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35 Portland, OR Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 24–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 6:28am
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Strictly other
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
English (Fluently), French (Poorly), Japanese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I'm going to open this introduction up with a keen observation. Most of the single people out there are self absorbed assholes. And they're in the "real world" and "virtual world". They're not assholes in the traditional sense, but assholes in the sense that they can't get over themselves. They complain to their friends they can't find a "good" man or woman. They are not open to make connections because they're scared shitless.

They are skeptical of "online" dating because it's "not natural" when guess what, dating over 30 is "not natural". There was never a glorious period in human history where dating-over- 30-was-awesome-and-it-sucks-now. Honestly, it's like Clarence Thomas saying America should be like it was in 1860.

So my thing is this...if you're "fiercely independent" you should A) quit being fiercely independent and get over yourself or B) keep being fiercely independent and go visit exotic destinations 12 times a year a month at a time and quit trying to find the holy grail romantic partner within the context of a million "coffee dates" because I'm sorry, it's just not enough effort on your part.

I've lived in Portland longer than a lot of non-natives my age...12 years. I came from Chicagoland but there are so many things I wouldn't know if I didn't live here.

For those keeping score in the Meyers-Briggs end of things, I come out an INTJ. Or less than 2% of the American population. I spend lots of time in my head, find small talk painfully annoying, and don't possess the social intelligence of extroverts. That doesn't mean I can't be social! My work requires me to socialize for 7 hours a day!

I've been to several countries in Europe and Asia but moving to Portland was a major failing forward.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm continually failing forward in order to achieve success in life.

I work in telecommunications for a company with the least toxic work environment I've ever been in. Everyone there that shows up for work at 6 a.m. does so because they want to be there. I've never worked in such an environment. It requires me to be very disciplined and that is something I am justifiably proud of.

I play the bass guitar/electric bass and have done so for 19 years. It is without question the greatest instrument invented ever because when it is played with skill it can bring an audience into a concert from off the street! This was a fun performance. "Dead End Street" by The Kinks, with horns. I'm semi-conducting the horns:

Rock and roll...doesn't pay the bills. Semi professional. No...semi-pro...
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Giving good phone. It's a rare quality to be able to maintain a captive audience for several hours on the phone and have them go "Wow, where did all the time go?". Influencing people in bettering themselves. Speaking and singing with my fingers. Taking risks. Not taking "no" for an answer. Making complete and incomplete strangers laugh. Being funny requires a sense of humor, but having a sense of humor doesn't mean one is funny. Being an anachronism. It has nothing to do with playing with fake swords and jousting. The rest of in such tiny screens! I am also the most patient and tolerant person in the realm of crap out there. Maybe it's because somebody has to be. Or I don't feel as entitled as most people. I've become very adept at clashing with non-collaborative (read: egomaniac) singer-songwriters.

I'm learning to fail forward...I'm not really good at it yet, but you can't grow without failing forward.

I've been really good at being lucky.
The first things people usually notice about me
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It depends on the "audience". If the audience is engaged and interested then it's my eyes and kind face. If the audience is completely disinterested at first glance, then it's usually whatever the first thing is that puts them off.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Art is highly subjective. As a person with high artistic intelligence it's really not fair to judge others on the basis of their tastes in art. Most people can't even begin to enjoy the music they have because they don't have a good hifi to listen to it on. Most people don't care. So what does it matter in terms of choice of the written word or television?

Some may conclude the above paragraph is me on my high horse/ivory tower about art. It's not true. I just don't believe one's taste in art is reason enough to dismiss that person.

I love this song, though:

Food is really important to me, largely because a complete primal lifestyle change in 2010 combined with a large amount of knowledge gained working in the food industry with a niche food company. All that needs to be said is for people to read the first chapter of "The Primal Blueprint" by Mark Sisson. I hate only one thing in life...wasting food.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Ketosis. A means of getting from Point A to Point B. Merino wool -- wearing that stuff reduces my water consumption big time. My job. My family. Clean sustenance -- including organic pu-erh tea. It's magical. And I need to buy more.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
After my dad came back from his 1 year "vacation" to Pleiku Vietnam in October of 1966, he spent a couple of months in limbo before working at MIT on the navigation systems for NASA's Apollo program. I think America's peak was the moon landing in 1969 and we've been going downhill since.

America used to be the leader in innovation. America invented the airplane, transpacific and transatlantic air travel, the mass produced automobile, the light bulb, and in the world of art, the electric guitar and most importantly, the electric bass guitar. All of these innovations were the result of pioneers whom took risks to make their dreams come to fruition.

What are we now? We're either playing catch up or we're playing dumb, or we're playing scared of terrorist attacks. Our civil liberties are being taken away with regularity -- for our "protection". We're a stagnant, complacent society, just holding on, waiting for the end. Or, we're richer than we know what to do with and we're miserable at the same time.

Where's the innovation that will keep us at the top of the world food chain going to come from? I deal with business owners daily who won't listen, and are complacent to become another disconnected phone number in the coming years. 36% of our adult population is obese...and the rest are fat, dumb, and happy...and miserable at the same time. America became great because of a bunch of risk takers.

Dating is hard because there aren't enough risk takers. People don't give names. They're content to fuck their asshole ex boyfriends and go on stupid coffee dates that might as well be social black holes. Nothing good ever came from a lack of effort. And sometimes effort results in failure. That is the essence of success.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Sometimes I have a gig on Fridays. Most of the time I wind down from the work week. Sometimes I go out after work with coworkers and play enhanced table tennis. It just depends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I want to ask all of the "fiercely independent" women out there "What do you want a man for?". But there are too many to ask and it's just not practical...
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
In an ideal world writing an engaging and thoughtful message to someone that expresses genuine interest in another being should be enough to warrant a response.

In my experience though, most single people are too self absorbed to remove themselves from the center of the universe, take risks, and invest energy in getting to know another person.

This is why "coffee dates" are stupid. The person whom suggests them is basically saying "I'm not really interested in interacting with you, but I'm interacting with you for self-serving purposes and I'm not willing to put very much energy into this interaction. And I'm only interested in interacting with you once."

It's interesting that I get attention from people out of state and out of country who are impressed by how real my profile is. I put my back into everything I do that I'm interested in, and part of that equation is being in a relationship.