The last year has involved a number of shifts in relationships. While they revolved around healthy choices and were executed with grace, dignity and mutual respect, I have made a choice to spend some time outside of serious relationships while I spend some time reflecting on and re-exploring my beliefs and approaches to dating, sex and relationships. As such, my emotional availability is somewhat inconsistent right now so I will only be entertaining the most casual of interactions for the time being.
I am interested in meeting people for a variety of reasons. I always approach meeting new people from a place of hopefulness that if nothing else I will be adding a new friend to my life. I am open to a lot of possibilities and never have expectations about how things turn out. It could be just hanging out, meeting for a drink, coffee, dinner, going to a museum, flirting or exploring the possibility of sexual chemistry of a variety of flavors.
I consider myself "responsibly non-monogamous" or polyamorous of the "talk about everything" variety. I find that being more clear rather than less can assist in avoiding the dreaded pitfalls of miscommunication, expectation & assumption. I've been living this way for over 8 years now and find that it fits my life much better.
Being non-monogamous doesn't mean that I am irresponsible or indiscriminate about my emotional or sexual relationships. It means I believe in the possibility to have sex with, connect via bdsm or love more then one person during any given time period in my life. It means that I am open to a variety of possibilities within the parameters of responsible non-monogamy. It does not mean that I feel the need date as many people as I can possibly fit on the calendar. It does not mean that I involve myself with whoever I want without considering how those involvements affect my other partners and partners partners,
Clear, direct, open and honest communication is of the utmost importance to me. If you have trouble identifying what it is you want or need or at least how to figure it out we are probably not going to have much beyond a casual friendship. I am the type of person who makes casual friends easily but only becomes close with those who are willing to open up and be deeply honest with me. Those types of relationships take time but when they happen I am as loyal to them as a person can be.