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51 New York, NY Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 38–48
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5′ 11″ (1.80m)
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Graduated from masters program
Politics / Government
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Likes dogs
English (Poorly), Hebrew (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Bought a convertible sports car. Driving upstate, Pennsylvania, Vermont, everywhere. That's my new reality. The rest of my ramblings here? Whatever.
Thinking is so last century. I need to go to a new place. I'm seeking meaning, and I don't believe the usual tools of analysis, evaluation, rationality, and intellect are useful. I need to stop thinking, to continue a journey of exploring in the most basic manner, with colors, shapes, objects. Yes, that describes the creation of art I've been working on for the past year, but it's not art for art's sake. It's searching in the dark, and somehow someway this may, while shunning intellect and thinking, help me find what matters. It may have to do with being transformational at all times, but maybe not. Hard to not think my way to awareness, but I'm not giving up. You up for that?

The more I live, the less I know. Which is OK - knowledge ain't what it's cracked up to be. We drift on unseen currents and eddies, we glean, we change each moment.

We live, we work, we're just getting started. (From the film "10 Items or Less")
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm throwing myself into the future. And occasionally breaking. I recently dropped a heavy barbell on my shoulder, snapped and shredded all sorts of things in there, but the Miracle Doctor sliced and diced, and seems to have fixed me up. So it's a time of easy contemplation, followed by physical therapy down the road. An adventure, of sorts.

(This next paragraph is from when I had a motorcycle a couple of years ago.) I had a magical 1200 mile ride, from N. Carolina, up the Blue Ridge Parkway, then through the magnificent twisting mountain roads of West Virginia, the most beautiful place I've ever seen. Some cultural adventures in Western Pennsylvania Warhol, Fallingwater) followed by the inescapable lure of the Amish, gotta love the Amish.

Houseswapping. Rio, Santa Fe, Maui. Next up is Hanoi - life is such a What Will Happen Next?!?
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Each morning I walk onto my terrace and look for the commuter trains, ferries, helicoptors, planes, buses, trucks, taxis, cars, motorcycles, bicycles, in-line skaters, and pedestrians. I like to see them all as I'm air-drying from my shower. It's a simple, child-like ritual. Then I get dressed and walk to work.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My piercing gaze? My generous laugh and sculpted cheekbones? My arrogance? I don't know.

People notice my sense of humor, but they are wrong to notice it, usually it's just my active mind pondering this or that outside of ordinary bounds, so they say, "Man you are so funny!" when I'm not being funny at all.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Grendel & The Alchemist. And lately Shantaram.

A Strange Place to Meet & Fight Club. And lately The English Patient.

The Decemberists & Velvet Underground. And lately Carla Bruni. Leonard Cohen's The Future - wow.

Fruit & Beer (my great grandmother the bootlegger fed my mother beer and bananas when she was a toddler - it runs in the family). And lately protein shakes. No, not the old people kind, the weightlifter kind.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
When I was running in Central Park I thought, This is it, people need trees and grass, it's a primary connection, nothing is stronger, then when I was running along the Hudson I thought, Forget the damn trees, it's water we need, so I'll choose
1. trees.
2. flowing water.
3. Collaboration: I can't do it alone.
4. Colors. B&W works for movies and photos, but I wouldn't want it as a permanent condition.
5. Surprises. I guess I mean a confounding of expectations, and while expectations seem to be an anchor, a result of closed mindedness, without some expectations there can never be surprises, so I accept my closed mindedness.
6. Optimism. I mean, geez, imagine life without that?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Meaning. Just trying to find something that resonates. Joy is easy. Meaning is elusive. Someday!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Home. Or away. Depends on the schedule.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm too whatever for my own good. Which means I create a life which will never truly be satisfying. And still, it's the only life that will be right for me.
You should message me if
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If you believe that we are the music makers and we are the dreamers of dreams (Wonka/O'Shaughnessy).

If you believe that the potential of the human individual is infinite (Tilman)

If you believe that play, passion, creativity, learning, generosity, kindness and deadly yet flavorful spice are the ingredients for a life well lived.