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41 F Tokyo, Japan

My Details

Last Online
Today – 4:10am
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Not at all
Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
Graduated from masters program
Art / Music / Writing
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
I'm a writer, teacher, model-slash-actor, citizen of the world, and book nerd. I'm into nineteenth-century print culture, books of any kind, performance art, beauty stuff, live music. I'm from San Francisco and moved to Tokyo about a year ago... so I'm looking for new friends to show me around.
What I’m doing with my life
Working, writing (also work), auditions, yoga, more yoga, meditating, planning my next trip, hanging out with friends, trying to decide if I should go back for my PhD, staring out the window...
I’m really good at
conversation, cooking, crocheting, alliteration (apparently). Being a fun date. Not taking small stuff too seriously. Not taking things personally.
The first things people usually notice about me
Good question. Probably my vocabulary if I'm feeling smug.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Authors/Poets: Toni Morrison, Flannery O'Connor, Poe, Carl Sagan,
Walt Whitman

Music: Father John Misty, Ty Segal, Camera Obscura, The Clash, The Black Lips, silly pop music, old New Orleans funk, The Ponys

Movies: Breakfast at Tiffany's, Shawshank, any film by the Coen
Brothers or Christopher Guest. I just saw Her by Spike Jonze-- I love this film and when it comes to relationships... can kind of relate to it (no I'm not going to date my computer).

Food: French, Vietnamese, sushi, tacos, sugar
The six things I could never do without
books, my laptop, coffee, my friends, my passport, a good pen with black ink.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
finishing my unfinished book, the origin of the universe, and my place in it

After work tonight, back at my apartment, I happened to notice a little bird chirping outside my window. A sweet little thing, pudgy, with a white crest and shiny, teal-black head. He was hanging on a wire just waiting for me to greet him. I sat down on my sofa and pried opened the window extra wide, hoping he might burst into an ornamented, melodious tune, and then he and his friends would fly into my parlor and they'd tie ribbons in my hair, as it happened so often in the Disney films of my youth.

But instead he just chirped, but it was a pointed chirp, an exhorting chirp... clearly he was trying to tell me something. Just then my phone told me I received an email from OKC. Was it a sign?

So I asked the feathered oracle: "Say little bird, you think I'll meet someone special anytime soon? A really great guy, who will watch movies with me and get my weird shit and tickle me until I scream?"

Immediately he stopped chirping and peered at me sideways, to get a good, long look. He then hopped off the wire and flew right into the side of my building.
On a typical Friday night I am
at home reading or watching a movie usually. occasionally out to dinner with friends.
I’m looking for
  • Straight guys only
  • Ages 35–50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You're educated, intelligent, healthy, emotionally sophisticated and available, and have your life together. I tend to prefer scruffy, outdoorsy, masculine types. Not really into slick guys, religious-types, married, taken, poly, or maniacal sports fans. If your profile doesn't have photos or questions answered, I have a hard time wanting to respond to you.

If you'd like to message:
* It's really strange when men write direct sexual propositions to me as an ice breaker. I understand the impulse to say crazy stuff to a stranger, but it likely won't make for a good start to anything. Nothing personal, just wanted to mention that.