On a lighter note: I live in a sailboat right next to the beach! We could walk hand in hand with our toes in the sand. Add a bottle of wine and we'll be feeling just fine - drinking is not required though.
Writing might not be my strongest area. I can write ok, I think, but it takes so long to get the words just right, so they say exactly what I'm trying to say… with no more and no less. One wrong word can change the entire meaning of a thing that is written, and so I have to wonder sometimes of the things I write, when all is said and done, am I gaining ground or losing it? Would I be better off to say as little as possible? I guess that I am kind of hoping that there are those of you who will recognize the advantage of being with a person who has perhaps too much to say over a person with little or nothing to say.
I'm much better with spoken words than I am with written words, and I even have a voice like an announcer. People always ask me if I work for a radio or TV station. When I tell them I don't, they say I should. I've done a couple of small voice over type things. I think I will look into doing more of that.
I'm from California and also New York. When I was 9, my family moved from Costa Mesa to Rochester, NY (between Buffalo and Syracuse). The winters there were cold and long. I've seen it snow in September there, and in May, and every month in between. It was very rural where we moved… we lived far from the city, where the suburbs turned into rolling fields and woods and farmland. It was a totally different place compared to living just a mile from Newport Beach. One good thing about it was that the public schools there are some of the best in the Country, and that was part of the reason my family moved there. That's where I went to high school. I also learned to ski there, but I always missed the beach and the California weather.
Living back east meant that I had a chance to visit many historical places. I've seen the Statue of Liberty, been in the World Trade Center, been to Wall Street, Central Park, been to the place where George Washington was sworn in as the first President of the United States (in NYC). I've also been to Washington, D.C. many times and have visited all the Museums of the Smithsonian. I touched a rock that came from the moon (if you believe we really went there, but that's another story). I have walked up the stairs of the Washington Monument 3 or 4 times, I've been to the Lincoln Memorial, the Jefferson Memorial, the National Zoo, the Bureau of Printing and Engraving (where they print money). I've been to Capital Hill, the White House. I've been to the final resting place of President Kennedy, I've seen the changing of the guard at the Tomb of the Unknown Soldier, and I've been to the Vietnam Memorial.
In Philadelphia, I stood in the room where the Declaration of Independence, and the U.S. Constitution & Bill of Rights were signed… I even touched the Liberty Bell. There is something to be said for experiencing these things first hand. It makes you feel like you're a part of our Democracy. As a result, I have never really thought of the Government as "they", I consider the Government to be "us" or "we".
I have driven across the country 5 times... 4 times before I was old enough to drive and once by myself. I've flown across the country 10 or 12 times. I've flown or driven from Rochester to Washington, D.C. and back a dozen or so times. I've flown from Rochester to Florida and back 3 times… I've been to Cape Canaveral, Daytona, … I even went to Disney World a couple of times.
One thing I have not yet done is fly on an airplane since 9/11, and I have no plans to fly anytime soon either. Good thing I got in my fill of flying before 9/11 happened. All in all, I have been to more than half of the states but not to all of them, and there is something that I began to notice, which is that everyplace is very similar to every other place. They show the same programs on TV, if you watch TV… I don't anymore. A shopping mall in one city, looks the same as a shopping mall in another city. Stores and restaurants all look the same and they sell the same products. The cars on the roads are the same -- everything is essentially the same. The only difference is that some places have beautiful climates with mountain and ocean views, and some places have brutal winters that can last 3/4th of the year. At some point after living in Rochester, NY for too long, I couldn't take the cold anymore, so I bought a one way plane ticket to L.A., and here I am (back where I started from).
I had been back just a few months and I was looking for a place to live… I went to visit a friend in Marina del Rey where I was exposed to the idea of living on a boat. To me it seemed like the greatest thing in the world. I mean who doesn't want a boat, right? It seems like many people have a dream of maybe one day having a boat, but they never actually fulfill that dream. Most people can't afford a boat -- not one big enough to live on. However, the fact that I could live on the boat made it so it was affordable. Instead of throwing my money away on rent, I decided I would make payments on a boat instead, and live on the boat. It turns out that for the cost to rent an apartment, a person can buy a pretty nice boat instead.
I bought a sailboat that I live on. I even learned to sail and have become a confident sailor... I can teach sailing now. I also became interested in sailboat racing and started to race my boat (my home) in Regattas, and have done pretty well with that... I put together a crew and we started racing in the Wednesday night races hosted by the California Yacht Club. It took a couple of years for us to become competitive, but we eventually won the championship for the season, all 22 races. I should point out that we did this in the beginner division. It was a lot of fun and very close - it came down to the last race.
Now, I mostly sail on other people's boats, and I keep my boat tied to the dock. I can still take it to Catalina with about a weeks notice to get it ready. For the time being, my boat is basically an apartment that happens to float. The water in the Harbor is calm, so you don't really notice that you're on a boat. There's electric and heat, and water, and the internet of course. It's nice and warm on the inside, and totally private. It's also totally dry, even in the pouring rain. I like it.
One benefit of living on a boat is that I live right on the beach. There are plenty of fun things to do here like ride bikes, walk on the beach, play in the waves (try surfing if you want), paddle boarding, kayaking, etc... Everything is uphill from the beach so its nice sometimes to hike or ride bikes up the hill to go somewhere, or just check out the view - the ride home is always downhill, so that's nice.
I bought the boat in Marina del Rey, but I recently moved it to Redondo Beach, where I finally got a "live aboard" boat slip, which is kind of like the Pinnacle of boating in a way - ask me about it.
Here's an example of why I choose to live on a boat: Check out this YouTube video of a blue whale! This was a sailing lesson that turned into whale watching. The voices you'll hear saying, "turn left", are people I was teaching to sail -- it was their boat and I was steering. We were so close we felt the mist from the whale's exhale. The whale was about four times the length of the boat so it was a little scary, but somehow I knew the whale wouldn't hit us.
Watch here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=phkoFyLY050
Would you like to go sailing? Sailing is awesome and a lot of fun. Sailing is just like flying, but without all the dying. :-) I'm just kidding - kinda. I like to crack jokes -
Anyway, like I said, I'm a much better communicator when I'm using spoken words. I think that the internet has great potential for finding each other, but once that happens, I think it's important to get away from the internet as soon as possible - Skype may be okay though.
I never claimed to be an author, but I am confident that I will make a good friend, partner, massage giver, cuddle buddy, boyfriend, lover, etc.
Speaking of finding each other, many of you have stated in your profiles that you think men should do the pursuing, and that you will not make the first move. Many of you think the man should make the first move... As a result, over here on the men's side, we don't receive near the number of messages women receive. I just thought I would point this out… that from a purely mathematical point of view, if you want to initiate something with me, you have a very real opportunity here… if you're cute that is. :-)
If you're thinking about it, say "hello" anyway - there's no harm in that. If you put it off for later, you might not find me again, and then you'll never know the awesomeness we could have shared. Who knows, maybe I'll write back saying I'm interested in you.
Since I'm an advocate of speaking on the phone, if you go ahead and send your phone number, I will call you if I think we're a match. Or you can ask for my number. Also, if I included my number in a message to you, don't take that as anything too forward of me... just take that as me already knowing that I want to talk to you. I'm just trying to expedite the process a little.
E-mailing and text messaging are flawed:
For some reason emailing always seems to get forgotten -- it's like there's too much time between the emails. Email conversations tend to get lost in the fact that we have other things going on in our lives.
I'm a talkative person, and a good listener... I like to ask questions. I'm intelligent and considerate. I try to be the same person all the time, mild mannered and level headed, and drama free. i'm not into people whose mood can change like flipping a switch. I like to have a good time… all the time.
I did some stand up comedy back east, and I'm thinking of getting back into it again here in L.A. (maybe, maybe not, I don't know). Just know this: once I learn what kinds of things make you laugh, I will have you laughing. So, if you like to laugh and have a good time, I could maybe be who you are looking for. Yes, I can be really funny, even over the top at times. I'm all about keeping the mood light and fun, but without missing a beat, I can also be serious, even technical, talking about ideas or inventions, politics, trying to figure out ways to make the world a better place. I also have a few invention ideas and various internet projects I'm working on.
I'm into inventions, technology, making things, fixing things. I often fix people's cars and boats. How is your car running? I also fix computers for people. Sometimes I teach sailing. These are things that I do to get by, but they are not what I really want to do. I have some bigger plans - loftier goals.
My long term goals include perhaps inventing something to make the world a better place... maybe discovering something profound, writing the great American novel is another one - Yeah I may give it a shot. Maybe I need to find someone who can write for me, because I have an endless supply of ideas. Starting a company and taking it public is another goal of mine, as well as doing something with the internet or entertainment - perhaps an internet comedy show... maybe animation. I'm also interested in building houses.
My favorite thing is sharing affection with someone I'm attracted to. I like the way it feels when it is as if there are no other people in the world. After the dust settles it would be nice to find that I am with a person who does it for me intellectually as well. That is what I want. So if you're attractive and also smart, and you're looking for someone you can share physical intimacy with as well as endless conversations about everything and anything, let me know. I won't bite, unless you like to be bitten, but I will only bite softly in any case.
Anyway, sometimes for fun, and to improve interaction on here, I click on the "Quickmatch" feature, and I rate photos (1 to 5 stars). Apparently when somebody gives you a rating of 4 or 5, the computer lets you know. So, If you get an email saying I gave you 4 or 5 stars it means I find you attractive... consider it the first move -- you have one foot in the door. If you want to make something happen, your chances are good - just saying.
[Note: if I am falling asleep while rating photos, I sometimes click the wrong button but that is rare ... maybe 1 in 200. Also if your photo is of a lake or a tree or something (not a person), I sometimes give 4 or 5 stars sarcastically - just for fun.]
So where was I? Oh yes, I like to share affection: I like a lot of touching, caressing, cuddling... in fact, you can think of me as the Mayor of Cuddletown (with a Population of 2). I like to give massages... I have this thing I do during a massage where I use my hands very softly and slowly as I trace the lines of your body - it will give you a goose-bump kind of tingly feeling throughout your entire body - it feels so good.
Maybe it is a bit too early in here to be mentioning this kind of thing, but I'm a guy. I'm not going to lie to you. I am very much interested in getting my hands on that sexy body of yours... Ooops! Did I just tell the truth? Ok, how about this instead; I'm interested in finding a lover, a lover who is also a friend.
I like to be touched and I like touching you. We can glide through life, touching, pushing, pulling, each other. I reach out to touch you, and you naturally move in towards me because you like to be touched... like a dance not necessarily set to music, where the dance-steps aren't predetermined... they just happen naturally. I like it when our bodies naturally sort of fit together...I'm looking for someone who likes to be touched. Do you like to be touched? Do you like having little kisses placed all over your body while you are being massaged? Yes? Well maybe I'm your guy! Am I being too lovie dovie right now… should I not say that kind of thing? Should I not mention that part of my plan here involves me putting little kisses all over your body? I mean, isn't that pretty much something that you ultimately want? Imagine if you invested all kinds of time into some guy only to discover at some point in the future, that the guy really wasn't into touching and caressing you… that he wasn't really into touching you at all -- suppose he would choose to watch sports on TV rather than feel the magic that can result from touch. Maybe worse… maybe he would rather go out golfing with his buddies, and leave you all alone. Well alright, so maybe you've got a great book to read, and maybe you like it when your guy leaves you alone on the weekends or at times… I would think that there are some of you who would find that kind of relationship very disappointing. Well I'll tell you what … that guy probably doesn't mention in his profile putting little kisses all over you. Well I'm mentioning it because this is exactly what I want. And FWIW, I would kind of like to see you not have your nose in a book all day long (living through someone else's story). I would rather that we live life and make our own stories.
SOME OTHER STUFF
I'm creative. I like to write and draw, and play guitar and make up funny words to songs. I recently took up painting... sort of. I painted a few paintings and they came out alright. I'd like to paint more. I like to make things, build things, invent things, learn how things work and fix things. I can fix just about anything that can be fixed. I'm especially good at fixing computers and cars. I know, I said that already.
Admittedly it usually begins with physical attraction, cause that is the way guys are wired. if you're good looking/sexy you can likely win me over with that. That will get you in the door, and you might even qualify for a free breakfast. :-) I'm just kidding - sort of. Hey, at least I am willing to admit that as a man, I'm looking for a little more than just a friend. :-)
It is basic Human Biology, and men are very much driven by instinct in this area. I am more than willing to discuss it. I'm very much willing to study the cause, and you can study the effect. I guess what I am saying is that I wouldn't mind finding someone who doesn't automatically have animosity towards men for the way we are, but rather someone who wants to celebrate it at times. Do you enjoy being the catalyst?
I want to light a fire in your soul that can't be extinguished, and that's just the beginning. Personally I would like to discover that the Kama Sutra has been rendered obsolete as a result of what we get into. And I'd like to see us ramp things up from there. Am I being too honest? Sorry, I guess I was just kind of hoping that honesty is the best policy. Perhaps for internet dating it really is not -- I guess it all depends on you.
I have always found it hypocritical, the way some dating sites try to hide and/or try to downplay what this ultimately is. Some sites go so far as to prohibit any kind of sexual innuendo written into a profile. They will delete a guys account if he has written anything that hints at sex. Yet they have no problem when a woman writes, for instance, that she wants to find a guy to have several children with. So it's ok to say that you want to have children, but not ok to say that you want to have sex… Why do we force ourselves to lie to each other? Is it because what every guy wants is just so obvious that women for the most part are sick of hearing about it? I find this whole process somewhat odd, interesting, hypocritical… it's like it's ok to hint at something but not ok to say it outright. Is it ok to allude, just don't be crude?
Sometimes when I first meet someone it takes me a little while to become comfortable around them, especially if I like the person. The more attracted I am to a person the more this is true. I'm really not sure why - I wish it weren't the case but it just is. So just know this, if we meet I wont be thinking about this at that time but maybe you'll remember this… If you notice that I seem to become not all that funny, and the things I say are very middle of the road, perhaps I'll speak in a monotonous voice, you'll know why - it's because I like you. If you happen to be feeling the same way too, at any time you can show me a little mercy by saying just two words… say, "kiss me" - you won't have to say it twice, I'll snap out of it when our lips meet… it's that first kiss that is just so daunting.
You know, I think I may have finally figured out the difference between men and woman (maybe). Perhaps it's like this: we all want the same things in a significant other… we all want someone who is kind, and compassionate… someone who is fair and considerate… someone who has morals and is therefore above the need for ill gotten gains… we want someone who is intelligent and funny… someone who is engaging, and likes to communicate, a good story teller… someone who keeps things out in the open and not bottled up… we want someone who is happy and therefore predictably fun to be around as a natural result of who they simply are…. and if that person also causes your mind race with desire, and when their eyes look into yours it makes you feel something you've never felt before… if the sum of what the other person is makes it such that you cannot keep your mind off of them, or your hands - and when they feel the same exact way towards you, that is when you know that it's perfect. So yes, I would say that we all (both men and women) want, for the most part, the exact same thing(s). The only difference, it seems, is that men and women start at totally different ends of the exact same list. Does that make sense?
So maybe it is natural that (initially) you can win me over with the way you look, because men are visually motivated. And perhaps I will win you over with words, and quick wit, and a very dry sense of humor. Perhaps that is how it starts. But just know this, where it may be true that your looks may get you in the door, to keep me interested (down the road), you will need to be a person of intelligence who has opinions and ideas of your own that you like to share with me. You should be a person who likes to communicate… someone who likes to keep things positive, at the surface, loose and light, and predictably free of drama (unless absolutely called for).
Anyway, I'm a people person - I am able to strike up a conversation with just about anyone. I treat others the way I would like to be treated. I'm nice, polite, easy going, and level headed - I use words to communicate, and I think that I speak well... For instance, I never use no double negatives -- that was a joke. I'm the type of guy you can introduce to your family, friends, or co-workers, and you wont be embarrassed. By the way, I would never say (to them) anything close to some of the things that are written in here. I know when to shut up… really I do.
I want to surround myself with positive, intelligent, free thinking and open minded people who are not uptight or moody. I like people who enjoy sharing ideas freely with a lot of funny thrown in. I like to listen to various people's ideas about all kinds of things. When people feel comfortable enough to say whatever comes to mind it can get really creative, and really good ideas come from that. I am always learning about something.
I'm into free speech... Anyone can say anything to me - I don't easily get upset or offended. I love to debate things in a healthy and constructive way, and so I also don't mind if someone challenges what I say - in fact, I kind of enjoy it. I view it as a way to strengthen my understanding of a subject. If it turns out I'm wrong, I see that as a chance to learn, and become a better person. So if you ever hear me say something you think is incorrect, I would hope you are the kind of person who will let me know... though you might want to Google it first just to make sure. :-)
By the way, have you ever Googled something, to check on a fact about what a person has said right in front of them, while they are talking? Why do some people get all bent out of shape when someone Googles what they've said to see if it's correct? I don't mind it. I think it's kind of funny, and fun.
So then, please tell me, what do you think of my profile so far? Is there any value in what I have written here? Do you feel like you know me now? Does this make you want to know me more? Do you like my pictures? Do I seem intelligent to you? Or do I seem misguided and lost? Perhaps I am a hopeless romantic, or is it helpless romantic? Do I seem like I would be an honest person? Am I too honest with the stuff about wanting sex? Do you like me? Do you want to have sex with me? Perhaps we could start off slower… maybe I didn't mean to ask that question. What about this: would you like to have a staring contest with me? Would you be open to the two of us getting drunk and playing Twister, for instance? What about a sensual massage? Would you be open to me giving you a sensual massage for say 45 minutes or so, and then we can just take it from there (see where it goes)?
Are you a smart girl who is also sexy? Is it wrong for me to want both? It is wrong for me to be so honest about wanting both? Does every guy want a girl who is sexy and smart? I would think not. I would think there are guys who can't handle it when a girl is smarter than he is, and I would think this causes a lot of heartache for really pretty girls who also happen to be very smart. I'm letting you know that if you are super sexy and exceedingly intelligent, it is the latter of the two that I really crave, after my instinctual desires are fulfilled.
Let me know what you're thinking. I really do want to know.