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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 24–50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My details

Last online
Online now!
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Strictly other
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Graduated from university
Strictly monogamous
English (Fluently), French (Poorly), Japanese (Poorly), Other (Fluently)
My self-summary
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I am an INTJ, and a force to be reckoned with.

I'm not afraid to say I've been on too many dates (I've lost count) while oddly enough, I don't go out on that many dates. It's just the way it is.

I am not afraid to get to know people.

I am not afraid to be vulnerable and be hurt, but I am not interested in being social to be social.

I am not afraid of emotionally investing in people.

I am not afraid of risks, and I look for opportunities where I find them.

Notice my age's wide for a reason. This is the 21st century, more people in America are single than there are married couples.People have a hard time getting out of their own way...why add more barriers? (totally cool to disagree, but no need to be militant about it)

My folks have been married for 36 years -- on marriage no. 2. The basis for their marriage was anything but ideal. I think there is too much focus on the "ideal" (what I call "on paper performance") and not enough on the kind of person you are emotionally, mentally, and physically connecting with (what I call "real world performance").
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Failing forward. It's the only way to succeed! And working on unconscious competence. Always.

I will always be connected with the electric bass. It's an instrument I use to speak a language that's known to bring people in off the street and into the audience. I am a one man "Wrecking Crew" and very much a student of the instrument's 64 year history.

I run a beyond-gluten-free food distributor and it's extremely challenging because the food universe is so cutthroat (like dating in Portland). I'm one part sales director, one part human resources, one part warehouse guy and one part delivery driver. It's a bit like a fishing boat that steers like a cruise ship.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Many things. This was said about me by my 2nd grade teacher in 1988: "...has so many interests and enjoys learning new things. I feel that it's difficult for him to organize these thoughts and get them down in writing. Sometimes the children can't follow a story that (I'm) telling (perhaps for the same reason).

Writing aside, not much has changed.

I like my dad, have a knack for coming across numerous critically strategic people throughout life. I am also good at giving good phone, good email, and good company -- even in front of the most disinterested audiences on the planet.

For better or worse.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My eyes and my kind face. My eyes say "You can't go wrong." Most people find me to be a conundrum at first, but recognize my intelligence immediately.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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This information is all too easy to get hung up on! I do have my own personal hifi guru, though...which is really cool.

Art is too subjective to go throwing out judgments based upon taste. I know I have excellent taste music. I've lived under a rock in terms of movies, but I don't care, and neither should anyone else. "It Takes A Thief" is one of my favorite TV shows. And I was -8 when it last aired in 1971. The movie "A Hard Day's Night" never gets old for me.

I love this song, though:

Let's talk about food. I'm into the "ancestral health" concept. It's brilliant. I HATE wasting food. And some "food for thought" regarding if you're a vegetarian on the basis of ecological reasons I have two tidbits. One, pasture raised animals are becoming more and more commonplace alternatives to factory farmed animals. Two, pasture raised animals actually contribute to ecological sustainability in terms of agriculture. Joel Salatin's "Folks, This Ain't Normal" is a really important read.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Ketosis. A means of getting from Point A to Point B. Merino wool -- and now cedar hangers, learning the hard way. My job. My family. Clean sustenance -- including organic pu-erh tea. It's magical. And I need to buy more.

If I could add a 7th it would be the dulcet tones of my next door neighbor locking the front door of his apartment on his way out to somewhere as it gives me peace, quiet and the freedom from modern country ballads blasted so loud they can be heard from a block away...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I spend a lot of time thinking, period. Sometimes I am in a black hole of negative thought. Sometimes I feel so powerful I can solve all of the world's problems. Sometimes I feel like humanity is beautiful and sometimes I feel like Mother Nature should just end this human experiment once and for all.

Thinking is cathartic.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Sometimes I have a gig on Fridays. Most of the time I wind down from the work week.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have a hate/love relationship with Portland. This is good, because there are plenty of things to hate about Portland and plenty of things to love about Portland. Balance.

And I'm superstitious, I believe in mystical bullshit.
You should message me if
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Everyone says that meeting in person is the only way to...whatever. It's true, it is. But we're not interacting initially in person. We're here. The pattern I see from people who want to meet right away and skip the word foreplay is that they just want to meet to be social. I'm looking for someone who isn't hung up on the idea that online dating "doesn't work" and the only good use for a forum/service such as this is to be social as "time permits".

My preference is to slow the process down because it's too dismissive, too fast, and people are rejecting perfectly fine opportunities for reasons I can't understand. Actually, I do understand: the tendency is for people to stand in their own way by looking at others in terms of who/what they aren't rather than who they are and what they bring to the table. If you're really interested then we should meet and get to know one another. We need to use word foreplay, though, because I'm not meeting up right away needing to produce an Academy Award winning performance (read: social orgasm) in 5 minutes -- just to go out a second time.

Foreplay is good. Spending time with people is good. Getting to know people is good. How can anything good happen in a flash? I mean, really? Like it came purely out of a microwave?