Here, happy birthday, have some delicious, delicious labels: I'm a skeptic, a geek, a kinkster, an introvert (I'm socially capable, but I prefer smaller, more personal groups), and I'm polyamorous. I've caught a seemingly incurable strain of the activism bug. I'm no longer actively involved in Unitarian Universalism, but it's really eerie how well I always seem to get along with people who are.
If you understand words like "heteronormative" and "cisgendered", and you enjoy words like "emergent" and "feels" you are hereby advised to read the fuck out of my profile.
I am the type of person who will ask, out loud, if you think ridding my brain of unconscious preconceptions about attractiveness would be more or less difficult than successfully uninstalling Norton Antivirus (on a related note: fuck Norton Antivirus).
I love figuring things out. Brain teasers, riddles, SAT math questions, or people. I'm incurably curious about what makes people the way they are. The system of ideologies, habits, neuroses, and all sorts of other things that make someone up, I love trying to understand how it all fits together to make them. I tend to get animated in any conversation about how and why people do things, the thoughts and emotions behind their actions, that sort of thing.
I love clever, well-chosen analogies. I think people who can make them are sexy. I'm told by friends that given the rest of my personality, this is entirely unsurprising.
I'm on here looking to build a family of close friends out of which I may or may not find relationships and/or sex. I think relationships (platonic or otherwise) work best when they can take whatever form they naturally fit, so I try not to attach specific expectations to my correspondence on here. If there's amazing romantic chemistry, let's follow that; if there's amazing platonic chemistry, let's go that direction. No need to miss out on one type of amazing connection because you're too focused on finding another.
I always look for communication skills, conscientiousness, and the ability to know and say what you want. I'm most interested in getting to know more local poly, kinky, geeky, and/or generally off-the-beaten-track types. I'm a stickler for intelligence and critical thinking skills. I enjoy spending time with people I can learn from and be challenged by.
More information: If you'd like to know how I do polyamory, I've written two journal entries on the subject here, and here. If you'd like to know specifically what I'm looking for in a romantic partner, that's here.