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42 Ottawa, Ontario, CA Man


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  • Ages 28–45
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  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

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6′ 0″ (1.82m)
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Atheism, but not too serious about it
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids

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My self-summary
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I am a perpetually curious, laid-back geek with a strong optimist streak. I'm very open-minded, socially liberal with a dash of fiscal conservatism thrown in for good measure.

I've been separated for the last 4 years. I'm very much over my previous relationship, but I spent a lot of the past 4 years seeking to better understand myself. I think I've got a pretty good handle on who I am and what is important to me. There are still some big unanswered questions, but I'll let you discover those on your own. I could get into Myers-Briggs, Enneagram or other inventories if they interest you.

I'm comfortable with detail and the big picture. I naturally see multiple viewpoints in arguments, so I do well facilitating discussions or mediating conflict. As well, I have a people-pleasing streak to me. I highly value integrity, creativity, expertise, teamwork and informality. These should provide a pretty good picture of how I relate to others.

But, stepping away back toward things that are a little more tangible...

I work with computers and enjoy my job. I am lucky to work with great people with whom I share many values.

I live in Centretown and love it; I'm not looking to move to the suburbs. I grew up and went to school in rural Saskatchewan, living in a town of 1,000 people several hours from the nearest McDonald's. Since 1996, I've lived in Ottawa, Moscow and Kitchener/Waterloo. But I keep returning to Ottawa: It is a good, liveable, manageable, balanced city.

Things that I love and/or are important to me:
Animals (but I don't have any pets)
Board Games
Being playful (with either like-minded adults or children)
Ultimate Frisbee
Ideas and profound quotes
The ellipsis...
Civil Rights
Civil Liberties

Things I hate:
Intolerance (yes, I recognize the irony)
Celery (the only truly vile vegetable)
Cigarette Smoke
People that are not genuine
People that lack humility

I don't drink hot beverages. (Yes, soup is fine.)
I don't like beer.
My bed seldom needs to be made, because it doesn't get unmade.
I like to shower with bar soap with uncommon scents. (Cinnamon, Ginseng, Spearmint, Lime, etc)
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Being happy. I work hard, but I enjoy it. I enjoy the little things in the world around me.

If you were looking for some grandiose plan to, I don't have one. Instead, I seek to make the lives of people around me just a little better every day.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Putting others at ease.
Keeping an open mind.
Seeking to understand.
Seeing both sides.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Probably something physical: my hair or my smile.

People that get to know me even a little bit probably notice that I am tolerant and genuinely curious, easy going and (when I'm comfortable) very playful and silly.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Favourite Books (Fiction):
Marooned in Realtime by Vernor Vinge. I like to think about the future and the possibilities that are before us collectively as a race if we can ever learn to get along and not screw up the planet. In that sense, virtually any good Hard SciFi book can be fertile soil for ideas.

Favourite Books (Non-Fiction):
The Innovator's Dilemma by Clayton Christensen is a business book that tries to explain how the seeds of a company's destruction can be sown in the very things that have made it successful.
Hackers and Painters by Paul Graham is a series of blogs posts, some of which focuses on the connections between Art and the creative process behind programming.
Mining the Sky by John S. Lewis is a scientific exploration of what awaits us if we actually got off the planet in any significantly meaningful way.

I like many kinds of movies, but underdog movies, Action/Thrillers and Comedies are staples.

I like television shows that have a lot of continuity and long story arcs. Sherlock, House of Cards, The Wire, Firefly, Battlestar Galactica, Babylon 5 and Game of Thrones.
For humour, I prefer absurdist humour: Archer, Whose Line is it Anyway and Scrubs.
Then there is the pure geek side of me: Junkyard Wars / Scrapheap Challenge and Mythbusters.

My musical tastes are quite varied, meaning it is easier to say what I dislike: most Contemporary Country and Opera.

I enjoy Classic Rock, Hard Rock, Post Rock, Ska, Soul and even Classic Country. Examples of the above might include (in order) Led Zeppelin, The Headstones, Godspeed You! Black Emperor,The Mighty Mighty Bosstones, James Brown and Johnny Cash.

Food: I like variety. I tend to cook staples, but I love to try new kinds of food and cuisine. Molecular Gastronomy is particularly interesting to me right now. Surprise me!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Fresh ideas
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The future. What could be. Ideas. BIG ideas.

...and (being honest) sex. I said I like being playful. That is true in general, and sex is really just a playground for adults.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Relaxing. That may mean I'm at home. It may mean I'm at a pub with friends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
After the failure of my marriage I spent a lot of time seeking to better understand myself. I haven't dated in the past 4 years because I knew I wasn't ready.

Oh yeah...and I have "happy underwear". (Funny how just a pattern and colour can make such a difference.)
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You are playful. You are curious and open-minded. You enjoy board games and thoughtful conversation.

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