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63 M Berkeley, CA

My Details

Last Online
Jul 24
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Agnosticism, and very serious about it
Taurus, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Has cats
English, Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I’m in a period of rediscovery of who I am and who I want to be. It is revitalizing, sad and wonderful. Lost my wife of 27 years to breast cancer 2 years ago and still have two boys on the launch pad. The boys keep me pretty grounded as we work out our futures.
I’ve had three biggish love affairs that resonate through my timeline. Despite being generally blessed in the LTR arena I suspect I haven't exhausted the spectrum of desirable relationships. So I'm looking, it's fun and more free of expectations/needs then at any other time in my life.
What I’m doing with my life
Stay at home dad with a bit of tongue in cheek. Work no longer made sense and my financial scene allowed so I retired. For a while I have been very focused on physical things. Backpacking, trail running, yoga and going out dancing with friends are a few things I've been up to.

Just completed a smallish triathalon and while I'm not sure if this will be a long term thing I enjoyed the actual race way more than I thought I would.

I have an interest in becoming a patient navigator in the future which is very much in line with my past work. No hurry yet, I have to be ready to absorb the new jargon with no eye-rolling.
I’m really good at
Living my life.
The first things people usually notice about me
My smile? My dry sense of humor?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Barbara Kingsolver's Lacuna: Love a story that you know something about and still rings true. Among Others by Jo Walton. It was like finding someone who shared my childhood reading list.
Just saw Kung Fu Hustle again. It is so over the top funny.
Pina Bausch
Patti Smith's performance 2011 at Hardly Strickly. Recently two performances have reminded me why I love live music. Nick Cave at the Warfield and Thao and the Get Down Stay Down at Phono Del Sol.
Can't think of a better place for a long evening with a bunch of friends then Cesar in Berkeley.
My mushroom risotto (with a shout out to Monterrey Market for making it possible)
The six things I could never do without
my boys
trail running and music: usually together
the omnivore experience in all its glory
science fiction ( though it very much seems to be a dying genre)
hardly strictly
travel from backpacking to 1000 thread sheets
I spend a lot of time thinking about
A gap year for my son and equally important one for me. Myanmar? Darien?
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 40–65
  • Near me
  • For new friends
You should message me if
If you only find 1 or 2 things annoying. Really. You know way too much about me and my sum is so much greater than the parts. Thou now that I think about it the parts aren't bad.