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36 Tampa, FL Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 25–38
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

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Last online
Yesterday – 10:48pm
Native American, Hispanic / Latin, White
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body type
Strictly anything
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Capricorn, and it’s fun to think about
Dropped out of university
Art / Music / Writing
Rather not say
Has a kid
Has cats
English, Japanese (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I didn't know the character limit on names, it was supposed to be ClockworkDragonfly.

I'm a single dad who doesn't feel he could possibly ever spend enough time with his little girl, but enjoys every little moment he can get. I miss being a stay at home dad, best experience ever, but in the end her mother and I didn't see eye to eye on where our relationship was going. This is where most people would fib a little or lie a lot and tell you there's ZERO drama. I won't do that, I'll be bluntly honest and say now that while there's a minimal amount of current drama, I'm still dealing with some heavy aftereffects of prior drama (such as not having a license atm, despite the fact that the child support order was supposed to be rescinded when I became a stay at home father) which have kept me from trying to move forward in the relationship sense.

EDIT 6/31/2011
Leave it to my daughter's mother to make a liar out of me. There's a lot of drama right now, moving me even farther off the market... at a time when I most need a shoulder to cry and/or lean on. Lawsuits & custody battles are all that are in my foreseeable future... not something I'm really equipped to handle with my social anxiety... or in a financial sense for that matter.

EDIT March 2012
Still no resolution to custody/child support issues. I have my daughter a minimum of 5 days/4 nights EVERY week, often times more. As a result, I am still without my own transportation and often only have 1 or 2 days kidlet-free (one of which is often spent doing other "dad" things such as laundry, dishes, and cleaning up stray toys anyway) to do anything even if I were able to get around.

In fact, chances are that if you're someone I may have favorited without sending any message, it's because I'm not confident yet that I have enough to offer beyond being a good father, a gamer, a geek, and an okay (not amazing, but better than many) person.

I've got baggage, we all do... But it's not about your baggage, it's about how you carry it.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Currently I'm working on smoothing out some rather huge rough spots and get back on track.

Eventually I would like to go back to college and finish my teaching degree, but as time wears on that seems less likely as I need to start preparing more for my daughter's future than my own.

I'm also rebuilding my crafts business as a side project and adding blacksmithing to my artistic repertoire.
For those interested to know more about the artsy stuff:
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Leather working, being self deprecating, baking (and I'm not too shabby at other forms of cooking either), wrist & hand massages, and a bit of metal working.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm fairly average as far as I can tell. Recently someone told me it was my eyes (coupled with a flattering compliment about them).

I've also been told a few times that I resemble Christian Bale. I don't see it, but I've gotten a few messages on here and elsewhere that have said it, so there must be some minor truth in it... might be the scruffy facial hair.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Be warned, I'm going to be one of those people who reads "favorites" as "a big list of various titles, bands, etc because I can't make up my mind or narrow things down to just a few". I'm also going to be one of those people who adds extra categories, cause I can.

Why list so much? To quote the character Rob in High Fidelity:
"... what really matters is what you like, not what you are like... Books, records, films -- these things matter. Call me shallow but it's the fuckin' truth"

What that means in a way is that, while I can debate differing opinions with someone I care about on the subject of politics, religion, child rearing, etc... I find that without common interests of the "shallow" sort, there's a gulf of sorts that's hard to bridge.

Books: Jim Butcher's Dresden Files and Codex Alera series, the Hitchhiker's Guide series, anything by Oscar Wilde, nearly anything by William Gibson, most of Neil Gaiman's works, A Series of Unfortunate Events, a stack of craft books, and now that I have my Sony PRS-600 I convert anything I can find in electronic format.
Right now I'm reading Cherie Priest's Clockwork Century series and SM Stirling's Dies the Fire series on a recommendation until the next Dresden book comes out in a few months.

Magazines: Art Jewelry, Gothic Beauty, Primitive Archer, Traditional Bowhunter (though I don't hunt, it's still one of the best traditional archery mags ever), Lapidary Journal's Jewelry Arts, Wilderness Way, Leather Crafters & Saddlers Journal

Movies: Night of the Living Dead, Dawn of the Dead, Day of the Dead, Land of the Dead, Diary of the Dead, Fido, Shaun of the Dead, Bubba Ho-Tep, Iron Man, The Rocky Horror Picture Show, Evil Dead, Evil Dead 2, Army of Darkness, Sweeny Todd, Shock Treatment, all of the Alien(s) films, the Nightmare on Elm Street series, Clerks, Sid & Nancy, This Is Spinal Tap, Nightmare Before Christmas, Punch Drunk Love, Say Anything, Better Off Dead, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, The Lord of the Rings (I like the films far better than the books, which were not only dry & long winded, but also blatantly racist and misogynistic), anything released by Troma, Grindhouse, Machete, Labyrinth, The Princess Bride, Re-Animator, High Fidelity, Grosse Point Blank, Serenity

Television: Firefly, Red Dwarf, Dexter, Californiacation, Good Eats, Absolutely Fabulous, Monty Python's Flying Circus, The Addams Family, Six Feet Under, Deadwood, The Grim Adventures of Billy & Mandy, Robot Chicken, The Prisoner, LEXX

Anime: NGE, Bubblegum Crisis (the original, though Tokyo 2040 isn't terrible.. but not Crash *retching noises*), Gasaraki, Dai Guard, Trinity Blood, dot hack, Coyote Ragtime Show

Music: Dr. Steel, The Cure, VAST, Gogol Bordello, The Smiths, Rasputina, Richard Cheese & Lounge Against the Machine, They Might Be Giants, Nick Cave & The Bad Seeds, Johnny Cash, The Cramps, The Kinks, The Clash, Siouxie & The Banshees, The Creatures, Kidneythieves, Voltaire, The Crüxshadows, Iggy & The Stooges, Alabama 3, Cake, GWAR, Kraftwerk, Billie Holiday, Devo, VNV Nation, Violent Femmes, Jack Off Jill, Bedlam Bards, The Pierces, Front 242, Alan Parsons Project, Switchblade Symphony, Portishead, Nouvelle Vague, Zombina & The Skeletones, Apoptygma Berzerk, Pop Will Eat Itself, Lemon Demon, Graeme Revell, Reel Big Fish, Mephiskapheles, Massive Attack, MC Frontalot, The Aquabats, Santana, Zeromancer, Malice Mizer, Wolfsheim, And One, White Zombie, Death Cab For Cutie, Freezepop, Björk, Stephen Lynch, The Black Mages, Blue Man Group, Project Pitchfork, Alien Sex Fiend, Enigma, The Sex Pistols, Polysics, Danzig, Motorhead, Black Tape for a Blue Girl, BB King

Food: Sushi, Thai, Cajun, Tex-Mex, Cheesecake

Games: the Castlevania series, the Silent Hill series, Minecraft, Mass Effect, Dead Rising, Disgaea, Rock Band, Half Life, Portal, Katamari Damacy (and its sequels), Shin Megami Tensei, Batman: Arkham Asylum, Borderlands, Little Big Planet
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My daughter.
An intellectual or creative pursuit.
Food that satisfies my palate as well as my hunger.
My fat, arrogant, self centered cat Alton.
My trusty towel.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My daughter's future. What my next big project will be. How to get over my social anxiety without being one of those people who medicates themselves into oblivion.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
A typical Friday night right now involves going over any new job listings that might come up online so that I can get a jump on people who don't job hunt on the weekends, or watching Dr. Who on Netflix with my daughter.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I've got a few that run close.

I was once told I'm "too kinky for vanilla girls, and too vanilla for kinky girls"

I have an account on FetLife.

I never really watched a porn film until I was well into my 20s, and then only because I was doing so with my significant other at the time.

For a time I used to make other people's sex toys/clothing for a living, and I really miss that money.

I never really "dated" much, I was with my HS sweetheart for 8 years after HS and then a couple years later I met the mother of my child and was with her for a few years. So between that and mild social anxiety disorder I'm scared to death of the whole process.

Some days I'm just really lonely... the soul crushing, depressing variety that you just can't seem to shake.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
If you can accept that I'm sort of a work in progress right now. While I don't think it fair that I have to be the lonely one because of the way I'm being treated by my child's mother and the state, I can understand it being a deterrent.