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Crisvend

34 F Cape Town, South Africa

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 9:47am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
Yes
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Sales / Marketing
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Portuguese (Fluently), French (Okay), Spanish (Poorly), Italian (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Well, here I am re-writing my profile because I think the things I've written before weren't a summary of who I am but rather a result of my state of mind at the time it was written.

So, I was born in Jo'burg and moved to Portugal when I was 9. I spent all my life there, not feeling at home and not identifing my core belifs with those of the Portuguese society.
So, on January 2nd 2013, I arrived in CT alone and without knowing anyone here or the city itself.

Regarding "what I do", my life was very much dedicated to humanities. Studied social communication, marketing and psychology and dabbled in some other areas too.
Since I became aware of myself that I knew I'd always love people. Socializing and helping others was something that really resonated in me.

I'm an observer of human nature, a scholar of human behavior and I continue to maintain my love of people.
But Cape Town is an unforgiving city when it comes to meeting people and making friends.
I find that most Cape Townians are rather cliquey, keeping themselves closed to new friends and trend followers which isn't something I can't identify with.
I pretty much like to do my own thing and don't give a damn about what's the latest fashionable thing to do or what other people think about that.

At my core I am an empathetic soul. I like meeting people and interacting with them and building meaningful friendships.
I'm a firm believer of Universal Love, changing the world one mind at a time and the pay-it-forward theory.
I seem to have a good sense of humor because often the people listening to my string of stories of nonsense are laughing.
I'm also partial to a good sense of humor, wit, intelligent conversation, challenging minds and non-judgemental people.

After a life of not believing in anything metaphysical or not proven by a reliable scientific source, I've now decided to put my skepticism aside and start trying new things I believe will make me a better person overall: Yoga and Reiki.

Personally I love music so concerts and festivals are a must (if with good company), watching football, rugby (still learning), tennis.
Going out with a group of potential and/or friends to a bar to have a drink and talk about absurd things with the sole intention of being silly and having a good time.
I have quite an incisive sense of humor, loaded with all kind of unorthodox things to say and absolutely politically incorrect. I'm gifted also with a dirty mind. Well I lived in Portugal and when in Rome...
But I also believe that humor can be found in anything and we must try not to take ourselves and others too seriously.
I'd like to start doing adventurous things like skydiving, shark cage diving and other interesting things that my cross my mind.
I'm not a kid anymore but it's never to late and I still have it in me to try something that's sounds fun at least once.

I'm not on this site with the primary intention of finding love.
I want to make friends. People to hang out with, do some of these crazy things with me, have deep and not so deep conversations with and slowly getting to know them.
Basically, friends. I'm looking for friends.
Casual sex is out of the question and I must explain that I do not accept this concept of "dating" that puts too much pressure on a simple conversation.
I'm partial to having a drink or coffee in a nice quiet place and talking to our hearts delight.
When it comes to the heavy and grinding "quest for true love", it's not a priority and if it is to happen, a friendship is a very good beginning.

That said, warning, I'm a complex person that may become complicated to deal with if rubbed the wrong way (which isn't that easy to do but...); highly intuitive, more often than not I see right through bullshit so don't waste both our times; obligatory characteristics: honesty, integrity, goodness, kindness and intelligence.

So, that's basically me. I might change many things and contradict myself because I'm constatly questioning everything. But those principles that I've listed above are who I am always. The rest is human day to day conclusions, so mutable.

Let's have a chat?
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Looking for good friends.
A companion would make me a happier and more secure person but good friends can also provide that much needed feeling.
I just want the "technicalities" of my life in order.
Finding peace of mind and getting to know myself and forever bettering the person I will evolve into.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Making people laugh. General knowledge. Communicating. Conversing. Helping others. Giving my opinion. Not judging. Loyalty. Honesty. Kindness.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My smile and sense of humor. Some point out that I'm sexy. But if I am it's not a conscious way of presenting myself.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Too many books that changed my life.
But the one that saved my life was "The Book of Disquiet" by Fernando Pessoa. "The Little Prince" humbles me and makes me return to simpler more humane ways.
These are just a couple of reasons that got me to tattoo both on my body.

Movie? "Wit" with Emma Thompson. A HBO movie. Got it but very difficult to find otherwise...

Series. Lots of them but I love medical based ones... Clever comedies... British Humor... Nonsense... Intelligent plots that keep me guessing...

Food? Braai's I guess. I don't pay a lot of attention to food....
FYI: don't like cheese and still have to get used to wine...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Mother
Friendship
Music.
Laughter.
Loyalty
Love
And a hell of a lot more...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Everything. Yep, drives me crazy but my mind is an ininterrupted machine.
ALSO, WONDERING IF I AM SO UNINTERESSTING THAT, EVEN THOUGH I TAKE THE FIRST STEP AND REACH OUT TO PEOPLE, I SEEM NOT TO BE WORTHY OF AN ANSWER.
That sucks. I know I'm not stunning or have a profile that will grip you like a good novel. But, don't judge a book by it's cover or by the little biography written about the author.
YOU MIGHT BE SURPRISED.
Guys, answer please. Even if it's to say: thanx but no thanx.
I mean, i took a chance on you...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Doing something fun with a new group of potential friends. Reading or watching TV/series or chatting on the phone. Lol 😁
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I usually take the first step and send guys msg if their profile interests me.
It seems that either due to not being interested in chatting with me or shyness or some other reason, most guys don't reach out to me.
I confess that when I "like" a profile I'm secretly hoping that the guy wil understand and msg me first.
Everyone needs ego boosts too...
😔
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 23–52
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
If you'd like to get to know me better and forge a true and strong friendship. I'm an old fashioned person. I still believe in loyalness in life and being there when I'm needed.
Or basically if anything tickles your fancy...
Go on, it's virtual... What is there to lose?