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34 M Portland, OR

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 24–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 3:02am
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Strictly other
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
English (Fluently), French (Poorly), Japanese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I am originally from Chicagoland. I've lived in Portland for 12 years and have done much of my adult "growing up" here. I didn't land here with a dream job or a perfectly clear picture of what I expected out of my life. It was certainly challenging, particularly coming from a place where people mean what they say and do what they say they are going to do.

For those keeping score in the Meyers-Briggs end of things, I come out an INTJ. Or less than 2% of the American population. I spend lots of time in my head, find small talk painfully annoying, and don't possess the social intelligence of extroverts. That doesn't mean I can't be social! My work requires me to socialize for 7 hours a day!

I've been to several countries in Europe and Asia but moving to Portland was a major failing forward.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm continually failing forward in order to achieve success in life.

I go to bed every week night at 9:30 and make breakfast from scratch every morning including a cup of tea to be on my game for work by 6 a.m. I am a highly disciplined person, and justifiably proud of it.

I'm failing forward in all aspects of life. Playing music is a big part of that. But so is maintaining my alternative lifestyle. I'm currently preparing to blow a coworker's mind through the sampling of one of Mother Earth's most magical creations: coconut oil.

I play the bass guitar/electric bass and have done so for 19 years. It is without question the greatest instrument invented ever because when it is played with skill it can bring an audience into a concert from off the street! This was a fun performance. "Dead End Street" by The Kinks, with horns. I'm semi-conducting the horns:

Rock and roll...doesn't pay the bills. Semi professional. No...semi-pro...
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Giving good phone. It's a rare quality to be able to maintain a captive audience for several hours on the phone and have them go "Wow, where did all the time go?". Influencing people in bettering themselves. Speaking and singing with my fingers. Taking risks. Not taking "no" for an answer. Making complete and incomplete strangers laugh. Being funny requires a sense of humor, but having a sense of humor doesn't mean one is funny. Being an anachronism. It has nothing to do with playing with fake swords and jousting. The rest of in such tiny screens! I am also the most patient and tolerant person in the realm of crap out there. Maybe it's because somebody has to be. Or I don't feel as entitled as most people. I've become very adept at clashing with non-collaborative (read: egomaniac) singer-songwriters.

I'm learning to fail forward...I'm not really good at it yet, but you can't grow without failing forward.

I've been really good at being lucky.
The first things people usually notice about me
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It depends on the "audience". If the audience is engaged and interested then it's my eyes and kind face. If the audience is completely disinterested at first glance, then it's usually whatever the first thing is that puts them off.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Art is highly subjective. As a person with high artistic intelligence it's really not fair to judge others on the basis of their tastes in art. Most people can't even begin to enjoy the music they have because they don't have a good hifi to listen to it on. Most people don't care. So what does it matter in terms of choice of the written word or television?

Some may conclude the above paragraph is me on my high horse/ivory tower about art. It's not true. I just don't believe one's taste in art is reason enough to dismiss that person.

I love this song, though:

Food is really important to me, largely because a complete primal lifestyle change in 2010 combined with a large amount of knowledge gained working in the food industry with a niche food company. All that needs to be said is for people to read the first chapter of "The Primal Blueprint" by Mark Sisson. I hate only one thing in life...wasting food.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Ketosis. A means of getting from Point A to Point B. Merino wool -- wearing that stuff reduces my water consumption big time. My job. My family. Clean sustenance -- including organic pu-erh tea. It's magical. And I need to buy more.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I spend lots of time thinking about the mutual-gender-socioeconomic paradigm shift America is in right now. It explains a lot about the behavior of single people and why there are so many of us out there. And there is a tremendous amount of disconnect as a result of "mutual gender independence".

I read so many of these profiles and think to myself "Translation: this person is looking for a veritable clone of their self to be stored away until needed". Why bother? Why bother meeting people who will never live up to mythical standards which reflect one's enslavement to one's own consumption?

The "drama-free" business is INSANE. Nobody, unless they are dead is drama free. If you interact with people at all you are not drama-free. The proclamation is just a broadcast to the rest of us that you have no room for anyone else' trials and tribulations of life. Life is drama. And death for the victims' families is drama. This is just another example of people enslaved by their own consumption.

There was a great line in an episode of "How I Met Your Mother" and no matter how you feel about TV, network TV, or whatever it's a great line: "'Independent' means 'selfish'" and it's true. Invariably a single person who wants to share life meets another single person who doesn't. Or they want to share life with a clone they can take out and use as they need.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Sometimes I have a gig on Fridays. Most of the time I wind down from the work week. Sometimes I go out after work with coworkers and play enhanced table tennis. It just depends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Too many things to admit.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You are over the fact that you are using the internet as a means/tool of interacting with another person. Just get over it, and yourself. Fail forward.

If your life revolves around your next exotic vacation destination, passport stamps, and frequent flyer miles. Go for it! We live in a great time to see the world. Until airlines can't afford to fix their airplanes. But functional, living people do not fit in suitcases.

Come to think of it, if your life is fine the way it is, another person intimately inside it can only ruin it.

You like meeting people for serving rather than self-serving purposes. I love to entertain, but entertaining an audience that can't be entertained 100 times over (and I've done this) is a waste of everyone's time. I will not meet you on a school night for coffee.

Personal growth is critically important to you.

You want to go to the center of the Earth in body and environment, but not in a solitary capacity!