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30 Schenectady, NY Man


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  • Ages 24–33
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

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Last online
Today – 6:51am
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body type
Atheism, but not too serious about it
Scorpio, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from law school
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Okay), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Recovering anxiety sufferer. Socially awkward. Struggling musician pretending to be a lawyer.

Music is my life, but it's hard to make a living at it, so until I get famous and make millions, I figured I'd go into six figures of debt and attend law school. After graduating and passing the bar, I discovered that I'm a Crazypants McGee and have issues with chronic anxiety. Through the wonders of pharmaceuticals and regular visits to a therapist, I'm getting it under control.

I give money to people on the street if they ask for it and I have it to spare. I don't care what they use it for. I try to practice unconditional compassion, because the world feels better to me that way.

I like animals. I think they're better than people sometimes.

I like reading through song lyrics and poetry, both old timey and contemporary. I spend a lot of time discovering metaphors for my emotions.

My friends and I make fun of each other all the time. The more brutal the jokes, the better. It's never personal, it's just how we relate to each other. I think it brings us closer together, honestly. We're a pretty tight-knight group.

I used to be a fattie but I lost a bunch of weight. I'm about 25 lbs. away from my goal weight now. I try to eat reasonably well and lift lots of heavy things. We'll see how things go.

I believe in second, third, and fourth chances, and forgiveness to a fault. This is not always good for me. But it's good for you.

I'd like to spend my legal career helping the poor and disadvantaged. If I can't do that, well, there's always music and existentialism.

I have some emotional baggage. If you do too, that's alright.

I'm pretty shy, so I'm not likely to message you even if I recently visited your profile and thought you were interesting or cool. Feel free to message me though. If you do it first, I'll probably respond.
What I’m doing with my life
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I pretend to be an attorney occasionally (in the parlance of the industry, we call this being "of counsel"). I'm listening to, playing, writing, and experiencing music with most of my other waking time. In the spaces in between, I watch Netflix. Sometimes I also play nerdy games with my friends who are disposed to nerding.

At the moment, pretty much all the money I make (an amount so small it would shock the conscience of an ordinary man) goes towards bills and student loans. My car has mismatched bumpers, an engine that makes weird noises, and a sunroof that doesn't go all the way down. I'm definitely not sugar daddy material. I'm good at making inappropriate jokes though. I've also been told I'm a good kisser. So there's that.
I’m really good at
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Being awkward.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Not sure. Maybe that I wear glasses?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Non-fiction Book(s): The Fire Next Time, by James Baldwin; Close To The Knives: A Memoir of Disintegration, by David Wojnarowicz; Indefensible, by David Feige; The New Jim Crow, by Michelle Alexander; The Ballot or the Bullet (speech transcript), by Malcolm X.

Fiction Book(s): The Great Gatsby, by F. Scott Fitzgerald; Wind, Sand, And Stars by Antoine de Saint-Exupéry; Anything by R.A. Salvatore.

Poem(s): Howl, by Allen Ginsberg; Daddy, by Sylvia Plath; Do Not Go Gentle Into That Good Night, by Dylan Thomas; Invictus, by William Henley; Ulysses, by Alfred Lord Tennyson; Because I Could Not Stop For Death, by Emily Dickinson; Blinking With Fists, by Billy Corgan.

Art: H.R. Giger, Alex Grey, Gottfried Helnwein, Marina Abramovic

Movie(s): Dead Poet's Society; Lost in Translation; Babel; Punch-Drunk Love; Mullholland Drive; Good Will Hunting; High Fidelity; Pan's Labyrinth; The Proposition; 12 Angry Men; Adaptation; Dopamine; Synecdoche; Many others I've forgotten to list here.

Music: Cold Specks, The 1975, Daughter, Lykke Li, Fiona Apple, Sharon Van Etten, Kimbra, Ray Lamontagne, Sam Cooke, George Clinton & Parliament Funkadelic, D'Angelo, Yusef Lateef, Bright Eyes, Ryan Adams, City & Colour, Counting Crows, Jeff Buckley, St. Vincent, Nina Simone, Radiohead, Friendly Fires, Massive Attack, The National, How To Destroy Angels, Clutch, Dead Sara, The Bronx, Groove Armada, The Crystal Method, Rage Against The Machine, Thrice, At The Drive In, Norma Jean, After The Burial, Protest The Hero, Stevie Ray Vaughan, Mos Def, Maxwell, Run The Jewels, Tool, Deftones, Digable Planets, and a million more not listed here.
Food: Not Picky.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My guitar
My guitar amp
My laptop
My bookshelf
My family
My skeleton? (I suppose life as a blob could be cool though)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
-My uncanny ability to achieve maximum awkwardness in any given situation.

-Where I can discover new music.

-How dysfunctional I think our criminal justice system is.

-How it still never ceases to amaze me that a song can change your life, revolutionize your emotions, and become a deeply ingrained part of you. A piece of art that somebody else wrote about their own life becomes a pillar within your own; a reminder that someone else on this earth has, at some point, felt as weak as you. And managed to express it in a way that you can intimately relate to, because it could have just as easily come from you.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
(a) Possibly listening to/playing music
(b) Possibly out with friends
(c) Possibly thinking about what a hot mess I am.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I sometimes replay conversations in my head after I talk to a person, wondering if I said the right things or did anything weird.
You should message me if
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- You'd like to get to know me better.
- You like getting drunk and listening to the same song on repeat because you're a hot mess.
- If you know what song this lyric is from:

You are my center when I spin away

- Or any other reason, really.