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45 M Toronto, Ontario, CA

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Last Online
Yesterday – 8:40pm
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Graduated from university
Entertainment / Media
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Has a kid
Has cats

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My self-summary
We are not now that strength which in old days
Moved earth & heaven, that which we are, we are;
One equal temper of heroic hearts,
Made weak by time & fate, but strong in will
To strive, to seek, to find, & not to yield.

Having a strong open marriage, we have trouble understanding why most other folks like to overcomplicate things so. We're madly in love. We just don't see why that should get in the way of our sex life. We've been poly (in a longterm, ethical nonmonogamous relationship) since 1999. She had a profile here, on OKC, too, but pulled it down when men were being jerks to her, online. Sometimes, I really hate my half of the race.

I love creating & am a boardgame developer, with a few prototypes on the go. When it comes to creating theatre, I enjoyed both acting & set design. I'm really looking forward to returning to both, after a while away, in the coming year.

I have a music degree, compose as much as possible, & have had regular paying singing gigs. I'm the bassest of the bass & my deep voice gets me the occasional radio & animated film voiceover, too. There are a few larger composing projects which are jumping up & down in my subconscious, vying for attention, so I'm happily tackling those. I also enjoy playing piano & am finally teaching myself to play guitar & ukulele. Over the years, I've briefly taken lessons on all instruments of the orchestra, as well as carillon, & I used to do African drumming & dance.

I really like to cook, especially desserts, & like to take my time when cooking. I also like to improvise in the kitchen - even on my first time through a new recipe. Bad habit, I suppose, but it usually works out well.

I've been accused of being openminded, intelligent, & creative, & I have a tendency to see a world in a grain of sand. Let's live each moment to its fullest and not let those golden moments pass us by.

OkCupid: Now in Latin!
Carpe diem. Tempus fugit ergo is est tempus lusum.
What I’m doing with my life
Living outside of the box.
I’m really good at
And Scrabble. I can probably kick your ass at Scrabble. (Humbly, though, of course.)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
The Annotated Alice (Alice in Wonderland & Through the Looking Glass)
The Heaven Tree Trilogy (by Edith Pargeter)
The Lord of the Rings
The Albatross Book of Living Verse (an old collection of older poetry)
Mythology (by Edith Hamilton)
An Artist of the Floating World (by Katzuo Ishiguro)
Gormenghast trilogy (Titus Groan, Gormenghast, & Titus Alone) (by Mervyn Peake)
1984 (by George Orwell)
Terry Pratchett
Neil Gaiman (especially his short story collection, Smoke & Mirrors)
Kurt Vonnegut
The Amazing Adventures of Kavalier & Clay (by Michael Chabon)
The Tao of Pooh
IKEA catalogue

Errol Flynn's The Adventures of Robin Hood
Time Bandits
Local Hero
Forbidden Planet
The Life of Brian
Spirited Away (I just love the idea of a radish god)
Lawrence of Arabia
The Day the Earth Stood Still (the original)
The Man in the White Suit

Classical, Jazz (especially 1920s, 1930s, & Big Band Era (ideally, on scratchy records (mono in both ears))), Musicals, Opera (yes, the plural), Gilbert & Sullivan, Kate Bush, Sting, David Bowie, J.S. Bach (The Great Great Grandfather of Jazz), Mendelssohn, Miles Davis (especially Kind of Blue), Mozart, Britten, Janacek, Steve Reich's 'Drumming', Stravinsky, Shostakovich

I could be happy eating nothing but Indian food, but also love Japanese and Italian. Just recently, I discovered Grimbergen Dubbel. It's this amazing beer, originally from a Belgian abbey which has a history of brewing going back to 1128. Have you ever tried it? You should. It's amazing. Spicy!
The six things I could never do without
music, challenges, insight, the night sky, creative outlets, really good sex
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Point-of-view, asymmetry, negative space, resonance, antique futurism, harmony, sex, cosmology, fonts, patterns, what science doesn't know, anomalies, obscure references, polyhedra, polyrhythms, polyamory - now why am I craving a cracker, all of a sudden? Excuse me for a moment. I'm just popping into the kitchen. Be right back...
On a typical Friday night I am
atypical. So atypical.

I've heard the Aurora Borealis sing and run naked from a Finnish smoke sauna straight into an icy pond two degrees from the Arctic Circle - both on the same amazing night. Pity that this isn't my hypothetical "Typical Friday Night", of which OKC seems to be so fond, though. Now, how to get back to Finland...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I now know how many holes it takes to fill the Albert Hall. Oh, and I have a FetLife profile as DarkCyrano, too.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 26–54
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
You now know how many holes it takes to fill the Albert Hall.