They are skeptical of "online" dating because it's "not natural" when guess what, dating over 30 is "not natural". There was never a glorious period in human history where dating-over- 30-was-awesome-and-it-sucks-now. Honestly, it's like Clarence Thomas saying America should be like it was in 1860.
So my thing is this...if you're "fiercely independent" you should A) quit being fiercely independent and get over yourself or B) keep being fiercely independent and go visit exotic destinations 12 times a year a month at a time and quit trying to find the holy grail romantic partner within the context of a million "coffee dates" because I'm sorry, it's just not enough effort on your part.
I've lived in Portland longer than a lot of non-natives my age...12 years. I came from Chicagoland but there are so many things I wouldn't know if I didn't live here.
For those keeping score in the Meyers-Briggs end of things, I come out an INTJ. Or less than 2% of the American population. I spend lots of time in my head, find small talk painfully annoying, and don't possess the social intelligence of extroverts. That doesn't mean I can't be social! My work requires me to socialize for 7 hours a day!
I've been to several countries in Europe and Asia but moving to Portland was a major failing forward.