Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
ABSOLUTELY CRITICAL: Don't waste time sending me a message if you
cannot avoid chatspeak. Examples: "Where n CA r u?" and "Was you
number?" and "I tHiNk uR cUtE". You might get a polite response,
but I'll [HIDE] your profile mighty quick. (This does not mean I
hate on misspellings and grammar. There's a massive difference
between not being great with language and deliberately butchering
IMPORTANT: I am not on OKC looking for 1) dating 2) romance, 3)
sex, 4) D/s play 5) anything else that turns into a euphemism for
more than "just friends". Yes, any of those COULD happen, but I
don't want to be rush to "meet for coffee" to find out if "we
click" so we can "get intimate" or kiss, cuddle, hold hands, make
out. Give me a reason to want to know you other than wanting to
test physical chemistry and prove you want me for something other
than how my picture looks.
CAREFUL: I don't consider myself a feminist. That is because I
believe equal opportunities, rights, and privileges should be
available to everyone, regardless of gender identity, sexuality,
age, race, nationality, wealth/class, or any other categorization
possible. That means I don't put up with prejudices and
stereotypes. I'm not a "typical woman", and expecting me to respond
like one is doomed.
USEFUL: I don't care for excess small talk. It's boring. "Hello.
How was your day? How was your weekend?" I could write a bot to
respond (hmmmm ... now there's an idea). If you actually want to
talk to ME, get me engaged in the conversation. Talk about what
interests you, what you find funny, what new thing you learned
today, a movie you watched, an album you listened to, a sports game
(NOT basketball >_<) you saw.
ALSO USEFUL: I don't care for "nice pic" and "great smile"
compliments. That tells me you looked at my profile picture, and
probably nothing else. Expect a "Thank you" and silence.
BOOBY TRAP: Calling me endearments can quickly rub me the wrong
way. I'm not dearie or hun or sugar or sweetie, except to one very
special person someday. If there is any chance that would be you,
you'll know when we're at a cutesie name point because I'll call
you dearie or hun or sugar or sweetie. (Don't like that? Go back to
CAREFUL and reconsider whether you really want to talk to
POINT OF NO RETURN: Did you really just read all of this and get
down here? If so, and you're not already reeling in terror because
you're sure I'm nuts (you're right, by the way - I own all the
voices in my head), maybe just maybe you've got enough crazy to
travel the obstacle course called getting to know me. It'll take
time, it'll take work, it's an enormous challenge, and there's no
guaranteed prize. Still want to try?