Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Clear, direct, open and honest communication is of the utmost
importance to me. I make casual friends easily but only become
close and trusting with those who are willing to share in the risks
of doing so by being truly, deeply honest. Those types of
relationships take time to build but when they happen I cherish
I have been responsibly non-monogamous for many years and while I
have certainly hit my share of bumps in the road, I feel like I'm
quite good at this now. ;-)
I am open to meeting people for a variety of reasons and always try
to approach meeting new people with no expectation other than a
hope that I may be making a new friend. While I'm very open minded
I am really only looking for people who are open to forming some
type of actual connection even if ultimately we only end up seeing
each other a couple times a month.
I am also open to meeting someone who is interested in the
possibility of a longer term committed relationship. Someone who
wants to honor the relationships we may already have as much as the
one we create together. I'm not in a hurry at all because I believe
that consciously building relationships takes time and should be
allowed the space to grow naturally. I live alone by choice for now
but I look forward to once again cohabitating with a partner.
I am in a relationship with a wonderful woman who is married to a
delightful man whom I consider my close friend. I don't expect any
of those relationships to end anytime soon and would prefer that
that never do. I suppose many people would see me as her secondary
because we only see each other a couple times a week although that
label has a minimizing feeling to the reality and importance of our
I've had several successful careers in my life and have recently
embarked on what I hope is my last. I'm self motivated and a hard
worker who works a lot but knows how to take time for play.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Working, playing, appreciating the arts, good food, the outdoors
and my friends. Oh yeah, and work, work, work.....
I’m really good at
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Talking, listening, seeing the other point of view, helping others
and one or two other things you may want to ask me about in person.
The first things people usually notice about me
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The mischievous glint in my eyes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I don't read enough for pleasure anymore although I've recently
jumped on board to the listening to books thing. Am I the only one
that's annoyed that they pick readers who don't sound at all like
the authors and who overemphasize things?
I like most music but lately tend to lean towards jazz and rock and
away from country.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Not that it's anywhere near the most private thing I'd be willing
to admit but I'm actually 54 years old. I changed it to skew the
search profile because even most people who say they don't care
about age put an upper end limit in their searches. Feel free to
share your opinions with me. I'm taking an official survey.
Otherwise, I don't tend to be very private except for where a few
clients and a few family are concerned so you should feel free to
ask me whatever you like.
Also, not that you can tell it from this very serious sounding
profile but I'm often far less serious, am pretty funny in person
and have even been accused of being silly at times.
You should message me if
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You think we may be a good fit for each other and you would like to
meet for coffee, a bite or a stroll through an art museum or
gallery to see if we might really have a connection.
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