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36 Pittsburgh, PA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 25–39
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 6:14am
Native American, White
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Other, and very serious about it
Libra, but it doesn’t matter
Dropped out of space camp
Rather not say
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Over the years I've been here, I've written a lot on this profile, hacked away some things, and reconciled others. I had originally joined for the tests, but that got old. I moved on to simply conversing with people at whim, however, I only have a sporadic interest in that as I have an involved social life offline. I've been on a few dates with people here, but mostly I meet new people elsewhere than the 'net.

***I am *happy* to live alone and not have any kids. If cohabitation is your preferred goal in a relationship, better move along. I am also uninterested in random encounters (I have no communicable diseases and don't want any, thanks).***

My relationship goals are companionship, intimacy, intellectual stimulation, personal growth, and fun - goals presumably shared with many here. In my experience, friendship can be a route to greater intimacy, however if things don't work out or there is no interest, there's no reason to be disingenuous on either of our parts. I'm not playing that game.


Because of my preference for upfront communications, here's a list (some or all of which may be enlisted as topics for conversation):
– regularly have friends over for dinner parties/gaming nights, go visiting, or meet up at the local hangouts.
– play wargames with a local club.
– was in the SCA and have a long history in Star Trek fandom.
– am very socially liberal, but prefer fiscal realism (and
therefore, am not a Libertarian or a Republican or even a Democrat).
– am a Deist: I believe in a Creator... but I rejoice at maintaining a secular government in this country.
– enjoy shooting firearms (formerly took part in CMP service rifle matches), but I don't like taking life if I can help it.
– play tuba, sometimes in local jazz/swing bands.
– enjoy cooking, although I'm no chef.
– prefer dark beer and Old World fortified wines (tawny Port and sweet Marsala especially).
– smoke pipes and the occasional cigar (don't like cigarettes).
– hate the smell of marijuana... so, if that's you, have fun (just not around me).
– am not a neat-freak by any means. In my small apartment, I have a lot of eclectic and interesting stuff (as my friends say), and since I tend to go on auto-pilot, leaving things where they lay when I'm done with them, I must battle the clutter on an ongoing basis.


So, yeah, sometimes I'm an overly-opinionated and arrogant curmudgeon who really doesn't give a flying fuck, and other times I'm a lovable and endearing wacko. I make no apologies.

There's still a lot that I have not said - but we need *something* to talk about. :)
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I took the last several years off of working in mental health so I could write a pair of books (am working on the third). Recently, I attended a meeting held by the local mh industry, and apparently made enough of an impression that I may soon be returning to consulting work.

In addition, I hold a minor elected office... my family name may never live down the shame of it, but we all must serve at some point.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
...analyzing real world problems and finding objective solutions; leadership and networking with people... unfortunately, that reads rather like a bad résumé for some climb-the-corporate-ladder job. I have patience, but I am also direct when I need to be, if not in wording, definitely in message. I prefer open communications; however, I have been described by others as a very private man. Go figure.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I wish I could say I had craggy, good looks with steely piercing gray eyes, but in fact I'm soft and pudgy with soft brown eyes. Work with what you got (and I do!). I've been told that I have a "different" sense of style, and that the combinations I wear only I could pull off... put on? Something like that...

I'm also a pipe smoker, so chances are, if you see me out and about, I'll be puffing along merrily. I only smoke LEGAL stuff.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I enjoy mysteries, science fiction, fantasy, and history - and funny animal comic books, because life can't be taken *too* seriously. I like horror literature, but despise horror movies: such cheap thrills I can do without.

Right now I'm on a late romantic/classical period kick: tone poems and operas galore, interspersed with heavy metal and other distractions. I usually play tuba in jazz bands, though... one of these days I might actually be good at it. When I write, I tend to listen to a lot of dubstep, mostly just for background noise with a catchy beat.

I'm a Star Trek fan... and an unabashed Trekkie - and yes, I get dressed up and go to conventions. I hope to meet someone here who would (or does) enjoy that as well.

I make up my own recipes, some of which are apparently edible (and even appreciated) by others. Also, I have a few jugs of strange concoctions brewing at the moment... I think one's already FUBAR, unfortunately.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. I had some other stuff, but I can put this in I believe: Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs.

2. The ability to dream

3. The ability to travel

4. Independence of mind, body, and spirit

5. Parenthetical phrases, serial commas, and ellipses

6. Time and energy for all the things I do, and want to do

Unfortunately for the last, sometimes I have all the time I need, but little impetus. The reverse is also true. Money is no object, because I don't have any.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game. glad I am that I don't have any debts. I may not have much, but at least I don't have *less than nothing*.

...being amazed at how many people are amazed that it's hot in summer, or cold in winter. Imagine that... wow.

...why no one laughs at surrealist humor anymore.

...the philosophy and science of what makes us human.

...political realities. I have long said that if people wish to see change in their government, then they need to run for elected office - even if it's only local office.

Hand-wringing over why something is impossible to undertake is futility in veritable inaction. Nothing will change if you do nothing to change it.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
...expecting that Saturday will still show up on schedule.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I am a Dom and am into BDSM. You don't have to be submissive or share the interest, but don't expect a long term relationship with me if you aren't at least open to the lifestyle. I believe in safe words and safe sex. The woman I hope to find will be independent in life (ie, is taking care of herself and doesn't feel the need to take care of me), but willing to play in the bedroom.

This isn't private, per se... I don't shout it from the roof tops (well, depending on the scene), but I don't hide it either.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over. are open-minded, and willing to discuss issues and ideas both pragmatic and fantastic - if not surreal. I like good conversation with people who can carry a topic onward.'ve read my profile, and like what you see. I also like women who message first - it shows independence. :)'re actually moving forward with your life. If you're 35 and still don't know what you want to be when you grow up... maybe some day you'll grow up instead of just growing old. However, if you tried something and it didn't work out, so now you're moving onto something new – great! The important thing to me is movement (not necessarily success, lol).

I've done the casual sex thing in the past, but I find it rather boring now... so, no hook-up requests, please.