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35 Melbourne, Australia Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 33–43
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Apr 19
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body type
Mostly vegetarian
Virgo, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am a warm, open, impassioned woman, with plenty of depth and lots of soul. I'm a Melbourne gal. Although, I am not sure where I will end up: hopefully, a little out of town, somewhere green, homely, surrounded by my veggies and the trees. We will see. I tend to oscillate between a desire for simplicity and adventure.

I value close relationships, which these days tend to be mostly one-on-one. Music, dance, film, laughter, friendship, dreaming, and nature fill my world. Feeling connected is important. That encompasses friends, family, the earth, food, world happenings or just myself.

I enjoy my work, and value an opportunity to make a difference. This is becoming increasingly important. I am a social creature - most would say I'm an extravert, but need a lot of my own space just to be: write, meditate, move, scribble, read.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I seem to be on a continual threshold - mainly that's the continuing thread of establishing myself as a fully self-employed adult. This has been a bold, exciting and sometimes scary adventure. One day I will feel completely competent in what I do and offer to the world. I am a besotted aunty. My world is full. I am content with myself, my work and my various passions.- And there is room for one more more. I am genuinely looking for a longterm relationship.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Being brave, throwing myself into life. I'm hungry for experience.
I'm also fine company! True.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My face is open and warm, I have a big smile. If you're less visual and more kinesthetic, you'll notice that I feel comfortable in my own skin, I'm embodied and have a strong presence. I have big dance moves.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Music: Eclectic and often shifting: First Aid Kit, Joan as Police Woman, Nick Cave, Nina Simone, revisiting Talking Heads, Ludovico Einuadi, Dirty Three, Bill Calaghan, Madeline Peyroux, LEONARD, Gillian Welch, Dirt Music, Electro-Swing, BRUCE, Joan Baez, Roxette, Iron and Wine, Eileen Jewel and much more!

Books: Always reading. I'm a compulsive purchaser. Lots of non-fiction, Jungians and other psych-based books. Plenty of novels, nothing better than complete immersion. Recently: Funder, Winton, Murakami & Kundera.

Flicks: I dig the flicks, and get to the Nova regularly. Like my profession, it is the darker & intense kind, which grab me. I will watch anything that doesn't fall under the banner of Hollywood Trash.

Food: One word: OTTOLENGHI. For the uninitiated, whole foods, organic veggies, dark chocolate (often in large amounts).
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Good personal conversation
Moving and Grooving - particularly dance and yoga
Being in nature
Rich juicy women
Reading in the bath for hours on end
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What to study next? What workshop to do and how I wish I could do it all. Being an adult really has its limitations (but that's not what I am thinking about).
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Winding down from the week, which can involve a quiet glass of wine, a meal at my folks or just having a quiet time - making home.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm practicing containment!
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You tend to go against the grain. You are authentically looking for a relationship. Are interesting, engaged and intrigued by the wacky way of the world. You have a solid sense of yourself - both inside yourself and also in the world. I dig ideas & intellect. You are kind and probably a little left of centre; possibly creative, in whatever manifestation. You are fun, physical and embodied. You know how to communicate...or you give it a good shot. Light enough, with a capacity to be with the complex and the serious. I am tactile, chemistry is vital. Someone who can meet me.