[Note: Sometimes I rate photos using the "Quickmatch" feature. If you get an email saying that I gave you 4 or 5 stars then you pretty much have one foot in the door already - it means I like the way you look, and since guys are pretty much motivated by the visual when it comes to women, initially anyway, you're half the way there (or here) already. So if you're feeling it, go ahead and say hello - there's no harm in saying hello.]
I like to communicate, and I love to share affection. I'm mild mannered, level headed, I'm funny, intelligent, considerate, and drama free (I'm calm, cool and collected).
I'm single, never been married, and have no kids.
[Note: Much of this is probably pretty boring, but if you want to read about something(s) that are kind of cool and interesting, skip down to the section titled, "I spend a lot of time thinking about". Near the end of that I have written about something you might find really interesting. Anyway that is the most entertaining section I think.]
I'm a talkative person, and a good listener... I like to ask questions, find out who, what, why, where, when, and how -- always in a good and upbeat way, with a lot of funny mixed in. I like to have fun. A lot of people say that - I know. Well, I'm no different.
Many people have told me that I'm the funniest person they've ever met. So take that for what it is - it is true. If you like to laugh and have a good time, then I could maybe be who you are looking for. Yes, I can be really funny, even over the top at times (cracking jokes and keeping the mood light and fun). But, without missing a beat, I can also be serious, even technical, talking about ideas or inventions, politics, trying to figure out ways to help make the world a better place. I have a few invention ideas and various internet projects I'm working on. If I can do that while making some money, and having a fun and interesting life in the process then it will be a success.
I'm into inventions, technology, making things, fixing things. I often fix people's cars and boats. How is your car running? Do you want me to fix it for you? It's in the cards. I also fix computers for people. Sometimes I teach sailing. These are things that I do to get by but they are not what I really want to do. I have some bigger plans - loftier goals.
My long term goals include perhaps inventing something to make the world a better place... maybe discovering something profound, writing the great American novel is another calling I may pursue. Starting a company and taking it public is another goal of mine, as well as doing something with the internet or entertainment - perhaps an internet comedy show... maybe animation. I'm also interested in building houses.
I'm on here because I want to find a companion who is intelligent and engaging... someone who has ideas and opinions, and who likes to share them with me... someone who is kind and considerate, and above the need for dishonesty and/or drama. It would be awesome to find a person who has those traits and who is also a hot bucket of sexy - hey I'm a guy I can't change the fact that I was wired this way from birth. Yeah I like the way it feels to be swept up in those moments when nature takes over and I am controlled by instinct, lust, and passion. I like it when it is as if there are no other people in the world - that's what feels good. After the dust settles it would be nice to find that I am with a person who does it for me intellectually as well. That is what I want. So if you're sexy/cute and also smart, and you're looking for someone you can share physical intimacy with as well as endless conversations about everything under the sun, then let me know. Say hello at least... If you have read this far, please let me know - I'm interested in some feedback. I won't bite, unless you like to be bitten, but I will only bite softly in any case.
Using the internet to search for love is so new. I think "internet dating" will change significantly in the next couple years. I think we will see more video used, and less writing... perhaps no writing at all will be the norm.
For now, I think speaking on the phone is a much better way to learn about someone than through emailing. Using the internet is great for finding each other, but once that happens, I think it's important to get away from the internet as soon as possible… I'll explain this more in a minute.
Some of you say you don't like my user name. Don't read into it. It's not the name I wanted. After about a 1/2 hour of trying different names, I decided to try "CrazyForYou" - but it was taken as was every way of spelling it; then the okcupid computer started making suggestions, adding on the word "girls", to what was already there. That is how my user name came to be - the computer suggested it. It really doesn't mean anything. But if you become my lover, then I guess I will be a little crazy for you, but in a good way - wouldn't you want that? The problem with my user name seems to exist because girls at the end is plural. I wish I would have caught that, but I didn't even think of it at the time. Oh well.
So anyway, where was I? Oh yes, I like to share affection: I like a lot of touching, caressing, cuddling, kissing... I like to give soft gentle massages, the kind that make ones entire body tingle. I like to be physically involved, sort of like a dance that's not necessarily set to music, where the dance-steps aren't predetermined, but come naturally. We glide through life, touching, pushing, pulling, each other - I like it when our bodies sort of fit together... I reach out to touch you, and you naturally move in towards me because you like to be touched. I'm looking for someone who likes to be touched, someone who likes the way it feels when skin touches skin.
A lot of you mention how you want the guy to "initiate" things, but there is only so much I can do from behind this computer screen. You will need to put in some effort. Even if you don't think we're a match it would be nice to hear from you. Tell me what you think of my profile - I am always open to constructive criticism. i want to know if anyone is reading this. I want to know if anyone ever sees this at all... let me know you were here, ok?
How I got here (to Redondo Beach):
I lived in Orange County as a kid, but my family moved to Upstate New York when I was 9. I lived there until I couldn't take the cold anymore, and I moved back to L.A. in 1999. I was visiting a friend in Marina del Rey where I was exposed to the idea of living on a boat, something that hadn't occurred to me. I was looking for a place to live at the time and I wound up buying a sailboat that I live on. Since then I have become a confident sailor... I can teach sailing now. I became interested in sailboat racing and started to race my boat (my home) in Regattas, and have done pretty well with that... I put together a crew and we started racing in the Wednesday night races hosted by the California Yacht Club. It took a couple of years to become competitive but my crew and I eventually won the championship for the season (22 races). We did this in the beginner division, but we treated it as if we were racing for the America's Cup. It was a lot of fun and very close - it came down to the last race.
It's sort of inconvenient to race a boat that is lived in - everything has to be put away before each race (things like computers, TV's, etc.) or they will slide off tables and shelves and break, when the boat leans over. So now I mostly sail on other people's boats, and I keep my boat tied to the dock, but I can still take it to Catalina with about a weeks notice. Now, for the most part, my boat is an apartment that happens to float… there's electric and heat, and water and the internet of course. It's nice and warm on the inside, and totally dry, even in the pouring rain. I like it. One benefit of living on a boat is that I live right on the beach. There are plenty of fun things to do here. Recently I moved my sailboat to Redondo Beach where I finally got a "live aboard" boat slip which is kind of like the Pinnacle of boating in a way - ask me about it.
Here's an example of why I choose to live on a boat: Check out this short video of a blue whale just a few feet away - we got it on video! The voices you'll hear saying, "turn left Brian", are the people I was teaching to sail -- it was their boat and I was steering. This was a sailing lesson that turned into whale watching. We were so close we felt the mist from the whale's exhale. The whale was about four times the length of the boat so it was a little scary, but somehow I knew the whale wouldn't hit us.
Watch here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=phkoFyLY050
Would you like to go sailing? Sailing is awesome and a lot of fun. In a way, sailing is a lot like flying, but without all the dying. :-) I'm just kidding - kinda. Hey, I like to crack jokes - sometimes they're pretty funny.
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An observation I had:
The internet has forced a lot of people to become writers who otherwise would not have been writers. I question if it's natural for humans to use alphabetic characters to make words, then string them into sentences and paragraphs. The written word has so many pitfalls (chances to be misunderstood), and the slightest stray from what an author intends, can quickly grow to where the meaning of something is taken by the reader in a way that is the opposite of what is intended.
It takes a great deal of skill to thread words into sentences and paragraphs such that they are locked into an unequivocal meaning. This is especially true when two strangers are communicating. With written words it's not always clear when a person is being sarcastic, or joking, or teasing (or sort of joking). Written words lack the changes in tone, tempo, and volume that spoken words have. Spoken words, on the other hand, are delivered in a symphony of tones - in certain sense they are sung, and they are universally understood. It is much easier to know what a person is meaning when you can hear the tone of their voice.
So, the internet has forced me to become a writer, and maybe I've got the hang of this to some degree, but I know there are many of you who are far superior at this than I am. You may have noticed, I'm not 100% sure on where to put commas - I'm kind of winging it... Also, I tend to say too much - I guess this is my way of trying to be honest in my approach, trying to explain the "why" for what I have opinions about.
When writing a "dating" profile, it's probably best to say as little as possible, but I just cant bring myself to do that because that's just not who I am. I guess that I am hoping one of you will see the advantage in a person who says too much over someone who says too little. There's a lot to me, I think so anyway, and so, whatever you find that I have written here, it is really just a scratch on the surface of all there is.
Another thing to keep in mind is that some people, myself included at times, are always sort of trying on different hats (new and different ideas)... perhaps still formulating their opinions on some things. Writing can often depend on what kind of mood a person is in when they're writing, or reading. If you read all that I have written, and especially in the questions section, where I often took the liberty of making comments (some are funny, some are serious, some are political, some may be radical, and some probably should be deleted), just know that, just because I wrote something at a particular time doesn't mean that I actually subscribe to that notion 100% of the time. It is possible that I was just trying on a different hat that day, if you will - perhaps I was not in the best mood, or perhaps I was a little too bold in what I was trying to say, or maybe I was just being sarcastic, but failed to make that clear. This goes to show another inherent flaw with written words - written words can be hard to distance ones self from.
With spoken words a person can quickly back away from something they have said if it doesn't go over well... they can say, "No, I'm just kidding - I really didn't mean to say that", etc. but written words are much harder to change. This can work against a writer who may be trying to explore ideas in a comprehensive and open and honest way. Think of a comedian who is trying to put together a routine of funny material… in order to do that the comedian is going to have to tell a lot of jokes across a wide range of the "funny-spectrum", and then sort out which ones get laughs. One has to take chances in order to come up with things that are new and awesome... in order to find the good jokes, a comedian will have to tell a few jokes that are duds. The same goes with writing, one has to take chances to find out for themselves what it is they are actually wishing to convey, and one word misplaced or omitted can change everything. Proofreading doesn't hurt either. I need to do more of that, or do it more often - or both.
What I am saying here is this… if you should find that you like me, or kind of like me, but then you happen to read something I wrote that you don't like, I would hope you will give me the benefit of the doubt, and go ahead and speak to me by phone... ask me about it in that conversation, because it's possible you have read something I didn't exactly mean to write, or maybe I don't actually feel so strongly about currently - or maybe it needs editing, or a lot of editing. Perhaps I was wrong about something... I'm smart enough to know that happens from time to time... Does that make sense? Anyway it is very possible that one or two (maybe three) of the things I have written on here really should be removed all together. If you happen to come across such a thing, please let me know what and where it is.
I'm so much better at speaking than I am at writing... that's what I'm saying. Lets talk on the phone (at first). Lets see if we click, and decide if we want to meet. Since I'm an advocate of speaking on the phone, if you go ahead and send your phone number, I will call you if I think we're a match. Or ask for my number. If I included my number in a message to you don't take that as anything too forward of me... just take that as me wanting you to call me. I already know that I want to talk to you, and i also know that emailing always seems to get lost or forgotten -- it's like there is too much time that goes by in between the emails, and the conversation get lost in the fact that we have other things going on in our lives.
[ouch, that was way too long - I know. Thing is, where I do get messages from people saying it's too long, and they couldn't read it all, I also get a lot of messages from people saying they read every word, and felt it was very introspective, well thought out, etc... some people really like it. Sometimes I just don't know what to think in approaching this - I'm sure I will find a way to edit this down some in the future. For now I hope my point was understood… not only should you not judge a book by it's cover, when dealing with the writings of an amateur writer, you probably shouldn't judge a book by what is between the covers too much either. I never claimed to be an author, but I think I will make a very good lover/friend/cuddle-buddy/kisser/massage giver, etc. for someone who gets me.
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I like to have a good time at whatever I am doing, and I can be pretty funny. I did some stand up comedy where I am from, and I'm thinking of getting back into it. Once I learn what kinds of things make you laugh, I will have you laughing. Sometimes I do some pretty hilarious and over the top material, but I can be serious when needed.
I'm creative. I like to write and draw, and play guitar and make up funny words to songs. I recently took up painting... sort of. I painted a few paintings and they came out alright. I'd like to paint more. I like to make things, build things, invent things, learn how things work and fix things. I can fix just about anything that can be fixed. I'm especially good at fixing computers and cars.
Like I said, I live in Redondo Beach, on a sailboat that I can sail, but for now I keep it parked - it is like a floating apartment. It's nice and warm and dry on the inside, and very cozy. It's just a few yards from the beach where they're lots of things to do like ride bikes, walk on the beach, play in the waves (try surfing if you want), paddle boarding, kayaking, etc... Everything is uphill from the beach so its nice sometimes to hike or ride bikes up the hill to go somewhere, or just check out the view - the ride home is always downhill, so that's nice.
Admittedly it usually begins with physical attraction, cause that is the way guys are wired from birth - it's kind of true... if you're good looking/sexy you can likely win me over with that. Hey, at least I am willing to admit it, willing to discuss it, willing to study the cause, and you can study the effect. Yes, I am a man, and yes I am very much interested in caressing your soft skin, smelling your hair, touching my lips to yours, and if things seem to be proceeding nicely, I may even try to slip my hand into your pants, because I am very interested in getting my manly hands all over that gorgeous body of yours... :-) Hey, I'm just kidding, but lets face it, there is at least a little kernel of truth in everything funny, you know? Just know this, my Pretty, looks may get you in the door, and you might even qualify for a free breakfast, but in order to keep me interested, you will need to be a person of intelligence who likes to communicate... you should have opinions and ideas of your own that you like to share. You should also be a person of good character and morals - and lets not forget drama free. I like to think that I'm above the need for drama.
[should I delete that "qualify for a free breakfast" part - I think it is pretty funny, but maybe it is a bit too gratuitous - too much sex talk delivered to the wrong audience? What do you think?]
So maybe it's like this: we all want the same things in a significant other, it's just that we start at different ends of the list. So maybe it is natural that you will win me over with the way you look initially, and then keep me interested with the opinions and ideas you have down the road. I will win you over with my quick wit and intellect, and with the way I touch you.
I'm a people person - I am able to strike up a conversation with just about anyone. I'm nice, polite, considerate, honest, etc. - I treat others the way I would like to be treated. I'm easy going and level headed - I use words to communicate, and I speak well, I think. I'm a guy you can introduce to your family and friends, if you want to, and not be embarrassed.
I want to surround myself with positive, intelligent, free thinking and open minded people who are not uptight or moody. I'm not into people who can become upset like flipping a switch. I try to have a positive out look on situations, perhaps in a sort of witty and sarcastic way. I like to point out the humor in any situation. I like to stay happy. Yeah, I know, this is getting repetitive - writing is not easy.
I like to listen to various people's ideas about all kinds of things. I like people who enjoy sharing ideas and opinions freely with a lot of funny thrown in. When people feel comfortable enough to say whatever comes to mind it can get really creative, and really good ideas come from that. I am always learning about something.
I may talk a lot, but I think I'm a good listener too. I like to keep things loose and light and on the surface, not bottled up. I'm into free speech, and I'm somewhat liberal, but maybe I am really Ultra Conservative, because once us Liberals finally get our way, we are going to want to conserve it.... Anyone can say anything to me - I don't easily get upset or offended. I love to debate things in a healthy and constructive way, and so I also don't mind if someone challenges what I say - in fact, I kind of enjoy it. I view it as a way to strengthen my understanding of a subject. If it turns out I'm wrong, I see that as a chance to learn, and become a better person. So if you ever hear me say something you think is incorrect, I would hope you are the kind of person who will let me know... though you might want to Google it first just to make sure. :-)
By the way, have you ever Googled something, to check on a fact about what a person has said right in front of them, while they are talking? Why do some people get bent out of shape when someone Googles what they've said to see if it's correct? I don't mind it. I think it's kind of funny, and fun.