I suppose I should start by saying that I'm a big fan of personality typology systems, especially the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI). My MBTI type is INFP, which stands for Introverted, iNtuitive, Feeling, Perceiving. If you already know how the MBTI works, then that should be a pretty good indication of my overarching personality. If not, then I would be glad to talk about it with anyone...

Overall, I tend to be quiet and reserved, especially around people with whom I am not entirely familiar. In small groups of very close friends, however, I come out of my shell. I tend to process my information intuitively rather than merely through what I can glean from my five senses and that is filtered through my feelings and emotions rather than dispassionate logic and practical reason. I also tend toward being slightly disorganized, and prefer facing things as they come over making structured schedules.

I guess what this all boils down to is that I am a man of deeply felt emotions, but tend to keep those emotions inside until I have gotten to know a person very well. These deep emotions make me long to find someone to truly connect with and share my life with. My greatest goal is finding a deep and long-lasting emotional connection with another person.

Recent events have caused me to feel a need to update this section just a bit...

Since early summer of 2009, I have discovered in myself an affinity for the BDSM lifestyle. I had had some fantasies and imaginings along those lines for years, but I just recently found a local group in the lifestyle and have learned more than I could have ever imagined that I would. It has passed out of the realm of fantasy and become a very real aspect of my life. I am submissive, and a friend and mentor recently commented that she didn't think there was a dominant or switch bone in my body. I am still very much a learner in many regards, but in the time since I have come into this lifestyle, I have been fortunate to learn from some very good mentors. I now feel as if I am ready to pursue a real relationship in this context.

From what I have learned, I believe that for any serious BDSM relationship to work out, the involved parties need to keep the relationship layered, dealing with things that come up in their proper layers. Therefore, I believe it is necessary to be friends first, lovers second, and BDSM partners when the other supporting layers are in harmony. Furthermore, as variety is the spice of life, I am also looking for an individual who is not only interested in BDSM, but also some good old fashioned vanilla (flavored with REAL VANILLA BEANS!!!) romance as a part of the relationship as well.

So the basic fact of the matter is that I am still seeking that deep, powerful emotional connection that I mentioned above this update, but I am also seeking something that runs even deeper than that... a level of trust, devotion, and commitment that surpasses anything that I have ever experienced before.

I just finished my last semester of my undergraduate, getting a B.A. in English with a Creative Writing (Fiction) emphasis. Right now I'm going to take a few months off, save up some money and relax, and afterward I plan to pursue a teaching certification and get a job teaching high school English while trying to write novels on the side. The class that I really want to teach would be not only a study of literature, but also the cultural and historical context in which the literature was written... sort of a holistic Humanities course.

Listening. I'm always the one in my group of friends who people come to when they want a sympathetic and empathic ear to listen to their problems. I'm also the diplomat among my group of friends, always throwing myself into arguments and disputes trying to settle them as quickly as possible and with as little hurt feelings and bad blood as possible. I like to say that I always throw myself on the "emotional grenades".

I think my eyes stand out (if I do say so myself). Even when I'm in total reserved mode and hiding my emotions as best as I can from the rest of the world, my eyes tend to betray me, and you can tell what I'm really feeling if you know how to look. Also, I get a lot of comments about how blue they are...

Books: Anything written by Terry Pratchett, Patrick O'Brian's Aubrey/Maturin series, James Ellroy's L.A. Quartet, Mary Shelley's Frankenstein (more to follow later)

Movies (Directors): Alfred Hitchcock, Akira Kurosawa, Stanley Kubrick, Clint Eastwood, The Coen Brothers, Steven Spielberg, James Cameron, Wes Anderson

Music: Film Scores, Classical, and Jazz (although I listen to virtually anything... the only things I can't stand at all are Country and Christian Pop/Rock/Whatever)

Food: Thai, Mexican, Chinese, anything spicy... I'm not really a picky eater. I like a bit of everything.

Books, writing supplies, some form of music player, food, water, and someone to grow old with.

social issues, politics, science fiction, fantasy, music, writing

at home reading or watching a movie or messing around on my computer. Every once in a while, my friends drag my introverted ass out into public (read parties and other social environments) but typically I use my weekends to recharge my batteries with some good old fashioned relaxation.

Well let's see... I've already admitted that I'm bisexual and submissive on here (and many of my close friends don't even know that about me, so how do I top that?) Ummm... I've been diagnosed with both unipolar depression and bipolar disorder at various times in my life. I don't currently take medication for it, because the meds I was taking didn't really do much (if anything) and I've found a sort of naturalistic way of dealing with it.

...you find my profile interesting or (I flatter myself) intriguing. Or maybe if you think I would just be a fun person to hang out with or just get to know...