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Conn_Man

24 / M / bisexual / Single

Columbia, Missouri

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Ethnicity
White
Height
5' 10" (1.77m).
Body Type
Looking For
New friends, Long-term dating, Short-term dating, Activity partners, Long-distance penpals, Casual sex
Smokes
No
Drinks
Sometimes
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism and laughing about it
Sign
Aries and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from college/university
Job
Student
Income
Less than $20,000
Kids
Likes children
Pets
Likes dogs and Likes cats
Languages
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay), Other (Poorly)

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I am emotional, empathic, and reserved.

My Self-Summary

I suppose I should start by saying that I'm a big fan of personality typology systems, especially the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI). My MBTI type is INFP, which stands for Introverted, iNtuitive, Feeling, Perceiving. If you already know how the MBTI works, then that should be a pretty good indication of my overarching personality. If not, then I would be glad to talk about it with anyone...

Overall, I tend to be quiet and reserved, especially around people with whom I am not entirely familiar. In small groups of very close friends, however, I come out of my shell. I tend to process my information intuitively rather than merely through what I can glean from my five senses and that is filtered through my feelings and emotions rather than dispassionate logic and practical reason. I also tend toward being slightly disorganized, and prefer facing things as they come over making structured schedules.

I guess what this all boils down to is that I am a man of deeply felt emotions, but tend to keep those emotions inside until I have gotten to know a person very well. These deep emotions make me long to find someone to truly connect with and share my life with. My greatest goal is finding a deep and long-lasting emotional connection with another person.

What I’m doing with my life

I just finished my last semester of my undergraduate, getting a B.A. in English with a Creative Writing (Fiction) emphasis. Right now I'm going to take a few months off, save up some money and relax, and afterward I plan to pursue a teaching certification and get a job teaching high school English while trying to write novels on the side. The class that I really want to teach would be not only a study of literature, but also the cultural and historical context in which the literature was written... sort of a holistic Humanities course.

I’m really good at

Listening. I'm always the one in my group of friends who people come to when they want a sympathetic and empathic ear to listen to their problems. I'm also the diplomat among my group of friends, always throwing myself into arguments and disputes trying to settle them as quickly as possible and with as little hurt feelings and bad blood as possible. I like to say that I always throw myself on the "emotional grenades".

The first things people usually notice about me

I think my eyes stand out (if I do say so myself). Even when I'm in total reserved mode and hiding my emotions as best as I can from the rest of the world, my eyes tend to betray me, and you can tell what I'm really feeling if you know how to look. Also, I get a lot of comments about how blue they are...

My favorite books, movies, music, and food

Books: Anything written by Terry Pratchett, Patrick O'Brian's Aubrey/Maturin series, James Ellroy's L.A. Quartet, Mary Shelley's Frankenstein (more to follow later)

Movies (Directors): Alfred Hitchcock, Akira Kurosawa, Stanley Kubrick, Clint Eastwood, The Coen Brothers, Steven Spielberg, James Cameron, Wes Anderson

Music: Film Scores, Classical, and Jazz (although I listen to virtually anything... the only things I can't stand at all are Country and Christian Pop/Rock/Whatever)

Food: Thai, Mexican, Chinese, anything spicy... I'm not really a picky eater. I like a bit of everything.

The six things I could never do without

Books, writing supplies, some form of music player, food, water, and someone to grow old with.

I spend a lot of time thinking about

On a typical Friday night I am

at home reading or watching a movie or messing around on my computer. Every once in a while, my friends drag my introverted ass out into public (read parties and other social environments) but typically I use my weekends to recharge my batteries with some good old fashioned relaxation.

The most private thing I’m willing to admit here

Well let's see... I've already admitted that I'm bisexual on here (and most of my closest friends don't even know that about me, so how do I top that?) Ummm... I've been diagnosed with both unipolar depression and bipolar disorder at various times in my life. I don't currently take medication for it, because the meds I was taking didn't really do much (if anything) and I've found a sort of naturalistic way of dealing with it.

You should message me if

...you find my profile interesting or (I flatter myself) intriguing. Or maybe if you think I would just be a fun person to hang out with or just get to know...