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33 Minneapolis, MN Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 31–45
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 6:18pm
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body type
A little extra
Trying to quit
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Has cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
While I know I'm a quirky old soul, I've got to be honest I am baffled at this whole dating thing and wonder where morals and values went in terms of it.
I don't NEED someone but I WANT someone. Someone who wants me back and is willing to put in the effort that it takes for a healthy and progressive relationship. I am in ABSOLUTELY NO WAY looking for a "friends with benefits" situation. I'm a bit out there and I'm seeking the "Gomez to my Morticia" more than the "partner in crime". Quirks, initiative and general kindness prevail with me!

Everyone has their preferences; just want to get a few things out there as some lifestyle, personality and physical characteristics seem to weigh heavy on people:
- I believe in sarcasm as well as tact.
- I am what some would call an introvert.
- I prefer quality over quantity in 99.9% of things.
- I am hugely into psychological studies especially cognitive and dialectical behaviors.

I've been described as: "quirky" and "whimsical" with black hair, blue eyes, fair skin, and curves...YES, I AM A THICK CUT MEAT BUCKET!!! No, I am not obese, but I will never be a rail thin woman and I am ok with that do please be as well. Contrary to what photos may portray at any point I could have a spattering of dings, scars and rotating bruises which may or may not come with a good story. I also wear glasses to help me see far distances.

Ask if you'd like to know anything specific.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Enjoying it immensely!!!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
-Laughing At Inappropriate Times
-Making Lists
-Getting Crafty
-Listening and giving honest advise.
-Being an introvert in an extrovert driven world.
-Seeing a big picture and being able to debate from both sides.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My peg-leg and striking resemblance to Whoopi Goldberg, duh! (ok I don't really have a peg-leg.)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: I've a pretty large book collection...real books!!! And if you suggest a kindle to me you can kindly exit my world. More a nonfiction/DIY/How To type but do also enjoy fiction on occasion. I enjoy: Rob Brezsny, David Sedaris, Lorie Notaro, The Disinformation Guides/Books, books on homesteading/survival/sustainability, most things dealing with psychology especially cognitive and dialectic behaviors/process.

-God Bless America
-Pee Wee's Big Adventure
-Mirror Mask
-Lemony Snicket's A Series Of Unfortunate Events
-A Bronx Tale
-Harry Potter
-Some Like It Hot
-Into The Wild
-Anything Tim Burton (The colors and design are usually what get me here)
-Old cheesy horror e.g.: Ed Wood & The Universal Monster Classics.

- Law & Order SVU
- Nova
- Cosmos

Music: I've almost 8TB of music when I load it digitally (tape, records, cd, etc) for real....This is like asking me to pick my favorite child (if I had a child let alone many to choose from). All across the spectrum I can find something I enjoy. Independent releases to large labels. Straight øl' Rock and Roll, 80's/New Wave Electro, Techno, Hardcore, Acid, House, Psychobilly, Old Punk, and ethnic world are among the most common around these parts though. Also Swing, Oldies, Big Band, Blue Grass, Classical, Blues, Rockabilly, Acoustic, Ambient, Bhangra, Surf, Celtic, 8-bit, Industrial, Doo Wop, Reggae, Ska, Synth, old country.

Food: Big fan of breakfast, Italian, Mexican, grilled foods, crock pot cooking, macaroni and cheese and MAN if I don't enjoy a good sandwich!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Outside of the necessities of Air, Water, Food, Shelter:

2.) My Literacy
3.) Humor
4.) Health Insurance & Sterilization
5.) A Comfortable Bed With Great Sheets And Many Pillows
6.) A Hoodie and sensible shoes (Mary Jane's or boots are my go to.)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
-How on earth can a fully functional adult with choices ever find themselves "BORED". You can not be bored only boring.
-Psychology, Dialectic, Cognitive Science.
-What in the shit is wrong with about 97% of people on this site.
-Random non-sense like islands with trap doors, tree houses, wind up robots, sharks with lasers, dance know, awesome stuff!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Something involving music, random shenanigans with a friend or at home listening to music and reading while petting a cat.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My house is what some would call along the lines of a "Cabinet Of Curiosities". I have a soft spot for those with glasses (REAL ONES!) and the biggest turn on for me is someone who actually thinks and doesn't just regurgitate information...even and especially if their thoughts are thought of as "bonkers" at times.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You have "normal" folks tell you that you're weird or crazy (sans drugs/alcohol/etc). You understand the idea of mobius strip. You know of and practice radical acceptance. You won't throw me in a well screaming at me to put the lotion on it's skin in plans of making a skin suit out of me. You can suggest some new music for me to check out. You are not anyone who knows me by current or past work relations, music involvements, art involvements or the likes.