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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 28–44
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last online
Yesterday – 10:31am
5' 7" (1.70m)
Body Type
Christianity but it’s not important
Working on Post grad
Doesn’t have kids
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
If you are reading this then you are here for the same purpose I am. There is really nothing complicated about it. For whatever reason, your past relationships have not worked out and you are interested in meeting some good people- which will perhaps turn into meeting a special person- and then seeing where things go from there. At least that's my approach to this whole thing.

About me, I am 44, never been married, no kids. No particular aversion to either, but as I alluded in the previous paragraph, things just haven't worked out for me in that way. I’ve been fortunate enough to have known some lovely women and to have been in some fulfilling relationships. But life being what it is, each of them concluded for one reason or another. In many instances it was due to timing and where each of us was in our respective lives. And in some cases, mistakes were made, sometimes by me and sometimes by her. None of us are infallible, which is something that I’ve grown to understand over the years. So I carry the scar tissue of loves lost and lessons learned in the crucible of circumstance. But I would have it no other way, as I am in a great place in my life, and would not have arrived here were it not for the multitude of experiences, good and bad, I’ve had along the way.

While on the surface I appear to to be a linear thinker, and operate in that realm professionally, I have the colorful soul of a creative. Indeed, I love art, and I appreciate artists because I’m not one and am fascinated by what they are able to create from nothing more than an idea or concept. If you truly appreciate beautiful and passionate art- in all of its vibrant colors and varietal of textures- then you already have much more insight into who I am than these few paragraphs will provide.

As for the person I would like to meet… I work very hard in a structured and conservative profession that I love, but it offers no outlet for creativity or artistic endeavor. So, because of my affinity for such things, I tend to gravitate towards women who work in the arts or other professions that make allowances for self expression. Of course, if you are like me and work in the buttoned down world but enjoy playing in the other, I feel that, too. Maybe you have an inner hippie chick that pulls at your heart strings and yearns to be free the moment you leave the office; I understand.

I am a positive person, a natural optimist, and desire the same in a partner. Also, if you are passionate, assertive, and independent...... Well, I've learned to appreciate that these are three of the most alluring qualities any woman can possess. And an axiom comes to mind here- Confidence is sexy; knowing you are sexy is even sexier....

Lastly, a sense of humor is a must, with the ability to laugh at the mundane, as well as find the hilarity in the complex. And if you have a dry sense of humor similar to mine, I can already tell you that our first date will lead to at least one more.
What I’m doing with my life
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Trying to follow my outline.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Making decisions. Whether or not they're always the right ones, however.......
The first things people usually notice about me
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My smile, big personality, and sense of humor, which is very dry and sarcastic.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Current reads: 1) Goddess of the Market: Ayn Rand and the American Right (an attempted writing of Ayn's bio irrespective of the objectivism philosophy for which she is known); 2) House of Cards: A Tale of Hubris and Wretched Excess on Wall Street (a chronicle of the rise and fall of investment bank, Bear Stearns)

Music: Balearic beats; ambient and deep house; breakbeat, trance; downtempo; jazz- acid as well as straight ahead; classic rock; funk and true R&B; neo-soul; Patsy Cline

Movies: Thought provoking indies, with well developed characters and heart; anything by Woody Allen; Hollywood classics

Food: I once heard a guy on the Food Network say that asking him what type of food he enjoyed was akin to asking him what type of oxygen he preferred.... I couldn't agree more.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
A few more than six, and just some random things that I think are pretty cool..... Meaningful relationships; my passport; crisp autumn days; the word serendipity and all of its derivatives; compound interest; the smell of jasmine; sunsets; the sound of flat six, air cooled engines on a downshift; watching puppies frolic.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Excited about the fact that there are only two more days until Monday!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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That I lied about my answer to the Friday question.....
You should message me if
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Message me if you really want to learn more about me.

And, this is very important..... For the sake of everyone involved, before deciding that you would like to pursue a relationship, take a moment to ask yourself whether or not you are certain that your heart, mind, and body are all in concert that you are genuinely ready for that step. More to the point, if there is doubt within you that you have not recovered fully from the demise of any previous relationship (not just the most recent one), don't be afraid to take some time alone in order to allow yourself to become whole again.

You owe this, not only to yourself, but to any soon to be prospective significant other. Because failing to void one's heart of the pain and heartache derived from relationships past, will only result in carrying that pain and heartache into relationships future. And although initially these unhealed wounds may not present in the burgeoning relationship, ultimately they will surface. And when they do, it changes everything..... And not for the better.