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44 New York, NY Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 30–60
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating

My details

Last online
Jul 31
5′ 3″ (1.60m)
Body Type
Full figured
Strictly anything
Buddhism, and very serious about it
Pisces, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Doesn’t have kids
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
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Kind-hearted, Buddhist, educated, "cultured," politically left. I love life and all it has to offer. I enjoy the heck out of everything I can, perhaps even more because, as a Buddhist, I also realize that nothing lasts and we can't rely on things outside our hearts to make us happy. I particularly seek and savor art, history, reading, museums, opera, the Brooklyn Botanic Garden, overseas travel, great food, and great sex. Meditation and meditation retreats are important to me. I don't believe in any gods; rather, to me, my religion is about becoming more compassionate and better able to help others.

Seeking someone who lives in NYC, not a long-distance thing. I want someone who is first and foremost kind, gentle, honest, and good-hearted. All ethnicities and body types welcome. I am a kind person, don't like to fight, and when I do encounter conflict, I try to stay calm and talk it out honestly. Honesty is very, very important to me, as well as the ability to identify, understand, and talk about your needs and emotions. If people have taken advantage of your kindness and gentleness in the past, we may be a good match. I have a weakness for shy, sweet, geeky guys, especially programmers. I also seek a person who loves life and at least some of the things I enjoy. It's also ok if you're not a Buddhist. I prefer an atheist or agnostic, but if you are religious we may still be able to work it out.

One thing should be clear. For right now I would like to take it slow, but in the long term, I'm looking for a life partner. I do not want to move super fast into that. I no longer think you can tell right away who would be a good fit. So I would see a reasonable timeline as moving in together in 2 or 3 years. So lots of time dating - and dating multiple people - and getting to know each other. Monogamy....if it happens, would be sometime in the future... I have been in different relationships that were monogamous, completely open, and swinging (adventures together). I am open to discussing any possibilities. But definitely looking to have and be a primary partner.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm a project manager/business analyst in software development. I used to be a teacher in a rough school in Chicago but the school system is such a mess that that became impossible for me to continue. But I had very positive relationships with students and want to resume working with youth in a volunteer capacity. Right now I'm planning to teach meditation in youth detention facilities, but I need more training myself for that.
I’m really good at
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Patience & kindness with at-risk (or insert your preferred euphemism here) youth. Listening to friends & reminding them to be gentle with themselves. Learning languages. Figuring out public transit in places where I don't speak the language. My job.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Biographies and novels set in other places and/or times, so that I can lazily learn about the world by reading stories. Favorite authors include Adhaf Soueif, Shyam Selvadurai, Ngugi wa Thiong'o, Jane Austen, the Brontës, George Eliot, Thomas Hardy, Toni Morrison, Barbara Kingsolver. The last book I read was Middlemarch; before that, a biography of Empress Cixi by Jung Chang. I've paused in reading an account of the travels of ibn Battuta; currently am reading George Eliot's Romola. I also pretty continuously read dharma (Buddhist books).
Movies: Pan's Labyrinth, Lord of the Rings, Serenity, Grosse Pointe Blank, Little Miss Sunshine, Django Unchained, Amadeus, Dangerous Liaisons, and pretty much any movie with explosions, car chases, and/or period costumes. No chick flicks.
Shows: I don't really watch TV. The last time I did, I liked House & Dexter.
Music: I know everyone says too many to list but really. Ok here are my most-often-listened-to Pandora channels, in order of how frequently I listen: early choral music, Contemporary Bollywood, Reggaeton, Baroque, Fauré, Eminem/Dr. Dre, and Khaled/Cheb Mami.
Food: C'mon, really? Lookit me. I love all food.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Hanging out with friends.