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  • Ages 33–61
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Aug 29
Hispanic / Latin, White
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Other, and laughing about it
Aquarius, but it doesn’t matter
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Likes dogs and likes cats
My self-summary
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My dad was Brazilian intellectual. My mom was a Michigan Farm girl. I'm a study in contrasts. I'm intelligent-both intellectually and emotionally. I love conversation. The dance and flow where both are heard and seen. Where speaking is not verbal jousting, though I don't mind at all being pushed, I just hate being competed with.

I'm funny, irreverent, self-deprecating. I musical. I play guitars, piano, mandolin, banjo and writes songs and instrumentals. Music is a very good addiction for me. My music has been on NPR 3 times. I'm very creative in general. I tend to think outside the box.

I've taken some personality tests. Helen Fisher's test from the book "Why Him, Why Her" (a fun test, by the way). The results said I am a Negotiator-Explorer. I agree. Which means that I want to connect emotionally (can't live without it!), and need to communicate, calibrate, and find equilibrium in my relationships. If men are from Mars and women are from Venus, then someone snuck me off from Venus before depositing me on Mars where other men all too often look at me with the "where the heck did you come from!" look. I'm very male, straight, ect. Played sports, still work out, can do all that boy stuff, am not helpless with tools, etc. but i'm very much like a girl in that I want to talk/connect/listen/empathize. Really it is true.

I'm a balanced evenly between feeling/thinking. Between extrovert/introvert. I hope that gives a bit of insight into who I am. Who can really tell from online anyway?
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm a half-time parent to 2 boys ages 8 & 14. I completed my junior year at PSU last year in the Speech Language Pathologist program. I'm a gigging musician. You'll see me round town at Farmers Markets through out the Market Season. The Willamette Week called me "A weaver of 12 string wonders",
I’m really good at
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Cooking, Gardening, Music, Parenting, Listening, Loving
The first things people usually notice about me
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It depends on the context that they meet you in, I think, but in general that I'm friendly, smart, funny, charming, and a good listener.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Fav's include music: U2, Elvis Costello, Sam Phillips, Tori Amos, John Prine, Iron & Wine, too many others to even begin to mention. Movies: V for Vendetta, Shakespeare in Love, Apocalypse Now, Galaxy Quest. Books: The Deep by John Crowley (really beautiful prose and a haunting myth of a tale). Lots of Ursula LeGuin including The Left Hand of Darkness, and the Dispossessed. E.L. Doctorow's Loon Lake. I love to cook and eat good healthy food. Thai, Mexican, etc. I love Cook's Illustrated (I've got the online version). Their "nearly no kneed" bread recipe is great!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My kids
My music
Connecting on a deep meaningful level
Nature's beauty
Coffee (ummm...espresso with creme on the top!)
Good conversation
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Too much about politics and the state of the world. About my kids. About whatever lyric is running around in my head. About what to cook for dinner.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Usually at home cooking, maybe at friends house for dinner, could be playing music or going to a movie.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Smart women are sexy!
You should message me if
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If you know who you are, have done your personal work. You know how to share. That you believe that genuine love is based upon deep friendship. Sex & romance are the dessert. Friendship is the meal. Nothing wrong with dessert (more please!! and a little hot spice in the romance is nice) but you can't live on that. If you can't talk to each other who cares about the fireworks? You are not afraid to be vulnerable. The depth of friendship makes being vulnerable safe and enhances, well, everything, really.