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60 Oakland, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 40–59
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 9:31pm
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Buddhism, and laughing about it
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs
English (Fluently), French (Okay), Russian (Okay), Portuguese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I’m a genuinely kind, thoughtful guy with the soul and talent of a musician and writer, and a business career that utilizes my creative and marketing skills. An uncommon combination of wit, sensitivity, street smarts, and a dash of East Coast edge, smoothed out by long-time residence in California.

I enjoy reading, writing, meditation, a good swim or workout, hanging with my three godchildren, spending time with friends, eating out, sleeping in, hikes, dancing to a good Salsa band, playing Samba, Afro-Cuban, Renaissance, jazz, or folk music, and travel. I was in Rome in September and am going to Rio (again) in late January/early February.

I'm seeking someone who's intelligent, kind, and very warm, with humor, vibrancy, a supportive nature, an interest in the arts -- especially music -- and an affinity for psychological/spiritual growth. Fitness and staying in shape are important to me, and I hope to you as well.
What I’m doing with my life
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Experiencing its rich tapestry. I work a little too much these days but I’m generally pretty happy; the only missing piece is a long-term partner.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Playing music, writing, playing with children, long-term friendships with grownups, going to the gym regularly, languages, listening, sharing affection, analyzing things and people (it comes with a writer's mind), telling good jokes and interesting stories, and discussing everything from world affairs to spiritual paths to pop culture to particle physics.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My eyes and my smile
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Music: playing and listening to most anything in the Western music tradition from Renaissance ("early music") to modern, jazz, classic rock, world music, salsa, Brazilian samba, pagode, forro, and sambareggae (bonus points if you’ve even heard of the last 3).

I really like poetry—it’s immediate gratification, mind candy, and soul food rolled into one. Billy Collins, Mary Oliver, Yeats, Rumi, Sharon Olds, Antonio Machado, and many more. I like fiction too but haven’t gravitated to it lately. Looking forward to reading Keith Richards’ autobiography and Brian Greene’s new book.

My taste in movies is all over the place. Some faves are Fargo, Inglorious Basterds, Beasts of the Southern Wild, A Theory of Everything, American Hustle, and all of the Aliens movies.

TV faves: Boardwalk Empire, The Daily Show, The Wire, Mad Men, The Sopranos, Deadwood, Justified, Game of Thrones. True Detective (deliciously weird).

I listen to NPR a lot. BBC news, too.

Food-wise, I’m an omnivore skewing toward the healthy end of the spectrum (not a lot of fried stuff). I like sampling new restaurants, and enjoy about the same range of cuisines as most people, though very spicy-hot isn't for me.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Music, my 3 godchildren, great friends, humor, meditation, good food, chocolate

(Obviously, math didn't make the cut)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
A psychologist friend of mine says that though people on OkC say they want a relationship... most actually don't. Maybe you and I can prove him wrong :-))
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Good chance I'm doing one of these three: playing for a samba dance class in SF in the early evening, having dinner with a friend or two, or working late and then hitting the gym (one reason I’m on this site).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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(1) I am not addicted to my cell phone. I realize that's odd these days. (2) I just don't "get" the appeal of golf; never have, probably never will. (3) I went to a live WWE show with my 2 godsons when they were in their early teens. I think I'll stop there.
You should message me if
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you'd like to see if we have chemistry and possibilities.