(updated 19 Oct 15)
I'm selfish, opinionated, stubborn, skeptical, boring, ethical, contradictory, and much more. ("Defensive, concise, precise, and afraid" was one person's summary based on my profile.)
I joined OKC to do a personality test, got answering questions wondering how many there were. I'm at 10,791 so far (in spite of 700+ disappearing at one point) and have two profiles bookmarked with several thousand more. Does it help the match percentage? Not really, as few people have answered ones that fit into my mandatory / deal-breaker range. I visit a lot of profiles looking for more questions, but I also enjoy the essays and the wide variety of people.
Some things about me you'd learn from the questions:
I do not and never have smoked. Anything. I never will. I expect the same from a partner. I am not 420 friendly. (People related to me by blood and their partners get an exception. A partner does not.) Minor clarification: while I'm not 420 friendly, I consider it as much a personal choice as tobacco and alcohol. I'm not a crusader against drug use. I simply have no use for it myself, and no desire to have people in my life close enough to affect me use. I've seen the impact, no matter how much someone claims it doesn't harm anyone.
The only drugs I have ever taken were medical in the range of antibiotics, pain reliever, and blood thinner. I expect the same from a partner. I'm very iffy about psych drugs and the range of mental disorders for which they are prescribed. I would prefer a partner who wasn't going to crash emotionally or mentally because they failed to take a pill, or who might have wild mental side effects because they took one. I only drink on rare occasions and the only reason is enjoying the flavor of certain ones. I expect a partner's use of alcohol to be low to minimal (or none) and for the right reasons.
My relationships are exclusive and closed. I'm very opposed to cheating for any reason. I expect the same from a partner. I'm cool with people who have open and/or polyamorous relationships, but only as friends. I personally choose not to get involved more because I can't expect them to be exclusive.
I have three kids, all independent adults at this time. I raised the younger two. The third was adopted, open, and I see her and her mom occasionally. I'm now past an age where I'd consider having more children. I love my kids, but I don't really like having dependents. A partner would have to be very special for me to consider any role that led to making allowance for his time, energy, and attention being appropriated by child(ren). Ditto for an adult who wants to be cared for, really. I want my partner to be a capable, independent adult who can add to my life, not a dependent who takes more work.
I was married in 1991 and divorced in 1996. He fathered the younger two. I won't get involved with alcoholics, cheaters, or men who want traditional housewives. (NOTE: Obviously it wasn't just his issues that broke us apart. Those are just the big obvious things I won't repeat.)
I am 5'7.75" (1/4-inch curse, but I usually say I'm 5'8" for simplicity.) I'm not picky about height in a partner, other than finding extremes a little much. By that I mean shorter than 4'8" or taller than 6'8" - more than a foot would take some getting used to. My weight has ranged from 150 to 250. Ideal is around 165, particularly if I'm lifting regularly, but I love food and if I'm not being careful or my activity is cut due to injuries, I tend to go back up. My pictures are of me in the 230-245 range, so you can get an idea of how solidly I tend to carry that. I'm not too picky about weight, though beer guts tends to get a bit off-putting when they roll over a belt. Thick but solid is more comfortable. More important to me is that someone likes to be active and cares about their general health.
I'm well aware of the gender and sexuality spectrums. I am female-bodied, cool with that, but not particularly feminine. I don't fit a lot of stereotypes, and sometimes call myself gender-neutral. I know people of all sorts of variations. If you want to know about it, great, but if you want to stick to binary only we probably aren't going to get along well.
I'm somewhat involved with the local BDSM/kink community and active on FL. However, I have no "must have" kinks. If you are not into any of that, the only thing you'll run into is the fact I'm not traditional. (If you think men don't clean houses and you expect to be "man of the house" and "king of your castle", I'm not the partner for you.) If you are into BDSM/kink, I identify as relationship dominant and kink top. There are a variety of kinks I would have fun topping for, but if the only place you're submissive / kinky is the bedroom, I'm not the dominant woman you seek.
I'm non-religious, atheist (no belief in a superior being/deity), and spiritual (I'm a being controlling a physical body). I was raised a Jehovah's Witness, so I've read the Bible more than once, and know more stories from it than most Christians I've met. I don't celebrate holidays unless I want to - they're secular, but sometimes the traditions are fun, and sometimes people I care about enjoy them. I am not antagonistic toward religious people. I think beliefs hold a power of their own, and am quite likely to tell a Christian with a problem to pray about it - though having them fail to respect my beliefs and say "God bless you" is a bit ironic. I find rabid atheists as annoying as raving fundamentalists.
Obviously there is a whole lot more. My "Personality" tab says I'm more Rational, Sloppy, Literary, Independent, Nerdy, Playful, Liberal, Dominant, Greedy, Lawful, and Mathematical - and less Progressive, Spiritual, Experienced, Romantic, Spontaneous, Outgoing, Indie, Ambitious, Compassionate, Friendly and Giving. The Meyers-Briggs whatnot test says I'm INTJ (the Scientist). I'm a Pisces, but often joke that the universe made me to prove how nuts astrology was. (Someone once did a full star chart on me and said Pisces is my sun sign, moon sign, and several other planets were there to boot, but no description of Pisces has ever made any sense applied to me.) Maybe Earth Rooster fits better, but really ... if we're going to go that far, learn about me instead of a categorization.