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30 Chicago, IL Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 20–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 11:21pm
6′ 3″ (1.91m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Agnosticism, and very serious about it
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Dropped out of university
Sales / Marketing
Open relationship
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
The least attractive trait is apathy.

The most attractive trait is engagement.

The only just course is goodness.

Everything that follows is in the key, or context, of those statements.

THAT SOUNDED VERY SERIOUS. I am all that is man. I am a silly bitch. I aspire to be a force for goodness. Either you find these statements ridiculous or awesome. If it's the latter, please drop me a line.

Have you heard this?

I'm an odd one. Add together Fitzwilliam Darcy, Han Solo, a wolfy grin and one of my viking ancestors and you're just about there. I'm a man who strives for things - non-hypocritical righteousness, a clearer mind, better music, kinder actions, sharper teeth, a stronger soul, deeper knowledge and a more beautiful existence.

And goodness. Always goodness.

Early in profile note: I do have an amazing primary partner, with whom I am in a wonderful open relationship. We are one of those awful COUPLES (gasp! faint.) you hear so much about. You'll like her!
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Creating an amazing and excessive life.

Designing prototypes in my head because I can't yet afford incredibly expensive engineering software.


Swooning every day for our amazing city.

Figuring out how things can be better, faster, fairer, louder, and more FUN.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
...A lot of things. I'm almost annoyingly perceptive - most of the time I can guess private personal details accurately after knowing someone for a short time.

Sexing of ridiculous durations and intensities. (No, really.)

Dressing quite well. Lateral thinking. Singing.

Being very, very organized and amused with myself when it falls down flat.

Recognizing patterns. Listening well. Caring about things that matter to the people I love.

Obscure or oblique tech stuff, and once I know you well enough I'll want to tell you ALL ABOUT IT.

Applying ludicrously effective g-spot pressure. I said a sexual thing, ladies! BE SEDUCED.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
That I'm holding a door open for them, and grinning warmly;

That I look like a piece of classical american literature and the Motorhead song "Ace of Spades" fucked and dumped me in a trash can under the Belmont Red Line station.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
We all skip reading this, don't we?

Books; I'm slowly working my way through classics on my phone. If you see me in public staring at it for hours, I'm probably reading the Picture of Dorian Gray or The Prince. Or more likely watching Top Gear.

I have a high tolerance for bad movies. I can't tell you have many times I've seen Manos: The Hands of Fate. (Worst movie ever made. No, worse than that one. And that one. Let me just show you).
I do love good ones, though. Things like The Hunt for Red October, Solaris, Sunshine, Trading Places, The Dark Knight, Star Wars III-VI, Pi, The Lord of the Rings Trilogy, The Shawshank Redemption and others.

Music is a constant element in my life. I have spare headphones in my car, my bag (which backup bigger, better headphones), everywhere I need them. Some artists, now:

Nine Inch Nails
Blue States
Yokko Kanno
Eric Whitacre
The Toadies
Interpol - I forget they exist for months at a time, and love it when I remember.
(Some) Talking Heads
The Clash
Stevie Ray Vaughn
Phillip Glass
Aesop Rock
Boards of Canada
Dave Navarro (He made a solo album and it is FANTASTIC)
Eddie Izzard!
Explosions in the Sky
King Crimson
Miles Davis
Daft Punk
Freddie Hubbard
How To Destroy Angels
Gnarls Barkley
Phillip Glass
Nathan Fake
The Pillows
Queens of the Stone Age
Say Anything (Their first album)
Sufjan. Stevens.
Thievery Corporation
TV on the Radio
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Music. When you were a child, you were taught books could take you places - music takes me to emotional states I otherwise would never encounter. I have lived a thousand lives, between my headphones. I have learned, better, how to live this one.

My smartphone, bluetooth headphones and accompanying organizational tech. Technology CAN improve your life! Increase headspace! Offload your data and all of a sudden thinking is easier.

Clothes that fit.

Touch! All kinds. All durations. All intensities.

Genuine, nerdy, warm people.


How many things was that? What? Squirrel.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
If I'm as loud as the neighbors that annoy me.

Truth. Right. Kindness.

Music - lately rhythms, and how to process them.

People, and what motivates them.

Why concerts are so loud at small venues - Who is this ear-damaging volume for? Why are we perpetuating it?

All the people listed as "available" that make no mention of being poly or in an open relationships.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Wait. What night is it? Fuck.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I growl. Not can growl. Do growl.

I'm a sucker for excellent tracts of land. And even more of a sucker for short hair.

You know that you're a petrolhead when your wallpaper is the naked chassis of the original Lamborghini Miura prototype...

I am very, very serious about sexual safety. Not the "had the conversation so we can say we were safe" safe. Safe as in safe - every single time. See my Journal for more on this.

I eat meats. It is very unlikely that I will ever stop eating meat. It's cool if you don't, though.

Occasionally if I like a person enough I ditch my usual composure and speak in lolcat.

I wear boot-cut jeans and good looking, excellently capable hiking boots at all times, in all temperatures.

My status states straight as I'm more looking for women right now - I'd be a 2 on the Kinsey scale.

My computer automatically shifts the color temperature of its monitors from sunlight to the equivalent of incandescent light over the course of an hour, starting at sundown. My phone reads my calendar and goes on vibrate when I'm at work.

These kind of modifications are simply the daily norm for me.

When I die, it will probably be with a sword in my hand - ancestral tradition.

Love violates entropy.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
If your profile says something along the lines of "I'm too good for you" you'll never get a message from me. Ever. Self-involved, maliciously demeaning people are not on my radar. If you get pleasure from making others feel bad, you can fuck off. Right out of my life.


You can spell, and haz grammar.

You can deal with a man who makes great efforts to be intelligent, moral, respectful and kind - while still openly and joyfully sexual.

You know what a cloture vote is.

You'd like to discuss random but enthralling topics, like the differences in soda as per packaging, or whether the Cheshire Cat was actually unconstrained by the rules and systems that other residents of Wonderland inherently adhered to.

You have a FetLife profile.

You can debate without fighting. This is important.