Listening and Looking: my food and breath.
I perform little acts of love in unexpected places. I run with both feet at the sound of a wedding bell. I am the boy next store who was always your true love. I am the boy next door who was always a little weird. I am a gentleman who enjoys life's elegance. I am every bureaucrat's worst nightmare (if they only knew how little I hate them in my soul). I am untamable in my liberation pyromania!
I know what it is to have truly loved and lost and in a way that nobody would have expected.
If you are still on my page by now, there may be something wrong with you.
If their is something wrong with you, we may just get along ;)
Also, I live with honesty and integrity. Please, please, please don't enter my life if those aren't important to you. I can be fooled for a while, but you're just wasting both our time if you try. I always figure it out and run when away when there is nothing I can do. I'm also very slow in judgement so you'll end up in my life for six months, end up powerfully attached and then I'll observe something and know. I don't hate people who lack integrity, indeed I have loved some of them very deeply, I just can't be with them.
Also, I can stand people who want to control me for a while, but here's the thing: I don't want to coerce you, control you, or make you feel bad for not being what I dream of. I passionately believe in cooperation (a funny idea cooperating, isn't it?). I shall dream with you in your dreams (because they are YOUR dreams), but god help you if you try and control me. It just doesn't work. In cooperation, I prefer just to to talk about what is happening. If something is annoying to me, I don't say: "don't do that," I just say: "when you blast music right next to me like that, it makes it really hard for me to read." That way I leave it up to you to if you want to do something about it and how you do something about it. And that doesn't mean I let anyone push me around, I believe supremely in cooperation before warfare. I have endless imagination when it comes to cooperation and put that first in life. The thing is I don't really want a lover who wants to engage me in war. I've been in enough relationships that I know how to never let it reach war if we can work on it together. I'm a good soldier, but I refuse to date someone who keeps seeing me as the enemy.
I'm really easy to deal with and I like people who are too. I have a boatload of goals. I am working nonstop to achieve them, but I'm at the point in life where if someone keeps needing me and leaning on me, I have to run away. This doesn't mean things don't happen and that I won't be there for you, but I move fast and need a lover who can keep up.
I just found out that I'm also an INFJ. I think it's a fairly good generalization of me.