I'm reminded at work every week about how I "over think"
everything. But a lot of people who would be characterized as "over
thinkers" are extremely successful people. It's how we fail and
move forward in life.
Something I think about a lot is why I even bother contacting
people on a forum such as this. Most of us only think about
ourselves, our needs, and how someone else is going to either fit
into our lives with little to no effort on our part. Or they're
going to ruin it because they don't fit. And we wonder why "dating"
is so difficult?
I don't need people in my life so much that meeting a random person
for coffee/tea/whatever is a completely unsatisfying experience. I
have no interest in being a "warm body" to be used for a certain
amount of time and then be discarded by someone else. But for most
of us that is what "dating" is, because our audience is largely
uninterested in anyone except themselves.
Does it matter how good of a person someone is? No. Does it matter
how attentive someone is? No. Does it matter how trustworthy a
person is? No. All that matters to the bulk of people is ME ME ME.
Most of us do not have the courage to connect with others
When we interact in person we must have the kind of mind-blowing
chemistry as if we'd known each other for 5 years. Or else.
And when the shit hits the fan when it doesn't work out, it is
always the other person's fault.