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28 M Chicago, IL

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6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), C++ (Okay), LISP (Okay), French (Okay), Hebrew (Poorly)

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My self-summary
i AM the glory of a sunrise when it's just a little too early to be awake. i AM apple pie and gorgonzola. And despite all my sunshine, I prefer sauntering in the shadows. When I see animals in cages, I try to loosen the locks. Sometimes I walk like a prince as I smile at the nobility of a squirrel.

Listening and Looking: my food and breath.

I perform little acts of love in unexpected places. I run with both feet at the sound of a wedding bell. I am the boy next store who was always your true love. I am the boy next door who was always a little weird. I am a gentleman who enjoys life's elegance. I am every bureaucrat's worst nightmare (if they only knew how little I hate them in my soul). I am untamable in my liberation pyromania!

I know what it is to have truly loved and lost and in a way that nobody would have expected.

If you are still on my page by now, there may be something wrong with you.

If their is something wrong with you, we may just get along ;)

Also, I live with honesty and integrity. Please, please, please don't enter my life if those aren't important to you. I can be fooled for a while, but you're just wasting both our time if you try. I always figure it out and run when away when there is nothing I can do. I'm also very slow in judgement so you'll end up in my life for six months, end up powerfully attached and then I'll observe something and know. I don't hate people who lack integrity, indeed I have loved some of them very deeply, I just can't be with them.

Also, I can stand people who want to control me for a while, but here's the thing: I don't want to coerce you, control you, or make you feel bad for not being what I dream of. I passionately believe in cooperation (a funny idea cooperating, isn't it?). I shall dream with you in your dreams (because they are YOUR dreams), but god help you if you try and control me. It just doesn't work. In cooperation, I prefer just to to talk about what is happening. If something is annoying to me, I don't say: "don't do that," I just say: "when you blast music right next to me like that, it makes it really hard for me to read." That way I leave it up to you to if you want to do something about it and how you do something about it. And that doesn't mean I let anyone push me around, I believe supremely in cooperation before warfare. I have endless imagination when it comes to cooperation and put that first in life. The thing is I don't really want a lover who wants to engage me in war. I've been in enough relationships that I know how to never let it reach war if we can work on it together. I'm a good soldier, but I refuse to date someone who keeps seeing me as the enemy.

I'm really easy to deal with and I like people who are too. I have a boatload of goals. I am working nonstop to achieve them, but I'm at the point in life where if someone keeps needing me and leaning on me, I have to run away. This doesn't mean things don't happen and that I won't be there for you, but I move fast and need a lover who can keep up.

I just found out that I'm also an INFJ. I think it's a fairly good generalization of me.
What I’m doing with my life
Being King Richard the Second in the park.

Telling the story of America today.

Telling jokes in the Peanut Gallery.

Making squares uncomfortable every single day.

Walking with my feet on the ground and my nipples erect.

Being a real man.

Being a lady.

Listening to myself sing.

Making computers do what they least expected.

Not taking a bazillion pictures.

Shooting elegant powerful footage that never shall be edited.

Dreaming, dreaming, dreaming, dreaming...
I’m really good at
Finding joy in what I do.

Letting go.

Studying systems (even systems that never stop improving).


Not appraising others. I mean it too. I'm very relativistic. Very slow in judgement. People can't be themselves if they feel any pressure at all. This is very clear when we look at people at work (if you don't believe me, ask me). Although I'm also very strongly opinionated. Isn't that strange?

Expressing my overblown passion.

Growing and becoming better, because I never want to see a day when I say: "oh I'm perfect now, time to stop improving."
The first things people usually notice about me
My long hair.

That there is no one else on this planet anything like me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Leaves of Grass, Hamlet, Poetry of Hart Crane, Angels In America by Tony Kushner, Poetry of Tennyson, Henry the Fourth, The Importance Of Being Earnest, As You Like It, Keats, No Man's Land by Pinter, Arcadia by Tom Stoppard, William Blake's poetry, Paradise Lost, All The Kings Men by Robert Penn Warren, Don Quixote, Franz Kafka, Invisible Cities by Italo Calvino, Homer, Plato, Shelly, Nietzsche, Freud, Paglia, Emerson, Montaigne, Freedom From Command and Control by John Seddon (A modern masterpiece that few know about), Out of the Crises by W. Edwards Deming, The Toyota Production System by Taiichi Ohno. Oh I could go on...but let it be.

Bright star, would I were stedfast as thou art--
Not in lone splendour hung aloft the night
And watching, with eternal lids apart,
Like nature's patient, sleepless Eremite,
The moving waters at their priestlike task
Of pure ablution round earth's human shores,
Or gazing on the new soft-fallen mask
Of snow upon the mountains and the moors--
No--yet still stedfast, still unchangeable,
Pillow'd upon my fair love's ripening breast,
To feel for ever its soft fall and swell,
Awake for ever in a sweet unrest,
Still, still to hear her tender-taken breath,
And so live ever--or else swoon to death.

-John Keats

Bright Star, Ran, Orphée, The Philadelphia Story, Fallen Idol, The Third Man and Ran.

Modern Family, Last Man Standing, Criminal Minds and Rupaul's Drag Race (certainly not for the music).

Chalie Parker, Louis Armstrong, Bud Powell, J. S. Bach, Mozart, Stravinsky, Eliot Carter, Schoenberg, Webern, Beethoven, Arvo Part, and Jimmi Hendrix
The six things I could never do without
Art Making Resources
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The worlds of imagination and the United States of America



Campaign Finance Reform


Powerful Figures of My Imagination

My dreams and desires as King Richard the Second.

People and why they are how they are

Expanding my Being

Different Systems of Organization

The Enslavement of Mankind





How I'm going to be the world's next great opera singer.
On a typical Friday night I am
At a cafe writing, going on a photographic adventure, editing video, rehearsing, playing the piano or guitar, making Margaritas, Singing, Acting, or a million other things.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
If I admitted a private thing it would hardly be private, now would it?
I’m looking for
  • Everybody
  • Ages 18–99
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You believe there is a possibility we could have fun together.

If you spill your drink when you hear people talking about Milton.

If you like to be seen. I will put you up in the limelight in photographs or drawings (regardless of any romantic relationships or gender).

If a painting has made you weep.

If you always want to play make believe, but keep getting funny or bored looks.

If Washington makes you mad.

If you do (or do not) like transgendered lovers. And when I say trans, I mean TRANS. When I'm a man, I'm a man. When I'm a women, I look pretty damn hot (see picture).

If you smell of lavender and rose.

If you know the value of unforgettable name.

If you're always getting in trouble for your integrity.

If you make shallow people mad or bewildered.

If you can handle having feelings with a certifiable artist who gets so involved he forgets to eat, answer the phone or open the door.

If you are not looking for money, because you're looking at the wrong man for that.

If you're also looking for a man who is not looking for money, because money always come with a price to freedom.


I'm not sure if I'm ready to have sex with people right now. The problem is that whenever I have sex with people, we stop being friends. I'm not a prude by any stroke of the imagination, but once the sex is had the relationship changes. I can't promise anything of course, but I'm really just enjoying having lots of friends right now. I only have one friend I know who I can have sex with and nothing changes. I value a good relationship far more than sex.