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36 Mountain View, CA Genderqueer


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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 26-50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Nov 22
Queer, Homoflexible, Sapiosexual, Pansexual
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
5' 3" (1.60m)
Body Type
Average build
Doesn’t have kids
Has dogs
English (Fluently), C++ (Somewhat), Other
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Hello world. I like mammals, lychees and thick stockings. I have a tan in the summer, monitor burn in the winter, and gorgeously goofy puppies all year round.

As typical of many engineer types, I prefer verbally explicit honest communication, use words as descriptors rather than value judgements, fall into problem-solving mode too easily, and am comfortable with silence.

Do not take a lack of response personally - I go through periods where I don't log in to OKCupid for months, and then I'll be on for days at a time.

I am talented, curious, and intellectual.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I used to travel. Then I got a mortgage and a fixer-upper. I'm sure I'll say that was a great trade-off in 20 years. Until then, I'll be itching for cheaper adventures!

I hang out with ebullient, playful, self-aware people while rock climbing, adventuring, and performing random acts of kindness. I am often found around other geek-types, with sunny smiles and mischevious sparkling eyes who want to change the world for the better.

I have two far-too-cute-for-my-own-good dogs. At home, the older one is often found coaxing inanimate objects to play with him, and the younger one is often found getting into something he shouldn't. They are so Dog. Much lickings. Wow.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
breaking software, fixing systems, eating, gardening (stems from the eating), making bad puns, honing my l33t monkey skillz, entertaining myself, acquiring odd talents, and finding pennies on the street
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm short and traditional-looking. I have long hair and glasses. Empirical testing reveals that people also think I'm personable, calming, confident, reliable, honest, intimidating, knowledgeable, and articulate.
Recently, a coworker I admire introduced me as, "This is $my_real_name. She's awesome!" That made me giggle and made my day.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: I love quiet reading time even though I don't make as much time for it as I would like to.
Movies/TV/Music: Though I am pop culture challenged, I'm starting to love Last Week Tonight.
Foods & Beverages: the yummy kinds with calories. My regular diet is approximately 3/4 veggies & 1/4 protein; my favorite beverage is clean water.
Comics: I have developed a taste for Hyperbole and a Half and xkcd, though I am behind for both.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My social support system
The first few layers of Maslow's hierarchy
Something interesting to learn
Hot showers
Joints that mostly work (Thanks Dr Tanya!)
Peaceful naps in the sun
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Work-related technology (AWS, Python, ruby, how more technical diagrams should include the color pink), home repair/remodeling, how to get more fit without getting The Look from my physical therapist, logical/relational patterns, how to simplify my life, and anything else that catches my fancy. I am more of a generalist than a specialist.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Cleaning with dance music on, remodeling, people or dog wrangling, getting to bed early, heading out on a road trip. But mostly cleaning.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
None of the below are private. They're just a collection of facts I didn't know where else to put.

The scientist in me sees the world not in black and white but in technicolor, full of wondrous discoveries just barely tucked out of sight.
Calculus didn't really make sense until I hit multi-variable calculus, and physics only makes sense if I understand the math behind it.
I am more of a bad-girl-gone-good than a good-girl-gone-bad.
I am scared of heights, rock climb, and have skydived.
I have a pragmatic, logical outside and a squishy, closet-romantic inside.
I often experience synesthesia while reading code, and come with an operating manual. While I love and will always love tech, I work to live, not live to work.
I leave them better than I found them.
I get unreasonably tongue-tied around curvy, confident women, and I'm far more shy than I seem.
I'm about a Kinsey 4.5 and on the homoromantic side, with a bias towards any gender queers.
You should message me if
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You are also a fun-loving kinky queer looking for friends or more, and you have something to say! Altruism, compassion, integrity, humor, and a positive outlook are all welcome :)