'What I want is to be needed. What I need is to be indispensable to someone. Who I need is someone that will eat up all my time, swallow my ego, completely devour my attention. Someone addicted to me. Someone not afraid of a mutual addiction.'

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"The Perfect Man

He is a leader, my teacher, he displays integrity. He is loyal. He is honest. He is responsible. He inspires me. He is honorable. He is an alpha dog to the world, but a puppy with me. He is handsome. He is sweet. He is charming, he will show me his weaknesses. He is romantic, because he knows as a woman I need that. He is the leader of our family, holding to very traditional roles, but with a modern twist. He supports and encourages my goals, but not because he can't take care of me. He knows as a woman, I too have the ability to take care of myself. He allows my spoiling of him, not because he can't take care of himself, but because it makes me feel like a woman to pamper him. He will go to bed every night with the knowledge that I'm 100% committed to our life together. He will take note that no man is loved more. He will respect that for the gift that it is and protect our union until the end."

This is what I was taught a man should be. What I was taught a relationship should be. Why in the hell is this so very hard to acheive in this day and age?? I mean, is there anyone but me that still wants this lol?

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Ok...I was told I should add in here a bit more about what I'm looking for...so let me clarify. First and foremost...I'm looking for someone to spend time with. Someone to hang out with on weekends...barbecue at my/your/someone else's house...play pool...go to the lake...hang out on whiskey row in Prescott...take a weekend ride on my bike to Sedona...see movies...go to races...you know, a 'girlfriend'. IF you never become more than that...I'll still consider myself lucky to have met you.

If you become (key words, 'if', and 'become'...the first denotes that its not expected, the second that we grow into it...even if over one date, and really...this is what my goal in being here is to find) more...well, I'll probably consider myself more fortunate than that guy back east that won the last mega millions.:)

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If you would like to learn more 'about me', you can find me on Instagram at *CrisAnderson27*

Well...I just moved back to Phoenix last month (end of November)...after a year in northern Nevada. I'm back working in construction...but am trying to get myself set up to finish my associates degree so I can attend Pharmacy school. I have custody of my three incredible children...and work very hard to keep them my main focus...without letting work or school slide.

Not to sound cocky...but I'm good at most things I attempt. If its something interesting...I won't stop working and learning until I'm the best I can possibly be at it. Things that interest me vary from being a great parent...to being a great husband/boyfriend...to building and racing cars (and now bikes again!!)...to writing and art. Anything creative will usually be able to catch and hold my interest long enough for me to become good at it (for example...I'm a great cook!). Things I can do with people I care about usually come first though. From working on a fast car or lifted truck with my kids...to taking my family (and you too!...want to come along??) racing or four wheeling for the weekend.

One thing I really suck at is messaging women out of the blue and selling myself with a one liner. Maybe its just me, but it seems to me, a guy that's good at that is someone who has practiced. That can't be good lol.

Oh...and really...I seem to be a professional at losing my keys...go figure.

Tough to say...I've never asked lol...but from some of the reactions I've gotten recently, its that my personality only bears a minimal relation to my appearance. I was told by one girl (who I'm actually great friends with now!) that she was very hesitant to talk to me...and certainly nervous about meeting lol. I guess I look 'mean'?

The funny thing is...I never knew!

Books - Fantasy...as in George R. R. Martin...Robert Jordan, Glen Cook, Steven Brust, and my good friends David and Leigh Eddings...to name a few.

Music - Anything but hardcore rap. Usually my radio is set to a rock or country station though. From KidneyTheives to Led Zeppelin...and Tim McGraw to Waylon Jennings.

Can I cheat and put the first three as my kids lol?

Honestly...I'm a pretty simple guy...and after I lost my company a few years back, I learned the hard way just how many things I could live without. I kind of think this question should be answered differently. For example, I don't like being single...but can live without someone. I like having a toy...you know, a fast car (Mustang...tyvm!), bike, or lifted truck for taking off road...but again...I can do without those things. I've even done without family (excepting my kids...I'm a wreck without my kids lol) and friends in the past.

But in the interest of self disclosure lol...my final three answers would be love, passion, and happiness...in no particular order :).

The future...and how to best make it a positive one. I've worked hard for the things I've had in my life...but the circumstances of life aren't always kind. Its our own responsibility to guard ourselves and those we care about from the harshness of some of those circumstances. The only way to do that is to keep an open mind, and do your best to be ready for whatever things might come your way.

Lately I've been thinking a lot about how and why men and women interact the way they do. Its such a simple and yet totally complex subject...with some very surprising twists and turns. in the end...I've come to the conclusion that our society is slowly eroding away our innate ability to have and maintain lasting, meaningful relationships. So...for all of you genuine ladies out there, I have this piece of advice to help combat this erosion:

'Find a guy who makes you feel beautiful without prompting, who doesn't just say it, but truly makes you feel it. A man who calls you back if you hang up on him, who will stay awake just to watch you sleep. Wait for a guy who kisses your forehead...and then your lips...just because your forehead is closer and he can't wait any longer. A guy who wants to show you off to the world when you are in your lazy clothes, who holds your hand in front of his friends. Wait for the one who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares about you and how lucky he is to have you. Wait for the one who will turn to anyone that will listen and say,

"...that's her."

And then...simply, appreciate him.'

Either at home with my little ones, or if I'm out, its playing pool, seeing a movie...or possibly drinks with friends.

Umm...some of my answers are pretty freakin private I think!

- You have an honest heart...
- You are looking for a great friend...
- You think we might fit and are looking for more...
- You're willing to see if I actually DO smile much more often than my pictures indicate...
- You love kids! Yes I come with my own...but despite the rough exterior...I'm really a big kid at heart...