I'm a lot better at asking questions and learning about things and people, but that isn't really the point here. Assorted facts: I...
- live on a fully functional paddle wheeler with 2 marsupials
- have given bike tours in Paris
- have taught nuclear physics
- have trouble finding my car keys
- keep my wit sharpened and I am usually healthily skeptical, but try never to be cynical and always to be fair.
- have an active mind but know how to turn it off and live in the moment
OK, I may as well go ahead and put it all out there. First, my ideal relationship is definitely long-term and committed. It has taken me a lot of years of successful relationships to fine tune that to add that my *ideal* relationship would also include a mutual desire for and enjoyment of occasional, shared play partners. I'm not looking to convert or convince anyone... I want it to be a shared excitement and enhancement to a great relationship every once in a while. I'm far from thinking that life/enjoyment/love are a zero sum game or a case of splitting up the existing pie. Let's make a bigger pie and enjoy it all! Life is too short to limit ourselves. Labels are difficult, and I'm not sure if this counts as "poly" since I personally am not looking to explore on my own. But I have my shit together in life, and I feel like I have arrived at a place where I can see more great possibilities than most... and hope to share it with someone else that appreciates the same. If you have read this far, maybe you also think "pure" monogamy is a difficult thing and you are open minded enough to enjoy talking about fun/sustainable ways to make relationships work. Even if you aren't up for shared play partners, the concept of enjoying the discussion and coming up with something that works for everyone is enough for me.