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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 25–50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My details

Last online
Online now!
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
5' 9" (1.75m)
Body Type
Agnosticism and laughing about it
English (Fluently), French (Somewhat), Japanese (Somewhat), Other (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I like to write and re-write this often...

I come from Chicagoland -- basically lived inside the movie "American Beauty" save for the fact that my upbringing was not that of an unhappy upper middle class variety. I have lived a quietly extraordinary life in Portland for the last 13 years. I've seen tremendous changes in Portland -- some things I don't like are rapid gentrification, for example. But I like access to clean foods (and my small tribe of defiant food-smiths!) and the moderate weather. I do not miss Chicagoland winters and summers to say the least.

The internet is this wonderful tool. A bunch of monkeys -- female and male and in between don't use it correctly. It's not Amazon or iTunes. Just a neat way for folks to meet one on one and get analog at their leisure.

End of diatribe.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Failing forward. Endlessly.

I work for a "beyond-gluten-free" food distributor. The food world is the perfect example of industries involving insane monkeys running around and trying hands at business. I work with corporate grocery stores (not so much fun), co-ops, small independent health food stores, and eateries -- catering to this "ancestral health" lifestyle.

I wield swords of cultured sauerkraut, sprouted nuts, coconut oil, and grass-fed ghee to thwart the evildoers who wish to take the food supply and make us all slaves to modern medicine. You can beat disease with food.

I have a customer who reversed her Stage IV leukemia this way. This is why I do what I do. I don't love it -- the instability of being a small company, currently working in a crowded submarine, but damnit I want to win.

I love some less intense things like hiking, cycling, and I love the bass guitar -- it's my "other" fluent language. But this stuff doesn't matter much.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Taking risks when the odds are so badly stacked against it. For better and worse, but lately for better.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My eyes and my kind face. Most people find me to be a conundrum (especially when I speak metaphorically) at first, but recognize my intelligence immediately.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Non-fiction. Radial engine airplanes are fun reading material.

Movies: 1987 was the greatest year ever for movies.

Shows: Antenna TV -- bummed they don't air "It Takes A Thief" anymore.

Music: Discuss. I have a strong music sense of humor.

Food: I hate wasting it when it's actual food. Also discuss.

Most of this stuff doesn't matter -- I'm not out for a female clone with my artistic taste/sensibility...can't we share different stuff?
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Living in America requires more than 6 things you can't do without...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How independence (the black hole beyond self sufficiency) and workahol are potent drugs. How career success translates to personal entitlement in many people's eyes. And how to find people who aren't hung up on themselves so much so you can actually connect with them.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Sometimes I have a gig on Fridays. Most of the time I wind down from the work week.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I think the romantic "magic bullet" is that each person makes the relationship about the other (classic yin-yang relationship) and most of us single folks in urban areas can't do it. Not enough time. In love with someone/something else in life (self, socio-economic strata, lifestyle, career/job, stuff).

It took flying more than 2000 miles to figure it out, but you know, fail forward.
You should message me if
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Nobody "should" do anything. A thoughtful, well-written message always deserves a reply in kind.

But I think most of us (and I know having been this way!) are self-centered-and-at-times-assholes about it with stupid laundry lists of dealbreakers, specifications which "must" be met, and basically being out to avoid compromise at all costs.

And well-meaning individuals who do want relationships aren't good enough.

It only seems to work this way:

You are looking for someone to go out of your way for, who will go out of their way for you. That is a genuine connection.