Aiyaiayaiiii! I just finished and uploaded my first erotic novella! Super proud of myself, but finding the marketing is waaaaaay harder and more time consuming than the actual writing.
I've spent the past few years indulging in my varied interests: graduate studies in sexuality; psychology; aromatherapy; soap making; and writing. Right now I'm figuring out how it all cobbles together into a business that is uniquely me, all while continuing to make my living in the film industry.
In my spare time, I read, take dance classes, and enjoy good wine and dinners. I generally spend my time with a few close friends instead of a large group of acquaintances, but I do love the occasional wrap party or shinding.
I thrive on change and crave adventure. This translates into the occasional period of restlessness in my life. I’ve changed careers (teaching, film, entrepreneur), my province and country of residence (Alberta, Japan, Alberta, BC). I love travel and road trips. These days I'm fantasizing about selling my apartment, travelling the world, and rejecting the consumerism of our society.
But I like nice shoes and wine and dinners out. As well as massages. And Netflix. And pedicures. And books. I love reading.
In my love life, this love of change has led to all kinds of experimentation and a large degree of openness. Ultimately, I don’t believe sexual fidelity=emotional fidelity, but that’s a place to journey to together in whatever way works for both of us.
Basic stats. You are:
1) between 30-42ish
2) have an established career and are financially secure
3) do not have sole custody of any children
4) are somewhat feminist in that you won't try to slut shame me, take care of me, own me, be uncomfortable with my success, or have a double standard for male vs female behaviour, or think I have some sort of obligation to reply to your message.
Also like change and adventure, but realize the people on your journey are important. You’re passionate about what you do, and educated. You can make plans, make a decision, communicate what you want. You’re ethical. You’ll get dirty when it’s called for. You’re kind to the less fortunate and like puppies. You know what you need to nurture your mind, body, and soul and do it regularly. You are not religious (total deal breaker). You know there’s much much more to this world than can ever be communicated in word or pictures. You like travel and are up for getaways and adventures whenever possible, be it a weekend in a campsite, a 5 start resort in Mexico, or wandering the streets of Paris. You value freedom of choice and expression and know your way isn’t the only or best way. And, the intangible, you have chemistry with me.