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D4Real4U

47 M Philadelphia, PA

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 29–55
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 3:41am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
Black
Height
6′ 4″ (1.93m)
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Mostly kosher
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Judaism, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Aries, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Working on university
Job
Technology
Income
Less than $20,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Has a kid, but doesn’t want more
Pets
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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I'm a single sexy black man looking for a single sexy black woman!

Recently uploaded more FULL BODY pictures from Nov. 2012 and some close up face shots from Dec 2013.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
PLEASE READ MY PROFILE BEFORE YOU CONTACT ME SO THAT WE ARE ALL ON THE SAME PAGE. THANKS ;-)

For the past year I’ve been dealing with the ups and downs of life as we all do and happily I’m currently “on the mend” as they say. Things are stable and progressing nicely. In March of 2013, through no fault of my own, I became homeless (evicted from my very nice apartment in University City on Haverford Ave. I also had my car towed away). Obviously the details of those unfortunate and life altering events are not relevant, only the fact that they have happened. If we have chemistry and connect I can share those details with you if you are curious. I currently reside in a very nice transitional housing facility in the Germantown section of Philadelphia. It is called the DePaul House (I have a large very nice private room. It’s like living in a hotel). The DePaul House is off of Chelten Ave., near the Frances D. Pastoriu charter school (I may have misspelled the last name of the school). The DePaul House is not far from the intersection of Chelten and Chew. DePaul House used to be living quarters for Catholic priests (the building is huge; high ceilings and beautiful hardwood floors).

Residents of the DePaul House are allowed visitors on the first level / ground floor BUT not in their rooms.
Curfew is 12:00 p.m. (midnight) Sun-Thurs. and 1:00 a.m. Fri. and Sat. I am also allowed overnight privileges (if you comply with all rules, pay your fees and savings and do your chores you get overnight privileges). So I can stay out overnight. I just have to let the staff know a day in advance what day I would like to stay out overnight.

For the record I am not embarrassed by my CURRENT SHORT TERM SITUATION so you shouldn’t be either. I am old enough and wise enough to understand that bad things can and do happen to good people and I actually feel blessed that my situation is as good as it is. There are many individuals who are literally living on the streets and there are even some individuals living in substandard, dilapidated, homeless shelters, and in squalid private and public housing that is overrun with rats, roaches and other vermin! I thank GOD that I do not live under conditions such as those.

I do FULLY realize and understand that someone in my situation, who doesn’t have his own place OR a car may not be the LEAST BIT ATTRACTIVE to you. It is very likely that you may have already stopped reading. That is certainly your prerogative and it’s OK. I’m not mad atcha, really I’m not. I understand. BUT to my surprise I have come to realize that there are actually some women who are willing to look beyond the material. Maybe you are one of them, in which case you may still be reading. Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE nice things and Lord knows I certainly do enjoy the finer things in life as well. I have enjoyed the good life before so I know what it’s like, and I will enjoy it again. But the type of woman I’m interested in is going to look beyond the window dressing; the material trappings of success, if you will. The kind of woman I’m looking for will look a little deeper for things like character, morals, class, integrity, ambition, work ethic, potential, warmth, affection, sensuality, passion, honesty, loyalty etc. Hell anybody can BUY and OWN THINGS! All it takes is money! Both kind, considerate, personable, classy and mean, nasty, selfish, rude individuals can have lots of money, own big houses and nice cars. But what is more important than the acquisition and owning of THINGS is how another human being makes you feel when you are with them. In this case, how a man makes you feel when you are with him. Does he make you feel warm all over when you’re around them? Do you light up when you see his face or hear his voice? Does he make you laugh? Does he make you smile? Does he make you feel SPECIAL, like you’re the FINEST AND SEXIEST SISTA ON EARTH? Does he ONLY HAVE EYES FOR YOU? Does being with him give you a sense of security, fulfillment, peace, serenity and happiness? I could go on and on but I think you get my drift. THINGS can never have that effect on you (and if they do DON’T SWEAT IT WE ARE DEFINITELY NOT A MATCH!). Only that special someone in your life can have that sort of effect on you. Of course I’m not telling you anything that you don’t already know, I’m just reinforcing what you’ve known for most of your adult life, that is of course, IF you are the type of woman I am interested in. 

I’m currently in school pursuing my B.S. degree in Network Engineering. I’m a full time student at Community College of Philadelphia on Spring Garden. I’m in their articulated program that allows you to obtain your associates degree with them and then transfer to a 4 year college to complete 2 more years and obtain your Bachelor’s degree. I am on the Dean’s List. I also earn a few dollars working 2 PT jobs (..*just started 2nd job 3-31-14. It is grind but a brotha does what he has to do. I have Sat and Sun off). I am currently studying to take two computer certifications before June; Comptia A+ and Comptia Network+. I expect to be in my own place no later than the end of the summer hopefully before that. I am completely self-sufficient, obviously sans the customary expenses of my own living quarters at the moment. So I don’t want your money and I don’t want to move in with you. I just want your companionship, your laughter, your smile, your warmth, your affection and your passion.

Although I’m not rolling in dough I can afford to occasionally dine out at any of the popular inexpensive eateries frequented by most working people (AppleBee’s, Golden Coral, Boston Market, etc.), a movie every now and then, a dance or any other inexpensive event, affair or activity. There are also many activities in and around Philly that are free or they cost next to nothing (the Philadelphia Art Museum has a penny day every month as I recall). And there are other activities couples can take part in,.walk-a-thons, running events, church outings, etc.). As I see it the most important thing is spending quality time with a friend, companion or significant other doing things that you both enjoy and enjoy doing together as a couple ( that could very well include, playing board games, playing cards, working out together at the gym, walks in the park, watching TV or DVDs, preparing home cooked meals together [I would be more than happy to contribute to the purchasing and preparation of shared meals ] ).

And I should make something else clear, I am not trying to sweet talk you into hooking up with a man who sees nobility in POVERTY. That type of man is a loser (at least from my point of view). I’m not running that kind of game. I intend to acquire what I have lost regardless of WHO I AM WITH. Alone or in a relationship, self-sufficiency, affluence and prosperity is my objective. It is not optional. It is mandatory. That is about living up to my GOD given potential and my family name; that is for my OWN satisfaction. I’m just here to ask if you might be interested in taking that journey with me.

I am revealing the aforementioned RELEVANT facts about myself because I have always been of the mindset that it is critically important to be upfront and truthful with any prospective companion regarding IMPORTANT and RELEVANT facts about yourself (housing situation: live alone, with someone, *shelter/transitional housing, diseases/STDs, drug use, are you wanted by the law, etc), so that individual can make an informed decision when deciding if they are interested in contacting you, responding to you or meeting you based on the information that you provide.

If we decide to meet of course a meet and greet in a public place will be appropriate for your sense of security and safety as well as mine. You need to feel safe and secure with me and I need to feel safe and secure with you. We also need to actually see one another FACE TO FACE so that we can decide if we are actually physically attracted to one another. Let’s just say that profile pics sometimes, INTENTIONALLY OR UNINTENTIONALLY LIE or don’t accurately portray or represent all your FLAWS and ASSETS. So we need to see each other IN DA FLESH to decide if there will be any follow up dates! CHEMISTRY IS ESSENTIAL! DON’T YOU AGREE? ;-). For the record, I am a 6’4”, about 200 lbs., slim, light skinned African American man. I have long wavy hair and I’m sure that you can tell by now that I am a literate and articulate man. Word has it that I’m easy on the eyes but of course you will have to decide for yourself. “Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.” as they say. I look like my profile pics and I actually look even better in person. LOL!

Well, there you have it. my long winded “War & Peace” introduction. Hopefully you got as much out of reading it as I got out of writing it ( I felt it was necessary given my current situation. You deserve nothing less than the truth. I want to “keep it real” or “wun hunnit!” meaning, 100%, as the saying goes. LOL!).

If there is ANYTHING ELSE that you would like to know don’t hesitate to ask. In closing I invite you to contact me whenever you feel so inclined. Evenings and weekends are best but you can call me anytime. If I am unable to answer (because I’m at work or in class), I will return your call promptly – promise. Just leave a message (text or voice mail). My number is 267-973-2551. My e-mail is dhagricola06@yahoo.com of course you can send your reply here too. If I don’t hear from you I’ll know you’re not interested. But if you are interested you can tell me more about yourself and if your profile doesn’t include YOUR REAL NAME please include that (yup, it’s your turn now). I look forward to hearing from you.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Working with computers (troubleshooting, fixing, setting them up/configuring them, instructing/teach how to use, network support etc.)
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
People notice my long hair.

Word of mouth is that I'm not too hard on the eyes (..but you will have be the judge of that.) "Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder" as they say.

I've also heard that I look like an older Eric Bene, Lionel Ritchie, and Will Smith (for the record,..I DISAGREE WITH ALL 3!) LOL!

I've been told that I have a kind face?? I've been told that I look very serious sometimes. Hey,...I really don't know! :-)
You see my posted pics. You tell me! :-)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I'm a Networking and Communications Management major so I'm reading lots of books on networking devices (switches, routers, wireless communications , wireless access points etc.).

I'm a movie buff and I absolutely LOVE movies! Old movies, current movies, just about every genre (Sci Fi, Horror, Comedy, Action, Romance, Documentary, etc.). Love the Tyler Perry movies! Love the Bourne Identity franchise with Matt Damon!! Love Horror! (30 Days of Night, Francis Ford Copolla's Dracula, Interview with a Vampire, etc.). Love Lord of the Rings!, Aliens, Preditor, Spike Lee movies, all the super hero movies, (Iron Man, Hulk, Thor, Bat Man, X-Men, Fantastic Four, Spider Man! etc.).

My favorite actors are Robert De Niro!, Al Pacino! Will Smith, Morgan Freeman! Denzel! Tom Cruise! Samuel L! Matt Damon!!, Laurence Fishburne! Meryl Streep! Marlon Brando! James Cagney! Spencer Tracey! Robin Williams, Lew Ayres! Johnny Depp! Eddie Murphy! (the Kind of Comedy!), Chris Tucker! (Fuuuuny!!), Martin Lawrence!, Dave Chappelle, Chris Rock! Jim Carrey (FUUUUUNY!!!). There are so many I haven't named, but suffice it to say, I really appreciate the cinema and all of its stars! :-)

I absolutely LOVE MUSIC!! Couldn't live without it! I used to DJ back in the day (I'd like to do that again soon). LOVE OLD SCHOOL R n B (Earth Wind & Fire, Teddy P, Luther, Kool n The Gang, The Temptations, Marvin, Michael Jackson, The Jackson 5, War, D-Train, Gladys Knight & the Pips, The Whispers, Howard Hewit, on and on!....), LOVE HOUSE MUSIC (All of you ol' school party people know bout HOUSE MUSIC!), LOVE ALL OF THE OL SCHOOL DISCO CLASSICS! (Your the one for me, In the bush, Hott Shot!, I Don't Know if Its Right, I got my mind made up!, Bite ya Granny! Atomic Dog! WOW!! JUST SO MANY! I couldn't begin to name them all!! but you know what I'm talkin about!)

My favorite shows, and I only have a select few, are:
Single Ladies (I really like this. I'm hooked)
Basketball Wives (I actually don't like this show. Its a guilty pleasure, like rubber necking to see an accident on the highway).
I enjoy American Gangster, Biography, Notorious and a few others.

I love good food, period (so if a sista knows how to cook that is definitely A BIG PLUS!). :-)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
GOD
LOVE, TRUE FRIENDS & A GOOD WOMAN (They all go together)
GOOD FOOD
GREAT MUSIC
GREAT MOVIES
GREAT SEX
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I think about a lot of things. Contact me and maybe we can discuss them. :-)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Currently, I'm typically home.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Nothing! Most sane people will all answer this in the same fashion.
IF ITS PRIVATE WHY IN THE WORLD WOULD YOU REVEAL IT TO THE WHOLE WORLD ON THE INTERNET?!!! DUUUUUUUUUUH!!??

If I reveal anything private to you we will definitely have some SERIOUS CHEMISTRY GOIN' ON and we will definitely be in a long term, committed, monogamous relationship. Why don't we just see if we can get to our first phone call before we start baring our souls to one another! LOL! ;-)
You should message me if
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....you have checked out my pics, read my profile and decided that we may have enough in common to warrant some conversation and maybe more.