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  • Ages 26–46
  • Near me
  • Who are single
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Last online
Jul 2
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Open relationship
My self-summary
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I'm an Ohio transplant who has found his soul's home by the shores of Lake Merritt. I'm a dry, sarcastic, atheist skeptic, but a secret romantic at heart. I'm happily married, and looking for more love in my life.
What I’m doing with my life
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Working at home, trying to find myself outside of it.
I’m really good at
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Crossword puzzles, Jeopardy, conversation, empathy, kissing, advice, acting (Shakespeare is a specialty).
The first things people usually notice about me
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That I am very self-contained. I choose my words and actions carefully.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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WAY too many to mention. But I would highlight Moby Dick, Tolkien, Neal Stephenson, Terry Pratchett, Iain M. Banks, Donald Westlake, Red Mars, and Infinite Jest. I also am interested in non-fiction, particularly history. I've read a lot about 16th-century Europe, and also a lot about recent, non-Western history (Cambodia, Vietnam, China, the Congo).

The Ice Storm, Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon, Gerry, Help!, The Great Muppet Caper, The Princess Bride, Ratatouille, Idiocracy, Brothers of the Head, Star Wars (original trilogy, natch), The Big Lebowski, Pi, The Fountain, Cradle Will Rock (super bonus points for anybody else that likes that one). I also love the Toronto Film Festival; if you've never been, make time for yourself early some September and go, you won't regret it.

My three favorite East Bay restaurants are Boot and Shoe Service, Spice Monkey, and Ahn's Quarter Pound Burger

I'm also into "German-style" board games, i.e., Puerto Rico, Settlers of Catan, Age of Renaissance, Diplomacy.

I'm not that into music these days. I mean, there's music I like, and I can come up with some examples if you want, but it's honestly something I don't think much about. What I DO like is dancing to music, all sexy-like. I'm not a particularly good dancer, but I'm enthusiastic, which as far as I can tell is pretty much all that matters.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My wife
The internet
The Saturday New York Times Crossword
The cool damp embrace of the Bay Area
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Politics, philosophy. The nature of free will in a scientific universe.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
At The Heart and Dagger
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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My first girlfriend turned into the moon.
You should message me if
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you have ever considered doing so. It's worth it!