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CupidRich

44 M Grand Rapids, MI

My Details

Last Online
May 29
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
Height
5′ 2″ (1.57m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism
Sign
Cancer, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Other
Income
Less than $20,000
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Offspring
Pets
Has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
I have a girlfriend. We have an open and Polyamorous relationship. Her OKC name is Kylyssa. She is bisexual. I am not. We live in an apartment with my best friend (who happens to be my non-poly ex-girlfriend).

I have had some other relationships along the way with some very lovely women, some of whom have been shared relations between Kylyssa and myself. Currently I’m not dating anyone outside my primary relationship with Kylyssa, and don’t really intend to (there are intentions, and there is life, so who knows). I’d be much happier for her to have the chance to explore a little on her own. But that’s up to her.

If something comes along that feels right, then I might see where it leads, but for now I feel content to figure myself out a little and focus on making music.

It might still be nice to meet some friends, so do not be scared by the fact that I’m not looking for “romance” if you think we could connect on some level, please stop and say hello.

I’m not sure what’s up with me, but some times a cuddle pile sounds more fun than an orgy. lol. Forming a band sounds even better.
What I’m doing with my life
I’m feeling like 2014 is the year to get things done, since I didn't get as much done in 2013 as I wanted to. The main things that need to happen: 1. Record more music! 2. Get a new job!

I'm currently working at a retail establishment. It was OK, but it's becoming a place I hate to be. Plus, it doesn't pay all the bills. I'm looking for a career in my chosen field, which would be video or audio production, this might take me out of Michigan at some point.

My last album is available on Amazon. On CD or for download. Just search for NaCl.

If you’re interested, I am a musician, a songwriter, a liberal, an agnostic, a progressive and kind of a socialist.

I believe in the notion of sex-positive, in that I view sexual expression as essentially good and healthy rather than something dirty that needs to be hidden in the dark. Hiding in the dark leads to negative behavior.

I’m trying to pursue happiness. :D
I’m really good at
These are the things I know I'm good at; Rhythm Guitar, songwriting, and video editing. Though I'm a very biased judge. Maybe you can tell me what you think I'm good at. :P
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm not sure. I guess it's my eyes. An ex-girlfriend of mine always says I have big brown cow eyes, which she insists is a compliment. I don't get it.

Otherwise. You'd probably notice that I'm shy.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I love to read. I love music and movies. Food is good too.

This is a truncated list to be sure, but it's a start...

Music:
Beatles (together and separately), They Might Be Giants, Tori Amos, Barenaked Ladies, Flaming Lips, Cat Stevens, Pixies, Billy Joel, Bob Dylan, Suzanne Vega, Adrian Belew, Panic! at the Disco, Loudon Wainwright III, Prince, the Police, Nelly McKay, King Tammy, Ween, Beach Boys, Wilco, the Monkees, Frank Zappa, Donovan, Tom Waits, Elton John, Green Day, Harry Chapin, Matthew Sweet, Amie Mann, Bob Dorough, Camper Van Beethoven, Violent Femmes, Talking Heads, Nhate Backwards, Beck, Weezer, Tom Petty, Badly Drawn Boy, LL Cool J, Bread, Moody Blues, White Stripes, Beastie Boys, Outkast, 60's Motown, Novelty tunes, Sting, Leonard Cohen, Eagles, Duran Duran, Fleetwood Mac, PJ Harvey, Nirvana, Monty Python, Loop d Loop, Jethro Tull, John Williams, Danny Elfman, Adrian Belew, Jack Johnson, Randy Newman, Harry Nilsson, John Mellancamp, Stone Temple Pilots, Foo Fighters, Simon & Garfunkle, Carly Simon, Of Montreal, King Tammy, Man Man, The Willeys, Vampire Weekend, etc...

Authors:
Stephen King, Kurt Vonnegut Jr., C.S. Lewis, J.K. Rowling, Susie Bright, Douglas Adams, Arthur C. Clark, Jonathon Ames, Tom Robbins, Sasha Cagen, Terry Pratchet, Piers Anthony, J.R.R. Tolkien, Alan Moore, Grant Morrison,
Books:
Pillars of the Earth, Dune, Stainless Steel Rat, The Girl with the Silver Eyes, Lies and the Lying Liars that Tell Them, Sex For Beginners, etc

Movies:
Stand by Me, Star Wars (original), Little Miss Sunshine, Bowling for Columbine, Amelie, Clue, Rushmore, Big Trouble, Lord of the Rings, Tombstone, Blue Velvet, History of the World Part I, G-Men from Hell, Toy Story, Dogma, R.S.V.P., North by North West, James Bond (except Lazenby, and I'm not hot on this new one either), Kiki's Delivery Service, Pecker, etc.

Television (yes I know my brain is rotting):
Daily Show, Doctor Who, Monk, Star Trek (all except Enterprise), Monty Python's Flying Circus, The Prisoner, Law & Order, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, MASH, Twin Peaks, Father Ted, Mythbusters, Firefly, etc.
The six things I could never do without
Let’s assume the basics of air, water, food, and shelter are not in question.

Science: Science has made technology that I use daily possible.

Music: Combinations of words, tones, and textures that reach into the soul and make life awesome.

My brain: I'd hate not being able to think. At least that’s what I think now.

Humor: If I could not laugh at my own ridiculousness, I'd be insufferable.

Tea: I may have become a tea addict. lol.

Friends: My friends are my family. I love them and they seem to like me.

Sex: I just really like it. Is that so wrong?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Society. Psychology. Politics.
Health care. Kylyssa has Lupis, so our health care systems failings are often on my mind.
Changing my work situation.
Music. And how to get to recording mine again.
Fiction. Why I don't ever seem to write a book.
Movie. And when I can make my own.
And sometimes:
Sexuality. Polyamory. Sex. Threesomes. Orgies.

I think about lots of stuff. I think too much perhaps.
On a typical Friday night I am
With the unpredictable schedule of retail employment, there isn't a typical any night.

Some Friday nights I wonder why there isn't a Daily Show. How *daily* is a show that isn't on three days out of the week anyway?

Other times I wonder why I don't get my ass out to the open mic at Quinn & Tuite's Irish Pub more often.

There are Friday's that I work until 10:30pm.

Then there's the Friday's where I'm adventuring off the coast of a tropical island looking for treasure with a sexy co-star. Wait, that's not me. ... Or is it?

So, nothing typical at the moment.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I love ice cream, especially with crunchy bits in it.

If you're interested in me, you may have to make the move or make it obvious. At the very least drop an enormous hint. I'm a little on the shy side, believe it or not (...I'm walking on air...).
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 25–50
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends
You should message me if
You would like to chat online. Chatting is a fun way to get to know someone a little before meeting, and it helps avoid some of the first meeting nervousness.

You like coffee shops, but maybe not coffee (I’ve started to acquire a taste for the stuff, but I don’t think I’ll ever be a real coffee drinker).

My profile didn't bore you and you think we might have something in common, something about which we can have a conversation.

You like to play Apples to Apples.

You want to surprise me.

You know what a Neapolitan Sixth chord is.

You play drums, bass, keyboards, or lead guitar. Please, musicians of any kind are definitely people I want to meet. I really NEED to get a band together!!

You're looking to get cute.

You’re interested in polyamory. My girlfriend, partner, symbiote(?), Kylyssa, and I are polyamorous and would love to know more poly people.

You listen to NPR.

You like to make this face. =^_^=

You are a butterflie.

Don’t message me if…

You are looking for a potential husband or a drama filled romance. I'm not your man. (Hm. That might make a good song title, “I’m not Your Man.”)

If you message me, keep this in mind, "I am too old to be playing around with trying to figure out what you might mean so just tell me. I'll tell you how I feel about what you might mean and we can move forward from there." Meaning, I’m shy and I can’t read non-verbal cues, tell me what you want, and I’ll try my best to see if it fits with what I want.