I have a lot of guy friends. One thing they always tell me is that it's not worth it to write a looooooong, drawn out email to some girl on a dating site because she'll just shoot you down. They tell me that they may as well send out a bajillion "Hey how r u's", and hope to get something back.

You have nothing to prove to me. I do not think that I'm "too good for you", or that you need to woo me in some quaint fashion. At the same time, I also have nothing to prove to you. If I feel that you expect me to fawn all over you because you gave me attention, then you are shit out of luck. I appreciate well-composed messages, and thought provoking questions. If you deserve to know my favorite positions, you'll probably find out eventually. ;)

So, I'm kind of a newbie-queer. I came out to my mum about...4 years ago, and she conveniently "lost" the email. I identify more as pansexual than bisexual, because gender binaries piss me off, and I like attractive people. Attractive doesn't necessarily mean, "is _____ sex."

On top of that, I'm gender-fluid/neutral. My gender presentation/expression is sometimes a little bit of a mindfuck, but I've noticed that it usually tends to compliment the person I'm most attracted to at the time. Oh, and, I'm in primary relationship with a man. Basically, I'm a bio-female who is attracted to chicks but has very little experience.

So, now that you know how I like to get down, let's move on.
Also, don't ASSUME this means that I'll want to get down.

Delightfully absurd and deliberately imperfect is how I roll. I like to think of myself as a Northerner with a Southern soul. I'm a swing-dancing gothabilly circus-gypsy with cabaret leanings and a penchant for autumn decor. Also, I like stompy boots.

I love being outdoors. Hiking, body-boarding, camping, riding motorcycles, and so forth.

If you have the potential to communicate intelligibly with me, but choose not to, I will get bored and start ignoring you.

I like hanging out with smart people. If I can learn something new from you, kudos. Knowledge is awesome. Read my interests.

I'm just graduated from Esthetics school (makeup and facials, etc...), and I work a part time retail job. This is after having lived in four states and traveled for a while. I moved up here in 2010 from New Orleans, and before that, Wisconsin.

I also occasionally do bondage/fetish modeling, and I'm in love with it.

I ballroom dance, sing, draw, apply extreme makeup, prance like a ninny, and sew. I plan to include the following in my repertoire:
Ballet (already have 8 years under my belt)
Ballroom dance (improving technique is always good)
Technical design for theatre and stage productions
Costuming
Makeup for stage and film
Business Management
Esthetics
Cosmetic product formulation

If I do nothing else in life, I want to launch a line of cosmetics, and own/run a nightclub. Both of these will cater especially to alternative and artsy types.

I'm ridiculously good at finding things. I spend hours online, searching for just the right thing. If I can't find what you're looking for, I know someone who can.
When I love, it's pretty much boundlessly. If I say that I love you, I'll mean it forever. However, this does not mean I'll stick around if you hurt me.

People tend to say they notice my eyes. They are kind of huge, so I guess I understand this. The other thing they notice is that I put them at ease.

Books:
The Melancholy Death of Oyster Boy and Other Stories, Tim Burton
The Asylum for Wayward Victorian Girls, Emilie Autumn
Prey, Michael Crichton (And pretty much everything else he's ever written)
Soulless, Gail Carriger

Movies:
Frankenstein (With Kenneth Branagh)
Hannibal
Star Wars
Troy
Gladiator
The People vs. Larry Flynt
The Matrix
V for Vendetta
The Prestige

Shows:
Better Off Ted
My Name is Earl
The Way We Live Now
Supernatural
True Blood
Firefly
Star Trek
Whatever happens to be on that doesn't suck.
Food Network

Music:
Music is my lifeblood. It moves me in ways that spoken word never will.
Oomph!, VNV Nation, Unheilig, Sleepthief, Adam Lambert, Bing Crosby, Professor Elemental, Darren Hayes, Ghost Dance, Nat King Cole, Goldfrapp, Armin van Buuren, Phynn, Chicane, OceanLab/Above & Beyond, Nitrous Oxide, Lindsey Stirling, Iris, Mistle Thrush, Secret Garden, Big Bad Voodoo Daddy, Horrorpops, Neuroticfish, The Cult, The Chop Tops, 38 Special, Boston, Skeletal Family, Men Without Hats, Ofra Haza, The Cramps, Stray Cats, Lucia Micarelli, Shiny Toy Guns, Danny Elfman, Natalie MacMaster, Kanon Wakeshima, Joseph Birdsong, Yo-Yo Ma, Mark O'Connor, Sir Elton John, Van Halen, Supertramp, Billy Joel, Styx, Queen, Celtic music, Romantic Classical, Baroque music, Elvis Presley, Platform One, Johnny Cash, Jazz, Ragtime, Clan of Xymox, Benny Goodman, Glenn Miller, Code 64, Depeche Mode, Fall Out Boy, Swarf, David Bowie, Berlin, Duran Duran, Adam and the Ants, Abney Park, Squirrel Nut Zippers, Dean Martin, Gotan Project, Frank Sinatra, Swing music, Caravan Palace, Specimen, The Mission UK, The Sisters of Mercy, Bauhaus, Bela Bartok, Frederic Chopin, J.S.Bach, Amanda Palmer, The Dresden Dolls, The Divine Madness, Rock Kills Kid, She Wants Revenge, Omega Lithium, Mindless Self Indulgence, Mina Harker, Puscifer, Ink Dot Boy, I:Scintilla, HIM, And One, :Wumpscut:, Grendel, Sopor Aeternus & the Ensemble of Shadows, Faith and the Muse, Emilie Autumn, Covenant, and similar things.

Food:
Various Asian cuisines and Italian foods are my favorites. I adore French pastries, but I had to stop eating gluten. Booooooo.

1. Corsets
2. Boots
3. Headphones
4. Adventure!
5. My computer. Most of my friends are across the country, and therefore, also in my computer.
6. Someone to cuddle with.

Not thinking about what I could have done differently. I try to figure out in what order I'll accomplish things, or if I will at all.
Sometimes I have one of those weird moments wherein I wonder if anything is actually real.

Watching movies with friends or making food.
These days, working until close, usually.

I'm a fetishist. I enjoy many aspects of BDSM, and they play a huge role in my life. This is NOT a license for you to be lewd. Simply take it to mean that if you aren't into some slightly weird shit, we may not be compatible.

*You don't mind that I have a primary relationship, and I'm only looking for fun and friendship for now.
*You have similar clothing and music tastes, we could go shopping or clubbing.
*You don't have any numbers in your username. <-- THAT.
*You can spell.