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45 San Jose, CA Woman


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 18–99
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends

My Details

Last Online
Today – 10:07am
5′ 8″ (1.72m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Pisces, and it’s fun to think about
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
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Haha, yes, I realize that I don't actually summarize myself in this section. If you really want to know something about me, check the other sections or start reading some of my wordy explanations to questions. (I talk as much as I write. You've been warned.)

I originally made this profile some years ago to do quizzes and answer questions. I've answered over 4000 now, and often seek out unanswered questions on others' profiles just for the fun of answering them. (As of Nov '14, I've answered all the ones by OKC, though I do keep finding a few new ones in other's Q&A section -- 4750 so far.)

CleverAvatar is just a nick I made up based on trying to make the avatar (the picture shown on my profile) "clever" without really showing me. That picture got removed by OKC - so yes, the avatar and the other picture I have up now are really me. Both at the gym - headphones seem to be permanent fixtures.

I do not use OKC to look for romance or sex or a date. This isn't to say it can't happen, but if just chatting or just being friends would be a waste your time, now's your chance to save some.

Please pay attention to what I say under "You should message me if" -- it is there for a reason.

11 Nov 14 -- Because OKC changed their rating system, I am changing how I use it. [HIDE] will be applied to anyone whose profile or Questions fit certain parameters. Smoke? Like getting drunk? 420-friendly? Think cheating is okay under any circumstances? Overly strong prejudices toward race, gender, sexuality? [HIDE] Don't let it bother you. There's obviously a LOT of people who could be interested, and they aren't the ones hiding you. (This apparently doesn't stop me from getting messages, and 99.9% of the time I'll respond.)

I won't be doing [LIKE] often (currently only 3 people, 2 I talk to a lot and one I sincerely liked the profile of that much.) I just discovered [BOOKMARK] gives me a private list of profiles I like. However, because OKC butchered the QuickMatch, I have to [LIKE] at least temporarily to have a way to see the rest of the profile. So you might get a message that I [LIKE] you -- and it's only temporary. Apologies for any "It's a Match" messages.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
NaNoWriMo - writing 50k words of a novel during November.

Turkey Trot 5k coming up, and the Santa Run.

Occasional puppy-sitting for my daughter.

Getting back to 3-4 day lifting routine.

Figuring out how to make 2015 a better year, so I can come at my 47th birthday in March 2016 in the best shape (mentally, emotionally, physically, financially and spiritually) as possible. Yay for an odd number and prime!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
... learning new software as well as testing and crashing it
... reading
... writing - not published, except one short story, but someday!
... using lots and lots of words to express things in multiple ways (pleonastic!)
... being incredibly evasive when someone gets too flirty and personal.
... looking up things on the internet to get answers.
... laughing at the absurdities in life.
The first things people usually notice about me
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my hair, my eyes, my smile.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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It's so hard to decide on favorites as they vary with my mood and in some cases the list would get too long and still leave out something I loved.

Books, for example, Anne McCaffery's Pern novels, Broken God, Deed of Paksennarion, Red Mars series (by Kim Stanley Robinson), Heinlein and Asimov, and so much more. I once dreamed of reading every book in my middle school library before realizing how many there really were.

Movies. I adore the jet scenes in Top Gun as well as the scenes about Goose's death. Fifth Element has just the right humor to tickle my whimsy. Stargate and the subsequent TV series (watched via Netflix). Really enjoyed "Now You See Me" and "White House Down" in 2013, and the standout for 2014 was "Guardians of the Galaxy". Yes, action/adventure is my top movie preference! Sci-fi can be hit or miss, but enjoyable.

TV. I don't watch it at all, though I see bits of things at the gym. I haven't owned a TV in a while, and for a long time it was just to play console games (SNES, PS, PS2, GC, etc.) Way back I did watch such things as Babylon 5 (awesome series) and Star Trek: TNG and DS9 and Farscape and Alias- though watching series via Netflix is far more enjoyable. I clearly have a genre preference.

Music. Energy, dance beat, positive lyrics, some pop. Vocal trance, freestyle, old school rap, techno, latin dance.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Stars (sun and others)
My mind
Sense of touch
Chocolate (not really, but fun to include)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
* ways to connect together things I'm reading and learning with other things that seem unrelated. Sometimes the littlest thing can be applied to something else to give a greater and richer understanding.
* everything. Overthinking it, in fact. Ask me a simple yes or no question, and odds are I'll spend the next 20 minutes coming up with the best way to answer, likely without a yes or a no.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
* at the gym after work, or walking on a trail, or ice-skating, or being lazy at home, or
* out with one of my adult children, or
* planning my weekend so I can get everything done and have fun too.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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If I was willing to admit it, it wouldn't be private. I will talk about all sorts of things, but I do have a privacy line I don't cross often.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
ABSOLUTELY CRITICAL: Don't waste time sending me a message if you cannot avoid chatspeak. Examples: "Where n CA r u?" and "Was you number?" and "I tHiNk uR cUtE". You might get a polite response, but I'll [HIDE] your profile mighty quick. (This does not mean I hate on misspellings and grammar. There's a massive difference between not being great with language and deliberately butchering it.)

IMPORTANT: I am not on OKC looking for 1) dating 2) romance, 3) sex, 4) D/s play 5) anything else that turns into a euphemism for more than "just friends". Yes, any of those COULD happen, but I don't want to be rush to "meet for coffee" to find out if "we click" so we can "get intimate" or kiss, cuddle, hold hands, make out. Give me a reason to want to know you other than wanting to test physical chemistry and prove you want me for something other than how my picture looks.

USEFUL: I don't care for excess small talk. It's boring. Hello. How was your day? How was your weekend? I could write a bot to respond (hmmmm ... now there's an idea). If you actually want to talk to ME, get me engaged in the conversation. Talk about what interests you, what you find funny, what new thing you learned today.

ALSO USEFUL: I don't care for "nice pic" and "great smile" compliments. That tells me you looked at my profile picture, and probably nothing else. Expect a "Thank you" and silence.