- I am the spring in your step and coy smile on your face.
- I am the angel on your shoulder and the demon at your hip.
- I am the Java in your coffee and your glass half full.
- I am a conundrum wrapped in a riddle climbing a tree, that you will never hear… falling in a dense wood, that you will never smell… high in a jagged mountain range, that you will never see… on an island surrounded by the deepest ocean, that you will never taste… on the far side of a distant planet being turned into an atomic heat, that you will never feel… at the event horizon of a black-hole, soon to be transported to your universe... senses reborn.
- I am the universe attempting to know itself... how could that possibly fit in a ridiculous little box.
- I am much more than a few images could ever capture... and am nothing at all.
- I am more to come.

I'm not carrying around a glass slipper. They're too specific, uncomfortable, fragile, transparent, and heavy... and they're likely to cut to the bone. If you're focused on being found by Prince Charming I suggest you move on to the next profile… I'm not looking for you. If instead you understand that life, and love, is a journey, not a destination, then read on.

My friend's profile starts with the line: "I'm busy. I like sex. That's the bulk of it." Her straight forward, no BS, approach is the inspiration behind this profile. We're a 99% match and get on famously, but alas, she only dates young 20 something studs. I call her specific requirements her emotional condom... she agrees. While I'm looking for something deeper and more meaningful, I think it's great that she's found what works for her.

I've come to the determination that men and women are essentially looking for the same thing... 'the one', but, on a primal level, come at it from different ends of a spectrum; men from the instinct to spread their seed and women from the instinct to nurture. We all have both instincts, but are at odds in our perspective. Personally, I'm toward the middle of that spectrum and am looking for my counterpart.

I seek special memories in an ongoing quality relationship with a quality woman. You want to concentrate on making the most of each encounter without being tied down by convention, by what may be, or by some fanciful ideal society has spoon fed you... but by what is, here and now. While I'm wired to concentrate on one woman, until the one that I’d rather not live without comes into my life I intend to enjoy the connections I develop with open honest communication and without a preconceived notion of what defines a relationship. I'm open to whatever works... that's what really matters. Love is not chosen... no matter how badly it's wanted. If it should find me it will not be denied. I hope it does, but I don't intend to put my life on hold waiting around for it.

I have more definitive face images for those who are interested. I promise, I tend to be relatively attractive.

Searching for special memories and defying definition.

fulfilling a wide variety of desires... and eating ice cream with a fork.

My height is the obvious answer. Women tend to notice my hands. A woman I met recently commented "you are tall, warm and playful. Big hands :)"... like I said. The guy at the corner store said I look 5 years younger than I actually am. There seems to be some consensus on this.

satisfy some of my senses and not others.

Sex, intimacy, companionship, wit, intellect, exercise, tips, and a box of tools.

why relationships have to be so complicated... and which sock to put on first in the morning.

what they were thinking when they created X or Y product? Why does it look and feel the way it does? How is it put together? How many workers did it take to assemble and how long did it take them? Why did they put that button here instead of over there and what pixies finger does it fit? How, where, and why does it intersect with our lives? I think about products often.

whether God would exist if there were no questions, only answers. It's too bad man has felt the need to fabricate answers to unanswerable questions. True understanding makes God irrelevant.

not doing what I'd really like to be doing.

I know this profile isn't very funny, but I assure you I have a sense of humor. I picked one up for a song at the thrift store around the corner. The owners manual's missing and it looks like it fell off the back of a truck... it's probably busted. I guess that's why the shop owner seemed so pleased with my crappy rendition of Burning Down the House. Okay... so it's definitely busted. I promise to pick up a new one at Walgreen's tomorrow.

I mainly just poke around on here and maintain some friendships I've developed. I'm not shy, but sending out messages is largely a crap shoot. I'd rather save the time and bandwidth for someone who wants it... so you should contact me if you're interested. That being said, these images say very little about me... I'm selective and not interested in random hook ups. I prefer someone close to my age, but it's more about the person... although I'm not likely to date a woman much older than I am.

- you're clairvoyant
- you're reasonably fit
- you're local to San Francisco
- you've answered at least 150 questions
- we have a minimum of an 80% match score
- you can provide access to at least two images, face and body

I've left a number of interesting departure points in this mix of words for you to play off. They are there for your benefit... use them!... or something interesting from your unique universe. It doesn't have to be long, just put as much thought and effort into it as you would expect from a man. I respond to all messages because I believe in the golden rule.

May you find and live your desires... enjoy!
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I recently sent this message off to a woman with a common issue here on OKC:

We live way too far apart for me to be interested in you, but I saw your messaging delima and thought I'd send a quick note.

I once had a female profile up on OKC and understand how you feel. Any attractive woman can expect to get buried in messages when she first opens an account... double that when you're looking for casual sex... and you can expect a good chunk of it to be undesirable. I applaud your desire to respond to all of them. I responded to every one of the guys who contacted me. The unsavory ones received this reply:

You've been walking through the OKCupid neighborhood looking for a promising woman to solicit and my house has caught your eye. I have a sign clearly posted at my door explaining what kind of person I’m willing to receive. Maybe you don’t bother to read it because you like the looks of my house and just don’t care what my sign says. Maybe you do read it, but figure that I’ll like what you have to offer regardless of what it says. Either way, you think… “It’s just an innocent knock on the door.” You choose to ignore my sign and go ahead and knock. I open my door expecting a nice neighbor who has shown me the courtesy and wisdom to read my sign and make sure they fall within my solicitation preferences. I figure they probably like my sign and have taken the time to think of something interesting to say. Instead I find an inconsiderate salesman who has deliberately ignored my sign and is pedaling something that I have clearly stated that I don’t want. You may be a very nice person, but you've aggravated me and I’m not interested in what you’re selling. Now run along… get off my porch, before I get my broom out… :~ )and I suggest that you read my neighbors signs too. Have a nice day.
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These are my words, but you get the idea. A message like this will be lost on many, but at least you can hold your head high because you're responding and making a stand... you're an instrument of change. As I said, you can expect a lot of messages at first, but this will tamper off in a couple of weeks... quicker if you copy and paste a response like the one I had. I know there are a lot of unsavory guys out there, but hang in there and you'll find that some are very worthwhile.

Cheers,
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Ironically, she never replied. I assume she glanced at my image and deleted the message. At least I tried.

I know it's much easier to just delete the undesirable and unsavory, but what does that accomplish? Men's view on and approach to women is based on their experience with them. Deleting messages says nothing... opportunity missed. Can you imagine how different the OKC experience would be if everyone was open, honest, and practiced the golden rule when messaging? And how different would our world be if no one had ever taken a stand?... gay rights, racism, the disabled, suffrage and feminism, etc... I challenge you to make a stand... to be an instrument of change... and also to just plain be considerate.