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31 Chicago, IL Cis Man

Cis Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 20-35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Online now!
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
6' 3" (1.91m)
Body Type
Agnosticism and it’s important
Dropped out of University
Doesn’t have kids but might want them
Has cats
English (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
You know how everyone says lately that they just want someone they can sit on the couch in their underwear and watch netflix with? That, but with lots of kinky sex, intellectual exchange, video games, and giggling.

Early in profile note: I do have an amazing primary partner ( Don't be scared off by the first paragraph, you should see the messages,) with whom I am in a wonderful open relationship. We are one of those awful COUPLES (gasp! faint) you hear so much about. We hunt unicorns. It is terrible. We want a pack - not distractions, spicing up, playthings or to use anyone. We're both mad, brilliant nerdy affectionate talented and terrifying dommy doms. Flee if you must.

The least attractive trait is apathy.

The most attractive trait is engagement.

The only acceptable course is goodness.

THAT SOUNDS VERY SERIOUS. I am all that is man. I am strange and silly. I aspire to be a force for good. Add together Fitzwilliam Darcy, Han Solo, a wolfy grin and one of my viking ancestors and you're just about there. I'm a man who strives for things - non-hypocritical righteousness, a clearer mind, better music, kinder actions, sharper teeth, a stronger soul, deeper knowledge and a more beautiful existence. Either you find these statements ridiculous or excellent. If it's the latter, please drop me a line.

Have you heard this?
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Creating an amazing and excessive life.

Designing prototypes in my head because I can't yet afford incredibly expensive engineering software.


Swooning every day for our amazing city.

Figuring out how things can be better, faster, fairer, louder, and more FUN.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
...A lot of things. I'm almost annoyingly perceptive - most of the time I can guess private personal details accurately after knowing someone for a short time.

Building things out of garbage, zip ties, and duct/painter's tape. Two weeks ago it was an enclosure that turned an average clip fan into a vent booster fan for our bedroom. Today it's a cat-proof overnight enclosure for my 3D printer.

Dressing quite well. Lateral thinking. Singing.

Being very, very organized and amused with myself when it falls down flat.

Recognizing patterns. Listening well. Caring about things that matter to the people I love.

Obscure or oblique tech stuff, and once I know you well enough I'll want to tell you ALL ABOUT IT.

Applying ludicrously effective g-spot pressure. I said a sexual thing, ladies! BE SEDUCED.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
That I'm holding a door open for them, and grinning warmly;

That I look like a piece of classical american literature and the Motorhead song "Ace of Spades" fucked and dumped me in a trash can under the Belmont Red Line station.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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We all skip reading this, don't we?

Books; I'm slowly working my way through classics on my phone. If you see me in public staring at it for hours, I'm probably reading the Picture of Dorian Gray or The Prince. Or more likely watching Top Gear.

I have a high tolerance for bad movies. I can't tell you have many times I've seen Manos: The Hands of Fate. (Worst movie ever made. No, worse than that one. And that one. Let me just show you).
I do love good ones, though. Things like The Hunt for Red October, Solaris, Sunshine, Trading Places, The Dark Knight, Star Wars III-VI, Pi, The Lord of the Rings Trilogy, The Shawshank Redemption and others.

Music is a constant element in my life. I have spare headphones in my car, my bag (which backup bigger, better headphones), everywhere I need them. Some artists, now:

Nine Inch Nails
Blue States
Yokko Kanno
Eric Whitacre
The Toadies
Interpol - I forget they exist for months at a time, and love it when I remember.
(Some) Talking Heads
The Clash
Stevie Ray Vaughn
Phillip Glass
Aesop Rock
Boards of Canada
Dave Navarro (He made a solo album and it is FANTASTIC)
Eddie Izzard!
Explosions in the Sky
King Crimson
Miles Davis
Daft Punk
Freddie Hubbard
How To Destroy Angels
Gnarls Barkley
Phillip Glass
Nathan Fake
The Pillows
Queens of the Stone Age
Say Anything (Their first album)
Sufjan. Stevens.
Thievery Corporation
TV on the Radio
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Music. When you were a child, you were taught books could take you places - music takes me to emotional states I otherwise would never encounter. I have lived a thousand lives, between my headphones. I have learned, better, how to live this one.

My smartphone, bluetooth headphones and accompanying organizational tech. Technology CAN improve your life! Increase headspace! Offload your data and all of a sudden thinking is easier.

Clothes that fit.

Touch! All kinds. All durations. All intensities.

Genuine, nerdy, warm people.


How many things was that? What? Squirrel.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
If I'm as loud as the neighbors that annoy me.

Truth. Right. Kindness.

Music - lately rhythms, and how to process them.

People, and what motivates them.

Why concerts are so loud at small venues - Who is this ear-damaging volume for? Why are we perpetuating it?

All the people listed as "available" that make no mention of being poly or in an open relationships.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Wait. What night is it? Fuck.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I growl. Not can growl. Do growl.

I'm a sucker for excellent tracts of land. And even more of a sucker for short hair.

I eat meats. It is very unlikely that I will ever stop eating meat. It's cool if you don't, though.

I wear boot-cut jeans and good looking, excellently capable hiking boots at all casual times, in all temperatures.

My status states straight as I'm more looking for women right now - I'd be a 2 on the Kinsey scale.

My computer automatically shifts the color temperature of its monitors from sunlight to the equivalent of incandescent light over the course of an hour, starting at sundown. My phone reads my calendar and goes on vibrate when I'm working. Our apartment blows cooler outside air into our bedroom through 30ft of 4" dryer vent tubing when the ambient outdoor temperature is 60°F or above. At night, it storms in our bedroom.

These kind of modifications are simply the norm for me. It is frequently said that I have no sense of scale.

Love violates entropy.
You should message me if
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If your profile says something along the lines of "I'm too good for you" you'll never get a message from me. Ever. Self-involved, maliciously demeaning people are not on my radar. If you get pleasure from making others feel bad, you can fuck off. Right out of my life.


You can spell, and haz grammar.

You can deal with a man who makes great efforts to be intelligent, moral, respectful and kind - while still openly and joyfully sexual.

You know what a cloture vote is.

You'd like to discuss random but enthralling topics, like the differences in soda as per packaging, or whether the Cheshire Cat was actually unconstrained by the rules and systems that other residents of Wonderland inherently adhered to.

You have a FetLife profile.

You can debate without fighting. This is important.