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35 Asheville, NC Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 32–40
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

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6′ 2″ (1.87m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English, Spanish (Okay), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Update May 4, 2015:

I just looked up "book" in Thai, "music" in Hindi, and "food" in Greek. Hmm...

I moved from DC with the intentions of exercising my adventurous side and dealing with the challenges that change brings. (Don't interpret that as, "Things weren't working out my way and I said 'to bleep with it.'")
I haven't gone on a romantic date for nearly a year and have learned to expect nothing beyond the prospects of meeting someone new and seeing how we interact. I like to have light and impersonal conversation, observe reactions and thought processes, and gauge interest on the first date. Some people like to get drunk, but that's not my thing. I am looking for sober, pleasant interaction - in the best way that one could be "pleased" with life.
I notice that people in Asheville "feel energy," and I have not often-enough looked at people in this way - urban upbringing, military, "rationalist" - opting instead to perceive thoughts, ideas, actions, etc., and use them to analyze, judge, think, express.
I am not arrogant - just a bit on the unaware and clueless side at times. While people are interested in normal stuff, I might be interested in how a paradox expresses a paradox, or whether I am an "eclectic," as some people choose to say. If you're into looking at wild edible plants or taking pictures of things, I could go for a day or two of walking around and doing that.
First date, though, no activity, please. Just talking.

Update May 2, 2015:

I am a changed man.

Update April 30, 2015:

I moved to Asheville a month ago in order to work with a friend and take a break from the insanity of DC for a while. So far, I like Asheville because I have met many very tranquil and friendly people here, its environment is stunningly beautiful, and my overall impression of Asheville's culture is aesthetically novel. I haven't ever seen the combinations of colors and shapes of the Blue Ridge Mountains.

I had heard that Avl is a place for writers and painters. I can agree with that. Much of the local "art" is...I guess have to find a word for it. "Folksy" just popped into my mind, but that's not quite it.

I am arbitrary about commas. It's about that time in my life. I decide.


Update January 27, 2015:

It's hard to say, really; I am so very many things and have a wealth of life experience. I started working at age 14 and moved out of the house at 15, which was possible 20 years ago in the town where I lived. As well, I am a military veteran and served twice in Iraq (OIF1 & OIF3). I have run more miles and eaten more dirt than anyone else I know.

I have written several of these summaries, already - some short, some long (like several pages), some fragmented, some terse - and none of them ever sounded right. It's hard to put colors, flavors, and fragrances into words, right? So, I'll just be myself and refrain from spending too much concern on appearance.

People tend to tell me I am very interesting and that I seem very focused. Apparently, I have a nice-sounding voice. I enjoy making people laugh and would speak in only one-liners and puns, if that were efficient.

I also hear that I am very kind and sweet. "Smart" and "sweet" are the two adjectives most frequently used to describe me. "Quixotic" and "dreamy" also fit in there, somewhere.

If you read what I've written here and find it to be well-written, interesting, and funny, please don't be fooled; I sometimes take a long time to say things in person and am perhaps a little too meticulous in choosing my words.

I sit at the Dupont Circle fountain and play my guitar, people love to listen and take photos, people interview me and take videos, and I have some regular fans.

I fathom moving to another country, one day. I am not very comfortable in this one, anymore, and would like to try Switzerland, perhaps. Or somewhere on the continent of Africa. I imagine myself working for Médecins sans Frontières in the future.

I am interested in many, many things, but will usually lose my interest in that which doesn't challenge my intellect with complexity, logic, and beauty. I am highly interested in helping humanity and supporting social justice. I currently volunteer in a few different capacities for a 501(c)(3) nonprofit and am looking into what it will take to start my own business. I lost my voice shouting and leading chants in the protests after Nov 24.

I am new to freelance writing and I give massages.

My college studies pertain to psychology, with a concentration in cognitive neuroscience, where I am interested in DNA, chemistry, proteins, signal cascades, computational science, and neural networks. I don't understand any of this stuff, but it's fun to read and provides endless hours of mind exercise.

Then, there are the "oohs" and "ahhs" buzzing at the mention of cognitive neuroscience. "The neuro part sounds so interesting!"

The similarities I bear to descriptions of the prototypical Gemini are very uncanny. I don't believe in astrology, but I find this coincidence "fun to think about."

To be continued...
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am pursuing goals, staying on track, and being creative. Ever since I moved to DC, people have been trying to talk me into going to law school, which seems to be growing more likely.

The first thing people usually notice about me:
I am a one-eyed, one-horned, flying, purple people-eater.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I can roll my belly like a pro. I also dance quite well, as long as it's not ballroom-style. I write decent. I taught myself to play the guitar, and had a Blues-Hall-of-Fame harmonica player ask me to jam with him at a bar in Waikiki.
I play well with others, especially dogs and children. I can be very smooth, charming, and persuasive; I could go to Hell and negotiate a deal with the devil like I owned the place, but I sometimes get really nervous on a first date.
I am an excellent driver and have driven a huge truck that is used to haul military tanks and other large equipment (M1070 HET). I haven't driven a car since I moved to DC two years ago, however.
I make in-your-face-awesome omelets and am very good at experimental cooking.
I am excellent at making loud noises and barking at dogs.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Book: The Foundation, by Isaac Aasimov

Movies: Hmm...Catch Me if You Can, Phenomenon, Eternal Sunshine..., Taxi Driver, Away from Her, The Notebook, The Manchurian Candidate, The Pursuit of Happyness, A Beautiful Mind, Good Will Hunting, Awakenings, etc.

Shows: I don't watch any shows. I don't own a television set (I don't think that's what they're called these days - visual media display?). I have no idea what is on tv these days and I couldn't identify any actor, program, or movie you mentioned. If I did own a visual media display, and had the option, I would watch Stephen Colbert, Breaking Bad, and Downton Abbey.

Music: jazz and classical: Charlie Parker, Art Tatum, Duke Ellington, Thelonious Monk, John Coltrane, Miles Davis, Oscar Peterson, Joe Pass, Neils Henning Ørsted-Pederson, Prokofiev, Bach, Satie, Wagner, Liszt, Chopin, Mangoré, Rodrigo, etc.

I like rock: Pearl Jam, AC/DC, Pink Floyd, The Rolling Stones, Jimi Hendrix, RHCP, Tool, Deftones, Boston, Slayer, Pantera, Helmet, The Who, Coldplay, REM, Smashing Pumpkins, The Ramones,...etc.

And other music.

Food: Indian cuisine, escargot from The Sea Catch, Mexican cuisine from Mama Chuy's, Pizza from Pizzeria Paradiso, Injira on T; lots of healthy things, including coffee, green tea, ginger, turmeric, pineapple, honey, lemons, black pepper, cranberries, tomatoes, kale, broccoli, artichokes, brussels sprouts, avocados, asparagus, oatmeal, cinnamon, coconut oil, flax seeds, chia seeds, sunflower seeds, strawberries, blueberries, yogurt, lentils, brown rice, cumin, dill, chili peppers, garlic, onions, shiitake mushrooms, reishi mushrooms, apples, kiwi fruit, and more.

I highly recommend the avocado toast from Le Pain Quotidien.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1) Textbooks
2) A classical guitar
3) Coffee
4) Writing utensils
5) Life after midnight
6) Classical literature
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I spend too much time thinking, in general, but I spend a lot of time thinking about my niece and how best to be a part of her life.

The most private thing I am willing to admit:
I have a private thing and I hope it will be admitted.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Playing the guitar and singing at an open mic venue; drinking tea and editing work documents; chatting with friends; watching people walk along P Street from a fourth floor window.

I'm not a bar fly, though I don't mind meeting in a bar. There are only a couple of dance clubs I like in DC. I would prefer to dance in the park or in my living room.
You should message me if
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You want to compare belly buttons.

You recognize that my profile photo is a bit scruffy.

You make up the reason.