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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 28–55
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

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Straight, Heteroflexible, Sapiosexual
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Not at all
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Taurus, and it’s fun to think about
Open relationship
Doesn’t want kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)
My self-summary
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Clear, direct, open and honest communication is of the utmost importance to me. I make casual friends easily but only become close and trusting with those who are willing to share in the risks of doing so by being truly, deeply honest. Those types of relationships take time to build but when they happen I cherish them.

I have been responsibly non-monogamous for many years and while I have certainly hit my share of bumps in the road, I feel like I'm quite good at this now. ;-)

I am open to meeting people for a variety of reasons and always try to approach meeting new people with no expectation other than a hope that I may be making a new friend. While I'm very open minded I am really only looking for people who are open to forming some type of actual connection even if ultimately we only end up seeing each other a couple times a month.

I am also open to meeting someone who is interested in the possibility of a longer term committed relationship. Someone who wants to honor the relationships we may already have as much as the one we create together. I'm not in a hurry at all because I believe that consciously building relationships takes time and should be allowed the space to grow naturally. I live alone by choice for now but I look forward to once again cohabitating with a partner.

I am in a relationship with a wonderful woman who is married to a delightful man whom I consider my close friend. I don't expect any of those relationships to end anytime soon and would prefer that that never do. I suppose many people would see me as her secondary because we only see each other a couple times a week although that label has a minimizing feeling to the reality and importance of our relationship.

I've had several successful careers in my life and have recently embarked on what I hope is my last. I'm self motivated and a hard worker who works a lot but knows how to take time for play.
What I’m doing with my life
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Working, playing, appreciating the arts, good food, the outdoors and my friends. Oh yeah, and work, work, work.....
I’m really good at
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Talking, listening, seeing the other point of view, helping others and one or two other things you may want to ask me about in person. :-)
The first things people usually notice about me
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The mischievous glint in my eyes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I don't read enough for pleasure anymore although I've recently jumped on board to the listening to books thing. Am I the only one that's annoyed that they pick readers who don't sound at all like the authors and who overemphasize things?

I like most music but lately tend to lean towards jazz and rock and away from country.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Mexican Food
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Not that it's anywhere near the most private thing I'd be willing to admit but I'm actually 54 years old. I changed it to skew the search profile because even most people who say they don't care about age put an upper end limit in their searches. Feel free to share your opinions with me. I'm taking an official survey.

Otherwise, I don't tend to be very private except for where a few clients and a few family are concerned so you should feel free to ask me whatever you like.

Also, not that you can tell it from this very serious sounding profile but I'm often far less serious, am pretty funny in person and have even been accused of being silly at times.
You should message me if
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You think we may be a good fit for each other and you would like to meet for coffee, a bite or a stroll through an art museum or gallery to see if we might really have a connection.