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  • Ages 23–40
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My details

Last online
Aug 11, 2014
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Atheism, but not too serious about it
Graduated from Ph.D program
Art / Music / Writing
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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm (over)educated but I don't let that stop me from having fun. I try to do things that I enjoy as much as possible. Things I enjoy: protesting, writing, organizing, meeting new people, hanging out at coffee shops, listening to jazz, blues, and alt-country, getting in friendly arguments about politics, culture, books, or whatever.

I have a passion for justice that traditional politics just doesn't quench.

I proudly call myself a feminist without qualification.

I try to give everyone a chance, no matter how seemingly opposed our labels may be, as I find individuals to be almost invariably more interesting and more complex than groups.

I'm not always there when you call, but I'm (almost) always on time. And if I'm not, you'll hear from me.

I move around. A lot. I’m not sure if that’s more a matter of circumstance or temperament but in all likelihood probably a good deal of both. I could name the places and dates of where I’ve been but that would just turn into a list, which wouldn’t be too interesting without significant annotation.

I’m ridiculously new to Tucson. Here seemed like a good place to hang my hat for a while (and I don’t even own a hat). So far I don’t think I’m wrong.

I am gregarious, indulgent, and curious.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Trying to use ideas in ways that help people to live better.

Check out my blog:
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Explaining things. Finding ways to have fun in (almost) any situation. Telling stories. Being a cheap bastard. Cooking. Knowing when to stop drinking (sure, there's the occasional exception, but everything in moderation including moderation itself, no?).
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Almost invariably: the gray streak in my hair. The funny thing is how long it's taken me to notice that this is the first thing people notice about me! After that, the next most striking thing about my physical presence is probably my huge blue eyes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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The Joy of Man's Desiring by Jean Giono
Another Country by James Baldwin
The Castle by Franz Kafka
Lolita by Nabokov
Beneath the Underdog by Charles Mingus
Their Eyes Were Watching God by Zora Neale Hurston
The Ethical Slut by Easton and Hardy

Movies: Persona, Matchpoint, Interiors, Avatar, Vicky Cristina Barcelona, Inglorious Basterds, Django, Husbands and Wives, Ikiru, Scenes from a Marriage, Big Lebowski.

Music: Thao Nguyen, Charles Mingus, Thelonious Monk, Townes Van Zandt, Van Morrison, Sam Cooke, Neutral Milk Hotel, Ornette Coleman, Emmylou Harris, Blind Willie McTell, Big Bill Broonzy. More than anything lately: my vinyl collection, which is separated into two categories (jazz and not-jazz).

Food: I am what I cook. When I'm not cooking: Thai and Vietnamese.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Beer (was: intellectual stimulation)
My glasses
My little computer
Good conversation
True friends
Meaningful work
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How grateful I am for the people and experiences that I had and have in my life.

Why life has to be so fucking hard on all of us.

How we can change this world to make it a more just, equitable, caring, beautiful, and spontaneous place.

Political issues that I think about a lot include (but are definitely not limited to): mass incarceration, food justice, sex positivity, education (particularly as it is corrupted by the dogma of infallibility surrounding "standardized" testing).
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I find myself engaging in particular activities on particular days less and less. My life is more like a line rather than a circle.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I don't own a car and don't intend to get one anytime in the foreseeable future.
You should message me if
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you would like to grab coffee, drinks, or food and exchange some hopefully interesting conversation in the process. No expectations besides that.

you think Artha is useful only insofar as it aids the pursuit of Dharma and Kama.

you have a way of seeing the world that is unique to you and you are willing to share something of it with me. 

you know how to communicate directly and considerately. To me what this means is pretty simple: you say what you want and what you don't want.

you are not a flake. I happen to think that my time is just as valuable as yours (and I try my darnedest to value everyone's time). I know sometimes life comes up and things have to be cancelled, postponed, etc. I have no problem with that. What I have a problem with is a lack of communication concerning said happenings.

you prefer to talk rather than text (not that there aren't certain sensible uses for the latter, but the exchanging of 140 characters does not a conversation make).

you know how to put work in its place.

you can teach me how to code (or at least give me a push in the right direction)! I want to change the world and the more tools I have, the more I can do.

In any event, I'm definitely hoping to get to know some cool people, so if you think we'd get along, make sure to drop me a line!