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DCdilettante

39 M Washington, DC

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 32–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 8:20pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
A little extra
Diet
Mostly vegan
Smokes
No
Drinks
Often
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Working on masters program
Job
Education
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
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"I am expressing multiple attitudes simultaneously. To which are you referring?" I think of myself as bohemian in my values, though I am rather conventional in lifestyle. I try to be intellectually avant-garde, but I am personally fairly reserved. I take ideas seriously, but can't resist a certain puckishness. Politically I am unable to wholly reconcile the left-liberal and the reactionary in me. Underneath the carapace of logic is a cauldron of romanticism and awe. I am cynical, but sentimental.

One of my overriding characteristics is my intellectual bent. I am very analytic, scientific, bookish. I have strong Buddhist sympathies. I am philosophically pessimist and a postmodernism sympathizer. Too much agreement and congratulations of one another for our sensible opinions brings out the contrarian in me. Excessive displays of hoity-toityness stoke my proletariat sensibilities. A visit to Georgetown rarely fails to inspire fantasies of the Place de la Révolution.

I grew up out in the toolies in the Pacific Northwest, spent my childhood fantasizing about Seattle in the distance and am now an inveterate urbanite.

Some mechanical issues: I don't play games (computer, board, with your head or heart), I'm not very interested in spectator sports (though I am familiar with the rules and strategies of most U.S. sports and do enjoy a live event on occasion). I am not a morning person. I am not a Purell freak.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm living my life on schedule to complete in 250 years all the things that most people do in a normal 78.

I presently divide my time between being a Wikipedian-in-Residence at an area GLAM institution (Galleries, Libraries, Archives, Museums) and being responsible for membership at an advocacy association for the rights of the disabled.

I have lived in D.C. for eleven years. I go to a lot of D.C. events (Politics & Prose, The Woodrow Wilson Center, The New America Foundation, CATO, etc.).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
- The well-hewn turn of phrase.
- Explaining things.
- I would like to think that I'm good at improvising in the kitchen, but that's probably overstating it; I'm probably more of a just competent putterer.
- I have an uncanny knack with young children. A kid will often pick me out of a crowd as the adult with potential for kid-fun. I put a lot of effort into proving their assessments right.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My laugh, which people tell me they wish they could bottle, or my hair which is very Cosmo Kramer / Lyle Lovett / Eraserhead (maybe more Mentat Piter De Vries / Sideshow Bob on bad days).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Ah, yes, information age commodity fetishism: we define ourselves through our media consumption acts.

Books
I'm primarily a non-fiction reader, concentrating on history, economics, politics, philosophy, biographies and popular cosmology, physics and evolutionary biology.

The books that have influenced me most are Fernand Braudel's Civilization and Capitalism, Thomas S. Kuhn's The Structure of Scientific Revolutions, Ludwig Wittgenstein's Philosophical Investigations, Nietzsche's The Gay Science, Hermann Hesse's Narcissus and Goldmund. The magical realism and linguistic playfulness of Tom Robbins's Skinny Legs and All really affected me stylistically as a late teen.

Fiction:
I'm not a big fiction reader, but I have loved Jeanette Winterson's Written on the Body, David Foster Wallace's Infinite Jest, George Orwell's Down and Out in Paris and London, Henry Miller's Tropic of Cancer, Sylvia Plath's The Bell Jar, Haruki Murakami's A Wild Sheep Chase, Neil Stephenson's Snow Crash, Margaret Atwood's Oryx and Crake, Graham Greene's The Quiet American. I guess I should be on record as saying I hate David Sedaris.

Film:
Unusual comedies (The Zero Effect, The Big Lebowski), everything Joel and Ethan Coen do, sensuous dramas (The English Patient, Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon), Paul Verhoeven-style camp (RoboCop, Starship Troopers, Basic Instinct), all the usual geeky, referenceable stuff (Star Wars, Princess Bride, Beetlejuice, brat pack, early John Cusack).

Television:
I'm not a big television watcher. Occasionally I will binge-watch a series, but I usually have trouble finishing it. I love The Daily Show, All In with Chris Hayes, The Rachel Maddow Show. I try to catch whatever stand-up special Comedy Central is airing.

Music:
Beirut, Tom Waits, The Black Keys, Will Oldham, Muse, Arcade Fire, The Decemberists. When I was an angsty twenty-something I listened to a lot of industrial, so Ministry, NIN, KMFDM, Helmet, Tool, etc., as well as the arty stuff like Prince, David Bowie, P.J. Harvey, Nick Cave. Also, I'm from the Northwest, so ... you know. For study time I listen to classical music and prefer intricacy (Bach, Chopin) or postmodern composers such as Shostakovich and Philip Glass.

Food:
I love cooking. My tastes are mostly savory-spicy. I love capers, olives, mustard, balsamic vinegar, mesclun, garlic, local tomatoes, lime juice, fresh herbs, black pepper, curry, whether Indian or Thai. I'm always in search of good bagels and baguettes (I'm rarely satisfied on these counts in D.C.).

Food Caveat:
I have been a vegetarian for 22 years. Though not purist about it, I don't eat eggs or dairy either. If you ask me to in private, I will get really moral about it, but I'm not interested in shaming anyone or evangelizing.

Booze:
I'm an enthusiast of D.C.'s craft cocktail revival, so I love Room 11, the Tabard Inn, Bourbon, The Gibson. My spirits of choice are whiskey and gin. I'm nuts for ancient European amari such as Campari, Cynar and Fernet. I also love dive bars, but there is almost no such thing in the D.C. area.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Though I'm really the kind of person who can do without almost everything, I'll bite:

- mortar and pestle
- books
- coffee
- a very particular, fine, black, ball-point pen
- rye whiskey
- my mobile device *hangs head*
- the city
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The highfalutin': cybernetics (ecology, economics, net-centric warfare), evolution, Hegel, nineteenth century international political economy (my Masters thesis), nuclear weapons, information theory and the noösphere, technology, the quantified self, object-oriented ontology, actor-network theory, rhizomes vs. trees, the urban landscape, big data, digital humanities, the nature of power, the origin of the First World War, sub-state actors in the First World War (T.E. Lawrence, the Black Hand, V.I. Lenin), science, cosmology

The picayune: I spend too much time mulling the past and worrying about a future out of my control ("All his life has he looked away... to the future, to the horizon. Never his mind on where he was. Hmm? What he was doing. Hmph. Adventure. Heh. Excitement. Heh. A Jedi craves not these things"). Crafting my next post to twitter.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
The best bartenders at a place usually work Tuesday or Wednesday nights when they have the time to really ply their craft. I like to show up early when it's quiet and slow and they are still setting up their stations and have time to share the oral history of their trade or use me as a test subject for a few non-crowd-pleaser drinks. In the animal pandemonium that is D.C., I prefer to sit out Fridays and Saturdays.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I secretly love Brendan Fraser.
You should message me if
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You are an omnivorous intellectual, someone bookish, unusually logical-sequential, a conversationalist with a devious sense of humor ("We talked fencingly" is my favorite line from Anaïs Nin's Henry and June). But you're not a brain in a jar; you have a body and are taken by the sense too.

You feel like a misfit in D.C.'s type-A culture. You're an alt-culture sympathizer, but maybe a little square yourself. You have a taste for the down-and-out.

You are affectionate and have a silly side.