What do I hope to gain from here? Honestly, I have low expectations. It is hard to find people to connect with on a personal level due to the current pool of gay men. No, I am not a snob, I just value a persons ability to do more than drink and party. This also doesn't mean that I'm opposed to drinking socially and or "going out", I just don't obsess over it like most. Enjoying another persons company and personality is by far most important when developing relationships (friends or more). Previous relationships have resulted in dishonesty in every form, and frankly I am a little jaded.
I find modesty, intelligence (again modesty is key), hobbies/interests, and education to be most attractive. Physical attractiveness plays a part but is by far not as important as personality. One fundamental change in my dating future is to eliminate closeted or "DL" guys. My reasons are not because I feel that everyone should be out, people have their reasons and that's fine. However, I have found people who are closeted or recently out haven't experienced much of the gay world and are not very developed in intimate relationships and have a whole slew of issues that are extremely detrimental to a relationship. After being in a relationships for sometime, the risk that they will decide they want to explore more and eventually leave, cheat, and or experiment is not something I want to experience again. I don't want to be someone's gay crutch, I have too much to offer to be used in that way. I do not want to set myself up for emotional distress later. We can be friends but I will not get involved any further.