Where n CA r u?" and "Was you number?" and "I tHiNk uR cUtE". You might get a polite response, but I'll [HIDE] your profile mighty quick. (This does not mean I hate on misspellings and grammar. There's a massive difference between not being great with language and deliberately butchering it.)

IMPORTANT: I am not on OKC looking for 1) dating 2) romance, 3) sex, 4) D/s play 5) anything else that turns into a euphemism for more than "just friends". Yes, any of those COULD happen, but I don't want to be rush to "meet for coffee" to find out if "we click" so we can "get intimate" or kiss, cuddle, hold hands, make out. Give me a reason to want to know you other than wanting to test physical chemistry and prove you want me for something other than how my picture looks.

CAREFUL: I don't consider myself a feminist, but I am a humanist. The difference is that I seek an ideal future in which no label is used to define and limit an individual - whether it is gender, race, age, sexuality, or anything else.

USEFUL: I don't care for excess small talk. It's boring. Hello. How was your day? How was your weekend? I could write a bot to respond (hmmmm ... now there's an idea). If you actually want to talk to ME, get me engaged in the conversation. Talk about what interests you, what you find funny, what new thing you learned today.

ALSO USEFUL: I don't care for "nice pic" and "great smile" compliments. That tells me you looked at my profile picture, and probably nothing else. Expect a "Thank you" and silence.

BOOBY TRAP: Calling me endearments can quickly rub me the wrong way. I'm not dearie or hun or sugar or sweetie, except to one very special person someday, and if there were any chance that would be you, you'd have waited until you knew I was special to use them. =P

POINT OF NO RETURN: Did you really just read all of this and get down here? If so, and you're not already reeling in terror because you're sure I'm nuts (you're right, by the way - I own all the voices in my head), maybe just maybe you've got enough crazy to travel the obstacle course called getting to know me. It'll take time, it'll take work, it's an enormous challenge, and there's no guaranteed prize. Still want to try?